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  • Aug 17, 2007, 06:13 AM
    GlindaofOz
    Because she wants to know she still hs you under her thumb. She wants to know if she still says jump you will respond back how high?

    Dude, she never really cared about you. No one who treated you the way she did cared about anyone other then herself. What now that she's been going to church for a few weeks she's redeemed? My grandmother always said the biggest sinners are the loudest about church.
  • Aug 17, 2007, 06:18 AM
    DougE
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by GlindaofOz
    Because she wants to know she still hs you under her thumb. She wants to know if she still says jump you will respond back how high?

    Dude, she never really cared about you. No one who treated you the way she did cared about anyone other then herself. What now that shes been going to church for a few weeks she's redeemed? My grandmother always said the biggest sinners are the loudest about church.



    Biggest sinners are the loudest about church LOL
  • Aug 17, 2007, 01:53 PM
    DougE
    Ahh feels so good to have my phone number changed... feels so free. I hope she is just panicking, not that I care, but the things she did to me, I wonder when she realizes she's been CUT OFF like she cut me off how she will feel... Uh yeah I'm going to have access to him, but he won't to me... what a dumb $#@!

    Hope she is now depressed her "bank" is GONE and now she will just have to flap her wings to someone else
  • Aug 17, 2007, 05:27 PM
    kp2171
    now shell do the drive bys... random stop ins... all that crap. I have that paper clip you gave me thought you'd need it back... hopefully not.
  • Aug 17, 2007, 05:29 PM
    J_9
    Still got the same bank account number? Have you contacted the credit agencies since she does have your social # ?
  • Aug 18, 2007, 06:14 AM
    GlindaofOz
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by J_9
    Still got the same bank account number? have you contacted the credit agencies since she does have your social # ?

    I'm with J-9. This is even more important then the phone number change. You never know what someone is capable of doing until they do it.
  • Aug 18, 2007, 06:56 AM
    Chery
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by kp2171
    dumb mistake number one. you know you need to not be friends to get away from this noise.




    problems coping with an inheritance after a parents death isnt uncommon. but dont blame her for the cash you blew. like it or not, even if you were not perfectly stable mentally, you were just as much a part of the problem. you were not disciplined financially. you did not make clear your expectations financially... meaning if she pulled the kind of crap you said she did, that you should have thought twice about whether it was worth it. it wasnt, was it?

    again... hard to cope after your dads death. i get it. even blowing some of the money, i get it. but you really can't blame her too much. you were as much to blame, so you need to let that go.





    uh. hmmm. no you have not been broken up since june 5th. youve been shacking, screwing, fighting, and otherwise hanging out.

    uh... you want her to realize her mistake? nope. sorry buddy. thats not part of the plan.

    when you break it off it isnt with the condition that the other person ever, in any way, feels sorry for what they have done to you.

    if they were sorry in the first place, ya probably wouldnt be broken up.

    so you need to suck it up here. ive been there. we all like to think our ex's are suffering a little, missing us, sorry for all the bad things. well... doesnt work like that.

    your wanting that is normal, but as long as you hold onto "is she sorry", well, you still arent broken up completely.

    so who cares if shes sorry or not. unless you are interested in furthering a failed relationship with a person whom you can't trust emotionally or financially...

    i know... three years is a long time to spend just to realize you were with the wrong person. at least it took you less time than me. i was with a girl (not married) almost 7 years. the minute i finally walked away, after all the noise and crap, i was in a better place. yeah, it sucked for a year or so... but man, dont go back there again.

    shes bad for you and unless you expect better for yourself and OF yourself, you are going to get it.

    WOW - exactly! Also...The money he spent, he could have used to make another woman who cared for him "more attractive" if just "looks" meant so much to him..

    http://smileys.smileycentral.com/cat/36/36_19_1.gif Oh well, live and learn.. I hope.
  • Aug 18, 2007, 07:03 AM
    Chery
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by DougE
    Ahh feels so good to have my phone number changed.........feels so free. I hope she is just panicking, not that I care, but the things she did to me, i wonder when she realizes she's been CUT OFF like she cut me off how she will feel.....Uh yeah im going to have access to him, but he wont to me....what a dumb $#@!

    hope she is now depressed her "bank" is GONE and now she will just have to flap her wings to someone else

    get over it already, and get help before you make someone else the center of your universe. The only one 'giving a damn' should be you, but you have to take yourself serious and realize you really need to work on your obsessions. Stop thinking about how she will feel about anything you do, because she doesn't care...


