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  • Jun 20, 2008, 06:30 AM
    f104
    Hi starlite I hope your doing well. When was the last time you had contact with him? I would not contact him too often. Let him think a little. Give him a chance to respond I guess.

    I too maybe meeting my ex next week. I plan on being up front with her and telling her what I feel and would like out of a relationship with her. If she is not receptive then I will probably cut ties with her totally. I don't want to waste time pursuing a lost cause. I am trying not to contact my ex again until Tuesday/Wednesday. I do not want to seem needy or desperate. Also when I contact I ensure that the conversation is primarily about her and not me. Although I make sure to tell her about the positive things I am doing.
  • Jun 20, 2008, 06:35 AM
    starlite1
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by f104
    Hi starlite I hope your doing well. When was the last time you had contact with him? I would not contact him too often. Let him think a little. Give him a chance to respond I guess.

    I too maybe meeting my ex next week. I plan on being up front with her and telling her what I feel and would like out of a relationship with her. If she is not receptive then I will probably cut ties with her totally. I don't want to waste time pursuing a lost cause. I am trying not to contact my ex again until Tuesday/Wednesday. I do not want to seem needy or desperate. Also when I contact I ensure that the conversation is primarily about her and not me. Although I make sure to tell her about the positive things I am doing.

    Hi F104,

    That is so great! Let her know how you feel, and that you would like to work things out. If there is anything that you are concerned with, of course, that needs to be descussed as well. You want to get everything out in the open, and then if she is receptive to getting back together, GO FOR IT! Good luck, and keep us posted :)

    I spoke to him last week (a little over a full week ago). Do you think it's too soon to contact him? I did book my flight for July to go to the concert, and I told him that last week, so we are on for the concert. But, I haven't heard from him since that.
  • Jun 20, 2008, 06:44 AM
    f104
    I would contact him since it has been over a week. But I think I would be more inclined to call him if I were you. Texting is fine but due to the length of time I would call him. Have you thought about asking him to call you every now and then? It seems that would be fair.

    Oh yes I am totally laying it all out on the table when I see her.
  • Jun 20, 2008, 06:54 AM
    starlite1
    Thanks F104,

    Actually when we left off last week, after we said 'I love you' we said 'talk to you later'. That next day I got a text from him telling me that he may want to go back to his old company, and that he was first on the list of going back there. I texed back saying 'Good For you, that is excellent' and that was the last communication. So you feel a call is better than a text for me to give at this point?
  • Jun 20, 2008, 11:48 AM
    f104
    Star I would. I do not see why that would be extravagant. If anything you are only reinforcing your earlier text. Could always show interest about how and why he has this new opportunity. Normal stroke the ego thing.
  • Jun 20, 2008, 12:12 PM
    starlite1
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    Originally Posted by f104
    Star I would. I do not see why that would be extravagant. If anything you are only reinforcing your earlier text. Could always show interest about how and why he has this new opportunity. Normal stroke the ego thing.

    Thanks F104,

    That makes sense! I appreciate your advice!
  • Jun 23, 2008, 08:00 AM
    starlite1
    Hi Guys,

    I sent him a text last night (I was going to call, but decided to text instead). I just kept it light and said 'Just saying hi and seeing how you are doing. I am looking forward to seeing you! I will talk to you later! :-) ) But, I haven't gotten any response. (It's now Monday late morning). Should I be concerned?
  • Jun 23, 2008, 08:05 AM
    f104
    Hi Starlite sounds like you and I are at the opposite ends of the same boat. I sent Kari a text Saturday night and I have not heard anything back either. I am concerned. I do not know if you should be or not. I will say that I do have a habit of jumping to the worst case scenario. Do you?
  • Jun 23, 2008, 08:17 AM
    starlite1
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    Originally Posted by f104
    Hi Starlite sounds like you and I are at the opposite ends of the same boat. I sent Kari a text Saturday night and I have not heard anything back either. I am concerned. I do not know if you should be or not. I will say that I do have a habit of jumping to the worst case scenario. Do you?

    Hi F104,

    Oh yes, I do that as well. I know you and I are going through similar situations too, you are seeing your ex next week, and I am seeing mine in about 2 weeks. It is so hard, I love Eric more than anything, and I wish he would reach out, and stop playing games
  • Jun 23, 2008, 08:21 AM
    f104
    Starlite I feel the same way about k too. I would be over the moon if she just sent me a text. I just do not know what to do. It's crazy I even went to a psychic lol. I trying to think of any reason I can to call her. Part of me says I don't care about NC. I do not care if she thinks I am needy. I just want to be with her more than anything. I am so not interested in anybody else.

    Starlite I really hope things work out for you I really do.
  • Jun 23, 2008, 08:25 AM
    starlite1
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by f104
    Starlite I feel the same way about k too. I would be over the moon if she just sent me a text. I just do not know what to do. It's crazy I even went to a psychic lol. I trying to think of any reason I can to call her. Part of me says I don't care about NC. I do not care if she thinks I am needy. I just want to be with her more than anything. I am so not interested in anybody esle.

    Starlite I really hope things work out for you I really do.

    Hi F104,

    A psychic! So did I! LOL! If you don't mind my asking, did your psychic provide good knowledge (positive outcome, where they true in there findings?)

    I hope things work out for you too, F104.
  • Jun 23, 2008, 08:26 AM
    f104
    No way! Yes she was positive about the whole thing. What about you? She seemed accurate to me but we shall see.
  • Jun 23, 2008, 08:30 AM
    starlite1
    He was on big time! And he said that E and I will reconcile too, but I have to relax. He said that by me obsessing, it pushes the energy in the other direction, and hinders the time frame (he didn't provide definite time lines, but he was really on). He told me a lot about myself too, and wow! Was he right LOL! You are right, we shall see!
  • Jun 23, 2008, 08:33 AM
    f104
    That is interesting. The psychic I saw told me the same thing. She also said I had to think positively about the whole thing or I would just push her away. It is so hard! The psychic told me I would see her in about 3 weeks which was almost 2 weeks ago and that K and I would talk things over and try again. I actually have the whole thing on tape.
  • Jun 23, 2008, 08:40 AM
    starlite1
    That is amazing! Have you ever spoken to this psychic before? I've known mine for almost 3 years.
  • Jun 23, 2008, 08:42 AM
    f104
    No I never have. I hope she is right. If things pan out with Kari I will definitely speak with that psychic again though. I went to a friend's graduation party and it was a psychic party. It was cool.

    How did you meet the psychic you are seeing? Does Eric know you visit a psychic?
  • Jun 23, 2008, 08:49 AM
    starlite1
    Back in 2005, I went to a street fair with my parents (after the first breakup with Eric), and we were getting ready to leave, when I saw this beautiful store (insense, crystals, etc), and outside was sign for psychic readings. So, I booked a 15 minute reading right then and there (my parents were ready to leave so they did), and I spoke with this psychic. He was great! So, for the past 3 years, this poor psychic has been dealing with me and my relationship with Eric. Eric doesn't know. He has become a friend of mine, which is really cool, too. His shop isn't far from me, but he does phone readings as well, so every so often I will call him and have a phone reading. He is really great, and has clients all over the world.
  • Jun 23, 2008, 08:51 AM
    f104
    Hmm phone readings you say. I should call him
  • Jun 23, 2008, 08:52 AM
    f104
    My psychic does phone readings too.
  • Jun 23, 2008, 08:54 AM
    f104
    Actually I have an appointment with her today at 1 pm

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