I rang her over a week ago and she finally called me back - she contacted me. So I'm going to NOT call her back and see if she calls me AGAIN.
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I rang her over a week ago and she finally called me back - she contacted me. So I'm going to NOT call her back and see if she calls me AGAIN.
I really think your holding out hope for getting back with her even though you call it closure. I realise it take time and hard work to get back from limbo, but dealing with reality, must start with being honest with yourself and dealing with those feeings... honestly. Sorry your putting way too much on her, instead of you, in my opinion.
Right... She is just playing games with you and you will get false hope now. I'm glad you didn't answer. Now she may be wondering... When she calls again keep it short and tell her everything is okay and ask if she is okay and then say you have to go because you have something to do. Then adios amigo!
It's the end of the road, you either stop here and don't go anywhere or you take the turning and make a life of yourself.
Bit like a treadmill. Forgive the analogy. You run but you don't go anywhere, your not making any effect apart from tiring yourself out and getting healthy of course lol :P
But if you step off the treadmill you move on, you have places to go? So choose where you ona be, stuck or gone :P
Why is SHE calling me back if she wants closure from all of this - God knows I do. I'm moving on but I don't know why she's calling me.
Block her number! Block everything. If you want to be healthy then make the effort or be stuck where you are in several months time. Your choice, were the only ones who can start the process of changing our lives.
This is so confusing. I still love her and I'm trying to move on and if she's doing what she wants to do while we're not together why's she still calling me? Any women have any insights?
As I said block her.
And if she keeps calling? Isn't it rude for me to not return calls. I know I don't appreciate it when people don't return my calls.
Your in your own world here. Do you not see? The relationship is over, let it go for your own sake. I am sorry but you gota let this one lie.
When my boyfriend wouldn't talk to me I wrote hima letter telling him how I felt and at the end wrote ' the rest is up to you' if you don't hear anything she must be a!! END OF!Quote:
Originally Posted by Righthearted
I understand that it may be over but can anyone tell me why she bothered to call me back 9 days later? Apologizing for not calling me back sooner.
Well in that case can anyone explain why my ex took £60 worth of presents off me just days after dumpin me?
Oh wait I know, its because she's a
WOMAN!!
Most probably that she has moved on,forget her,she's your ex and move on because she isn't worth your time and isn't showing any interest to you.
From a woman's perspective: I think you should just take the call next time she calls. If she starts telling you how much she misses you and wants you back, "Tell her that she needs to move on and that you are trying to move on yourself". If she starts in on the I miss you crap then more than likely you are her back up. Some women, I say this because I use to be like this, need a man in their life. It is a security blanket knowing that you have someone there and you are not alone. Don't let her hurt you again. I have done this to guys before and now that I am older, I realize how cruel it was to tag them along for my own satisfaction of having someone. And just so you know Zooropa, not ALL women take men for their money and run! ;)
I know what you're saying a lot. Should I at least listen to what she has to say before I tell her to move on. What if she really wants to try again.
Before you tell her to move? I thought she has moved on already... You need to tell yourself to move on. I'm going through the same thing. It's been 2 weeks since no contact from my ex... And it hurts to know that but I'm sure everything will work out in the end. I left everything in good terms, but I don't think I will take her back now. It got to the point of too much. She doesn't have the decency to call and see if I'm okay or how I'm doing. So forget her now... I'm a bit pissed off while missing a little bit of her... I am doing much better though and I'm sure you will be fine as well... I received a private call two days ago and another at work today so it may be her... But I don't know. I find myself a little weak this week.
The fact that she went for this long without talking to you or even taking your calls is not a good sign that she would be sincere in her reasoning for getting back with you. If she was truly in love with you and you broke up, she wouldn't have taken so long to contact you because she would have missed you. She is probably at the point right now to where she is a little lonely and wants someone to be around so she is falling back on you. Don't be the Fall Back Boy. All it leads to is heartbreak down the road. I think you deserve a much better girl that will love you for you and not jerk you around like this girl is doing. Like I said, take her call, tell her you are trying to move on and she should too. Tell her you don't like sitting around wondering if she will come back and you want to get on with your life. Things will work out for you man. Just give it time and things will drop into place. If you are tired of waiting for her to call back then just give her a ring and tell her the same thing. Just have a strong sincere voice when your talking to her and see how she reacts. Good luck
But she did call me back on Monday, I may call her sometime next week. I don't know.
How long were you with her? It sucks after all that time together and the wonderful memories... they can just up and leave like nothing! And just forget about all the great moments! We thought they were the one for us, but obviously not.
Almost 2 years. Should I call her back at least?
You had fun moments with her? Made each other laugh and were very happy to see each other at one point?
NO CALLS! Stop this!