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  • Aug 18, 2007, 06:11 PM
    DougE
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Chery
    get over it already, and get help before you make someone else the center of your universe. The only one 'giving a damn' should be you, but you have to take yourself serious and realize you really need to work on your obsessions. Stop thinking about how she will feel about anything you do, because she doesn't care....


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    Well Cherry... IF SHE wastnt OBSESSED, she Wouldn't GET CALLING MY PHONE, ESPECIALLY AFTER GETTING HER NUMBER CHANGED.. . you don't think she is OBSESSED? Why else would you do it other than just flat out CRAZY?
  • Aug 18, 2007, 06:17 PM
    J_9
    Doug,

    Chill out on Chery already. This thread is 17 pages long, which means 170 posts, including this one. It is very obvious that you need some help that we cannot give you.

    Your Ex may be obsessed, but you seem to have some problems of your own that only professionals can help you with.
  • Aug 18, 2007, 06:28 PM
    DougE
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by J_9
    Doug,

    Chill out on Chery already. This thread is 17 pages long, which means 170 posts, including this one. It is very obvious that you need some help that we cannot give you.

    Your Ex may be obsessed, but you seem to have some problems of your own that only professionals can help you with.


    Yeah J-9 I'm starting to think you are right. I wish I did not put someone the center of my universe. Ive been in counseling since November 2006 and to no avail. I'm drinking like crazy and its just bad
  • Aug 18, 2007, 06:31 PM
    J_9
    Then you need to find another counselor. You have been in counseling for over a year now, there is something not right if you are not beginning to get better.

    Drinking only makes things worse.
  • Aug 18, 2007, 06:37 PM
    DougE
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by J_9
    Then you need to find another counselor. You have been in counseling for over a year now, there is something not right if you are not beginning to get better.

    Drinking only makes things worse.


    Yeah very true, I'll end up drunk dialing and it hasn't been successful. I guess when ureally loved someone and cared for them, ALTHOUGH it wasn't reciprocated back, it hurts and bites like a poisness snake
  • Aug 18, 2007, 06:40 PM
    Fr_Chuck
    Yep, I have been there, Captian Morgan and me got to be good friends getting over one before. But in the end I was just a depressed drunk instead of just being depressed. The no contact is really and honestly the only way to ever get over someone you have been really crazy over.
    It is hard, for me, I actually sold my home and moved, just so I would not have contact, it worked but took time.
  • Aug 18, 2007, 07:06 PM
    DougE
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Fr_Chuck
    Yep, I have been there, Captian Morgan and me got to be good friends getting over one before. But in the end I was just a depressed drunk instead of just being depressed. The no contact is really and honestly the only way to ever get over someone you have been really crazy over.
    It is hard, for me, I actually sold my home and moved, just so I would not have contact, it worked but took time.

    Wow, thanks for that Chuck. I was beginning to be that depressed drunk, even my close friends were scared of being around me. They said I've changed that now I'm just drinking I'm becoming more obnoxious when drunk. Last night I had to be carried home and put in the bed... I think what I FORGOT to leave out in this ENTIRE post was that...

    My father that I was VERY close to died of cancer in June 2005 right in front of me. Not so pleasant seeing a parent take their last breath in front of you. My father begged and pleaded with me to spend time with him during his final days... and what did I DO? I spent time with this dumb #@#!@. My father would always say I wish you would spend time with me, laugh, watch a movie, and be around me, because I don't have much longer left. So basically, I would go to work, go hang out with her until 11PM, come home, tell my dad goodnight, and go to bed... The next day... same exact routine... Weekends?? Oh yes I was with her. While my father is dying and on an oxygen take. The ROCK of my LIFE. The father that was a Mother AND Father to me. The father who gave me anything I wanted so long as I mainted a high gpa in college... Now I c why... I didn't have time to grieve his death because I was AROUND HER 24-7... You know my mother kept TELLING me what the deal was with this girl when she first met her... and like an ignorant son, I didn't listen... But oh well, The earth still revolves, you can ONLY move forward and NOT look BACK... One lesson I learned from this:


