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Originally Posted by h0llister

thank you everyone!! i really want to call him to tell him to leave me alone and never talk again because i need to have time to think and move on. but im so hurt and mad i dont even wanna pick up the phone to tell him. i dont no what to do :S!

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Yeah you know what to do. Don't call don't talk don't do anything relating to him.

What if he calls me I told him to call me back last time he called, I said the next time you call it will be the last time he could call me and I would answer, so he could think about everything.

UPDATE! We talked tonight, he called and we actually had a good talk, we talked about all the problems we have been having for the last 6months and saying how we feel and we never decided or spoke about being together again but we did work out a lot of negative feelings we have been having... I don't no if it was a good idea or not, but I feel better now.

Ready to move on, or do you wait for another TALK?

I'm not to sure, I'm not going to call him, if he calls I will answer to see what he says I suppose.

And if he doesn't call, what will you be doing about your life??

He will call, I know him he says he misses me a lot and stuff and I can just tell, but if he doesn't ,oh well I will move on. Right now I'm not sure if I actually want to date him or not.

Hello, most of you know my bf/ex broke up last week. Every night I am having 2-3 dreams with him, sometimes there so romantic and sometimes its horrible fighting. It really sucks because I wake up every morning upset,and also I usually wake up while I'm sleeping as well and upset. I don't have any problem sleeping, until I start dreaming of my ex. Have any of you had this problem before? How do I stop it?

Time, or doing something that makes you so exhausted that you don't have time to dream. Join a gym or go for a job, take up something you have wanted to but couldn't.

Your feelings are still fresh, and close to the surface, and are bound to come out, one way or another.

As you learn to cope with those feelings, and actually get about making new ones, they should fade.

NORMAL!

The same happened to me. After my ex broke up with me he haunted my dreams... sometimes they were happy where we'd get back together and other times he'd be with this other girl (the one he left me for). Either way, I'd wake up feeling miserable. I had them a lot too... pretty much every night. But after time I wasn't having as many and they weren't as intense as they were right after the break up. Eventually they stopped completely.
So there's nothing strange about it. That's what's occupying your mind now so it's no surprise that it crosses into your dreams too. As your feelings begin to fade the dreams will too.

Thank you guys.. during the day I am OK and at night I can sleep fine, but I always wake up heartbroken all over again and it sucks so much. Last night my dream was my boyfriend bought me a plane ticket to go visit him So I went to his country.. and the next day we had to go to church and I went with some people and he went with his family(and we would meet at church) , on the way back from church the people I went with drove me to the airport (I didn't know on the way to the airport) and then when we got there they said chris (my ex) was already there and when I got inside he wasn't and I had to leave without saying goodbye and I was crying so much in my dream ( I felt abandoned) every night my emotions come back again!! Errrrr I want it to go away! :(

Yes it is normal, only time helps at this point.

Our minds plays tricks on us like that. When you go to bed are your last thoughts of him? That use to happen to me with some of my exes but I realized it was due to me thinking of them before I went to bed. After I realized that I starting thinking of my favorite movie star in hopes he would turn out in my dreams.

I called my ex today . And told him I don't want to wait for him to decide on if he wanted to be with me or not because its not fair. And I told him I will turn off my phone forever ( it's a phone his family gave me and it only works for there numbers) I told him to not email me or text or call my house/other cellphone. I also said I will be OK because I know I did nothing wrong and he agreed... I asked if he has found someone else or has hooked with anyone and he laughed and say uhh noo.. it was weird but I'm going to be OK I know now I want a better guy and I don't want to used anymore. And he will feel guilty cause he knows he has been a jerk a lot lately. I'm just hoping he won't get a guilt trip and try to get back with me... hopefully he does NC!. OK there was no question . Sorry I needed to vent.. but please leave advice or something of anything you have thought of while reading this... and thank you to everyone who has been with me through this.

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Originally Posted by h0llister

... it was weird but I'm going to be OK...

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Yes, you absolutely are.

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I know now I want a better guy and I don't want to used anymore.

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Awesome. Remember that when you doubt it later. You do want a guy who's panting after you, and guys WILL do that.

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and he will feel guilty cause he knows he has been a jerk a lot lately. I'm just hoping he won't get a guilt trip and try to get back with me... hopefully he does NC!

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Well, that needs to be unimportant to you. You can't concern yourself with any of that. NC is what YOU are going to do, whether he does or not. He's not in control of that.

You're going to be great. Truly. Good for you.

You're a very smart girl and you know what's best for you and sooo glad you womt put up with any crap from the guys.. Your going to be fine and you will end up with an incredible guy one who is respectful just because that whaat you want for yourself.. Just stay true to yourself man if you were my dai would be hugging you right now, good job and keep it up.
Your awesome

Thank you so much everyone. It just happened tonight so I just need some time and I will be OK, I've done this before. But I know now I want a more mature relationship (not right now) but in the future and I could never see that with him, he plays way to many games.. even after a year and a half.. still games! Err lol thank you everyone

I meant daughter sorry

Oh OK sorry lol thank you so much!