I feel like, now that she gotten an ego boost, attracted a strange shag, and figured out a way to dump me, she feels like she can really now keep her eyes on the prize with confidence...

Dude.. you're going down my path.. you are so worried about what is going on with her... just like me right now.. I know its hard.. but we need to focus on other things...

Guys, in a few months you will not care at all about your ex, trust me. Just take our word for it, this will get better.

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dude.. you're going down my path.. you are so worried about what is going on with her... just like me right now.. i know its hard.. but we need to focus on other things...

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YES!! I'm so glad that you are starting to see what needs to be done. You need to worry about yourself. Trust me I know how hard it is when your hurting so bad. And it will take time. But you got to do this for yourself.

And thanks, I am going to. Right now Im devastated. The good thing at least is that Im starting to get pissed. A feeling I couldn't muster up before.

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I am blown away of how evil, and calculating she is. knew exactly how to do it. she wants to be on top, get to L.A. and was frustrated that wasnt happening. She finally figured out a way to do it, get rid of me, and plan an escape rout in the process. how perfect...

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I never and I mean never am amazed at how women evil are anymore. That's not a anti-woman thing, but I was always raised to be sensitive to them and their feelings, when the reality is much different.

I know you are hurting but I see a lot of talk about her. You know what I'd like you to do. Write something on this website that you want to do today for you. Doesn't have to be big, cleaning the house, cooking something for dinner, going for a walk... what ever you want to do for you. Then after you told us want to do for yourself today, I want you to go do it.

I was raised the same way, to treat others with respect. That's why it was so easy for to feed off that and use me. I hope that I don't become so damaged & jaded that I can't give to anyone, like the way she is...

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I was raised the same way, to treat others with respect. Thats why it was so easy for to feed off of that and use me. I hope that I dont become so damaged & jaded that i can't give to anyone, like the way she is...

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The pain your in is how she always felt and always will. Take comfort in that.

Well, chuff at this moment I am throwing all her stuff away, and the wardrobe I bought her cause she always complained how she never felt at home here. I will try to offer up some positive posts...

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Well, chuff at this moment i am throwing all her stuff away, and the wardrobe i bought her cause she always complained how she never felt at home here. i will try to offer up some positive posts...

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Well this is a start and I encourage it, it is still related to her. What I want to know is, what is Vanheart going to do for Vanheart it is exclusive to him. What are you going to give yourself today?

I will try & figure that out. Right now Im reading up a bit on narcissism and starting realize its totally the disorder & in a way, that's helping. Yesterday, I took a walk on the beach, & got my tennis racquets restrung.
I had a bit of a setback today, but I will try. Have a couple projects going, but have been too paralyzed to work. I'm going to force myself to do that.

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i took a walk on the beach, & got my tennis racquets restrung.

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There you go. That was the sort of thing I was looking for.

Don't stop posting here, get everything you got out, but at the same time don't lose focus on the fact that you are the one we want to see get better here. When you feel alone you can know you are not. But you also need to start building a foundation that is based on you. I'm not asking you to change your life, just do something small for you. At the end of the day this is not her journey to a better place it's yours. I don't want you to forget it or lose sight of it.

I know that & thanks. I'm sure I will be continuing to post in the days/weeks to come.

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I know that & thanks. im sure i will be continuing to post in the days/weeks to come.

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I came here 3 years ago over something so stupid with a girl and I've been here ever since. AMHD.com has out lasted 2 girlfriends and a few dates with girls here and there. It's both an addiction and a strength builder in one.

I realize that. & am grateful for finding this. Im sure there will more to come & its really been a savior so far. Not sure what I would have done.

Yep, your life is looking better all ready. You gained me!!

And me


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Same here.

Van, why did you forget Rome. You know how sensitive he gets.