    "If you keep putting your hands in mess, you'll always get shi$@ results!"
  • Aug 18, 2007, 07:07 PM
    DougE
    By the way, this was the father that left the inheritance... funny, my brother still has all of his... and he tried to get me to give it to him to invest and watch it. He is 33. I am 27
  • Aug 18, 2007, 07:11 PM
    Fr_Chuck
    My father passed about 18 months ago, and I was with him as he passed.
    But for me I knew he was leaving a world of pain and suffering to a much better place, that is where my faith has helped me see the better in life. I think that Dad would have wanted me to be the one to say the final good bye to. Now back in my depressed days, I don't think I would have seen it that way.
  • Aug 18, 2007, 08:05 PM
    DougE
    Anyone going through a break up, I SUGGEST you download erykah badu "Green Eyes"... The song, if you are capable of digging deep, you see there are three parts:
    Denial , Acknowledgement, Re-Lapse


    Go to limewire download: Erykah Badu - Green Eyes


    Here are the lyrics:

    My eyes are green
    Cause I eat a lot of vegetables
    It don't have nothing to do with your new friend
    My eyes are green
    Cause I eat a lot of vegetables
    It don't have nothing to do with your new friend

    I don't care, I swear
    I'm too through with you I am
    You don't mean nothing to me
    So be with your friend

    My eyes are green
    Cause I eat a lot of vegetables
    It don't have nothing to do with your new friend
    My eyes are green
    Cause I eat a lot of vegetables
    It don't have nothing to do with your new friend

    I'm insecure
    But I can't help it
    My mind says move on
    My heart let right
    But I don't love you any more
    I'm so insecure
    Never knew that love did this
    Ooh, ooh

    I can't remember the last time I felt this way
    About somebody
    You've done something to my mind
    And I can't control it
    But I don't love you any more
    Yes I do, I do
    Loving you is wrong baby
    Ooh, ooh

    La-di-da
    Dum-dee-da-da
    Dum-didi-da-da-da
    Dum-didi-da-dum-di

    I'm so confused
    You tried to trick me yeah
    Ooh, ooh, oh
    Never knew that love could hurt like this
    Never thought I would but I got dissed
    Makes me feel so sad and hurt inside
    Feel embarrassed so I want to hide
    Silly me I thought your love was true
    Change my name to Silly E. Badu
    Before I heal, it's going to be a while
    I know it's going to be a while, chile
    [ Lyrics accessible from Rare Lyrics: Over 176 000+ Free Song Lyrics! ]

    [ad-libs]

    I hope it's not too late
    Too late, too late, too late
    Feeling insecure
    Your love has got me sore
    I don't want no more

    Oh, oh
    It's too late, oh, oh ooh, ooh
    I'm sorry I love you
    At first when you was cool
    You told me you loved me too, ooh
    And then you lost your love
    And then you lost your love
    And then you lost your love
    You wanted me to go away
    But I can't go
    See I can't leave, it's too late
    I can't leave, it's too late
    I can't leave, it's too late
    I can't leave, it's too late

    Just make love to me
    Just one more time and then you'll see
    I can't believe I made a desperate plea
    Believe me yeah, ye-ah, no, oh
    You see I can't leave, it's too late
    I can't leave, it's too late
    Don't you know, I can't leave, it's too late
    Can't go no where, no
    It's too late
    It's too late
    It's too late
    It's too late yeah
    Come on babe

    Don't you want be strong with me
    You told me we could have a family
    Want to run to me when you're down and low
    But times get tough and there you go
    Out the door, you want to run again
    Open your arms and you'll come back in
    Want to run cause you say your afraid, afraid

    Never knew what a friendship
    Never knew how to really love
    You can't be what I need you to
    And I don't know why I f#@! With you

    I know our love will never be the same
    But I can't stand the growing pains
  • Aug 20, 2007, 06:23 AM
    DougE
    Day 6 of no contact... Man do those waves of emotion kill you, lol... sometimes you don't care about the person, then you miss them, then you don't care... its like a wave that occuirs, but I assume that's natural lol
  • Aug 20, 2007, 07:25 AM
    SAB123
    Stay NC and in about 2 months you will start to feel a lot better.

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