Ask Me Help Desk - I Got Her Back

It'll be tough... it's supposed to be.

We're all pulling for you to get what you want... which is sanity hope. Peace of mind. Dust yourself off and let's get through this.

I may have missed something here , but if she isn't going to this play anymore what signifigance does Saturday night have anymore??

I guess it is going to be hard/ major accomplishment sitting through a play sitting next to Joe and Harry knowing SHE isn't going to be there.
=suffering/enduring

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she said her mom would refund the ticket to the play and I said I'd go anyway.

It looks to me like she is still going. Her mom wanted to give the money back to him so he didn't have to go. He is going anyway... at least that's what it looks like to me.

Oh okay then he has to suffer by containing his self.

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Originally Posted by jmw0713

It looks to me like she is still going. Her mom wanted to give the money back to him so he didn't have to go. He is going anyway...at least that's what it looks like to me.

Thanks JMW , I'm still confused :confused:

I hope "reckless" comes back and clarifies.

Me too. I could be interpreting this wrong... I looked back through the posts and this was the only reference to who would be attending this play that I could find. Unless I missed something.:confused:

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Originally Posted by reckless

i said i was going to quit until saturday but she called me.

i'll make this simple. she said her mom would refund the ticket to the play and i said i'd go anyways. .

I think jm is right. I took it to mean her mom would sell his gf's ticket and he said he would go even if she wasn't. But I think it does seem to mean her mom offered to give him his money back so he doesn't have to go and he said no he would go anyway.

no. you guys need to stop. Her mom offerred to refund my ticket if I didn't want to go. She's still going and I'm still going. Stop the wild speculation.

Another thing. I was chilling with the bros today when I realized something. This girl is really wrong for me. She makes me feel terrible and if she really loved me she wouldn't be doing this crap. She says she does love me, but it's not like I can really believe her anymore. She says she hasn't made her final decision on breaking up with me again, but it's obvious that she has.

The first time she broke up with me and got back together with me she begged me to trust her. She begged me to believe her when she said that she loved me.

Now if she asks me to get back with her again, I'm going to say these words. "I can't see myself getting back with you. You've done this once before and I don't know if I can trust you a second time. Goodbye."

You're all right. I'm giving up on her. Applaud. I'll tell you what happens. Hopefully nothing happens and this can just fade into my past.

It isn't wild speculations I just read it wrong we got it figured now your both going

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another thing. I was chilling with the bros today when I realized something. This girl is really wrong for me. She makes me feel terrible and if she really loved me she wouldn't be doing this crap. She says she does love me, but it's not like I can really believe her anymore. She says she hasn't made her final decision on breaking up with me again, but it's obvious that she has.

First of all, good that you woke up. :) Second, she might be confuse and lost and she wants to like what they say hang on to you till something else happen. I believe you do get what I mean. Lol. The earlier you start NC, the better. Everyday counts.

She called me tonight around midnight.

Her: "be there at 12."
Me: "wow, ok. why?"
Her: "I really don't want to miss this. We'll leave without you." (she said it in a mean way.)
Me: "ok, wow. I'll be there. you're being a real jerk."

Her voice raised and she started saying something. I hung up.

She really is evil.

Well gee dontcha think that that last conversation you had where you sang and this one where you hung up just might make her a tad bit hostile (evil)
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At this point I really don't care. I'm just stating what happened. You can all know the results when they come around. I don't need justifications for her actions.

There was this wall I hit. Then I climbed it. Now I can see for miles and miles.

Good it is good to see for miles and miles

Today was the day of the play. I acted cool. We laughed and joked etc. she smiled and held my hand throughout the entire play. Her hand left mine to clap sometimes, but it would go right back into mine.

After the play we held each other. She kissed me three times on the mouth. Her friend was there and said, "hey! i thought you guys were going to try to be friends!" I felt like that was the appropriate opening. I asked her to be my girlfriend again.

She said no. I asked why. She said because her parents were forbidding her from seeing me. I asked why again. She said because I stole from walmart, got caught, and blamed her for it. I told her that I wasn't blaming her for my actions, my friend was. That's the truth. It was my friend's idea to steal from walmart in the first place.

I asked her why she told her mom about it. She said because she goes to her mom for advice. I told her I was going to have to talk to her mom about this. She told me not to.

Her mom pulled up, I opened the door.
Her mom: "Do you need a ride?"
Me: "No. What's up with this whole you forbidding me from seeing Danielle again thing?"
Her mom: "Now is not the time to talk about that."
Me: "okay, then call me later."
Her mom: "okay, but not today. we're busy."
Me: "that's fine."

Now I have to figure out what to tell her mom to convince her to allow her daughter to go out with me. I'm the guy that made her daughter cry, stole from walmart, and looks like an a**hole.

Advice besides give up on her would be nice. Specifically what to say to her mom when I look like the guy who's just going to hurt her daughter again.

All you can do is be as honest as you can about your mistakes and how you are seeking to learn how to better yourself. That you learned your lessons about ____________, ___________, and whatever else.

For some reason I doubt her mom will call back. The ex herself will probably initiate the conversation.

New plan is to NC until she calls, then agree with breakup saying something like, "you're right, the relationship wasn't working. we both need some time to mature and find out what we want. maybe we can get back somewhere else down the line, but not now."

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Originally Posted by reckless

new plan is to NC

This is what we've been telling you for the last 2 weeks :rolleyes:

Friend, I don't agree with this at all. All he is doing is playing games, he's trying to use NC as a weapon to get her back, which isn't working. Maybe when he finally gets his balls back he will realize what a fool he is being.