No CALLS. WHY bother
If she calls you goOD!!
Stop THIS RIGHT NOW UNTIL SHE CALLS YOU She's AS GOOD AS DEAD IN YOUR EYES...
Don't Bother Calling Her... she Knows That Your Going To Call Her That's Why She Doesn't Waste Her Time To Call You... just Leave Her Alone... I Bet You If You Don't Call Her She Is Bound To Call You... shes Going To Call You Because She's Going To Want To Know Why Your Not Calling Her..
Hi everyone back here again and need some advice, I'm not going to act until I get a response from someone here. Yesterday my EX and I talk and she tells me that she's dating someone new (that she's in love with him) and that she would really like to still be friends with me. I tell her that I can't do that and I'm not going to contact her anymore. But before I tell her this I ask her if she can truly tell me that she doesn't love me anymore I won't bother her anymore and won't contact her ever again -she pauses and then tells me that she doesn't love me. I say good bye. And that's it. Now today I see that she called me ten times and wants to talk and doesn't like the way our conversation ended. Advice? Suggestions?
Dude she's in love with you just go and talk to here nicely and give her a hug whin its over
She Still Loves You! If She Loved The Other Guy Like She Claims She Does, She Wouldn't Be Calling You
She definitely still loves you if she loved him she would not even be thinking abouyt you. Trust me on this. When you want someone else you don't call the person you don't want!! You know why because you don't care about them so why the hell calkl.
People must realise the reason the get a call from the ex in most cases is because the ex still has feelings and wants to see if they can get back in. Problem is to many losers jump at the oppiortuinityu when this is the time to builkd the aniety that your ex is feeling. She is bordering on wantinh g you if you jump her leel will drop and you may lose. If you resist her level will definitely rise. Send her a message please stop calling I'm moving on, tell her I care about you but not in that way anymore. Bye. That is a great comment shows you care and gives her some hope but at the same way it creates a challenge that she has to gain you back she will think well he still cares I can change his mmind and she will pursue you. After a bit tell her you told me you were in love with the other guy and you will probably be better off with him anyhow. Ang up act like your past that you don't need it and you klnow what you relaallyy don't bo. You can get her back here but definaetly play very yes VERY hard to get you need to do this cause if you go easy your out of the game anyhow. Cause while you chase or make it too easy this other guy may drop off and become a challenge.
So should I not call her back? I'll see her at a wedding in a couple of days- should I wait to contact her until then.
Thanks again everyone for your advice.
I say don't contact her. Avoid her at the wedding.
So she didn't like the way the conversation ended. Girls never do when they end that way. A lot of girls, unfortunately, like to keep guys hanging, keep several guys "on the string" so there's at least one around at all times. It has happened that way throughout history; it still happens today.
If you reconnect with her, I bet a dozen donuts that, within two weeks, you will be asking us what to do because she went back to the guy she "really loves".
So, while loving you she's seeing some one else instead of trying to get back with you and you only, what would happen if she went back with you and have feelings for some other guy also? Call him too? the problem here is that you can't let her go either, and think that if you get back together with her it will all be the same as it was before the break up.
Not quite sure what you're saying.
Ha ha, OK, never mind.
I think you should connect with her and give it 1 more chance. Tell her that you'll either be her lover or nothing. If she loves you she should be with you and if she doesn't don't contact her. It's about her coming to you if she loves you
I don't see where everyone sees she loves you. She told you she is with someone else and she even said she is in love with him. You asked if she loves you and she said no... It's beyond over. Why can't you see this? I know you will call back either way so just call and say it's me or nothing and I bet she will choose nothing. Then move on! Good luck!
So why did she call him so much after?Quote:
Originally Posted by emopunk7
Actions speak much more than words and after saying she doesn't love him but still calling is probably a sign? Who knows I may be wrong but you never know. Give it a chance. If nothing then move on because it's just not worth it.
I didn't call her back and she called me twice this morning saying she wanted to talk about how we were such good friends and that she didn't want things to end the way they did. In our previous conversation I specifally said that I don't want friendship if she's dating someone else- period.
She said I was enjoying not calling her back and that the wedding tomorrow will be really awkward. It won't be for me, she told me everything she had to say the other day - so I have no freakin' clue why she's calling me now.
Find out and then let us know. Call her back now!
This advice is key, because it gets to the heart of what she's thinking.Quote:
Originally Posted by Wondergirl
Also, I think she just wants to see what you do; will you cave in and call her? Can she have you eating out of her hand? Will she dominate your thoughts day in and day out? She wants to (indirectly) control you and make sure you're still thinking about her. It's a game, don't play it.
I think Wondergirl's observation is good. Very good. This should be tattooed on girl's backs, instead of those stupid calligraphic lines everyone's into.
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