friend4u178 thank you for posting this really helped me
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friend4u178 thank you for posting this really helped me
Lol love this topic! True, everything's true!
You true nicee nice post lot of thing happened wit me too
But believe me cnt get over its past 1 year still cnt
He's going out wit another girl in front of me and I have to face him everyday bcaz he's in my class...
No option but was about to take revenge but still in thinking process... will sooon decide
Bcaz if sam 1 did bad do double bad with him...
I'm sorry for your pain but taking revenge really doesn't achieve anything except losing your dignity with no return.Quote:
Originally Posted by hee
Words can't describe what I just read, no joke it made me laugh because I remebered all the calling and txting and such and how I was. I mean its been 2 weeks of no contact after failing my first try at it. But A LOT has happened to me to change my outlook and become better, reading this made me re realize that break ups are hard and rough but the fact you said this happened for a reason and if you miss the lesson then you miss it completely I have finally saw what I needed to see and that was to grow up I mean seriously if we all look back on it we got so used to that other that when there gone we forgot to be who we were before.
Wow you should write a book honestly, that was completely compelling. Your words leave a lasting impression. You have a very deep understanding of the dynamics of relationships. Good job, amazing.
I have so done most if not all (except stalk). I use to think I was crazy every time I cried out of the blue!!
I am not hurting anymore. But I am still struggling. Some hours I feel good and ready to face the world, but at times, I just want to run back to his arms. I will take it a day at a time. A battle at a time. And I will be my own self again.. :)
This was amazing, it made so much sense and as much as it hurts it's all very true, this has helped a lot, thank you so much
Wow... friend4u178
I think everyone should read this before even posting their question.
I. Love. You.
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Originally Posted by farmtowngirl
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Omg that is exactly how I feel right now ughhh :/
Bravo brova
Well I kind of loved this, it gave me a new.. prospective on it all!
I like the post as well but I still think it does not harm to try. When people had a long term relation that really worked, maybe there still is something.
I had some people against me in other posting that are telling that it's useless etc...
The same among friends happes too, you can have a problem and either you never talk to them anymore or you talk about it.
Some of these friendships work out well.
Same for ex's. I don't like to hear this stuff that all is over and just forget about some one you have spent 10% of your life with!
There are dosens of programs on TV , people are searching for some one they broke up with 30-40 years ago and they have regret their choice for all these years.
The posting is a great help for getting through the break up but trying to fix something is nice as well. I'm proud that I tried, it didn't work out for me.
I was very depressed and sad today... but after reading this post m ACTUALLY smiling :)... evry word you wrote is so true, it's really unbelievable... thanx a lot for such a nice suggestion :)
I just ran into this site and I read your post and it is helpful but still a little down.
I was in a relationship for 5 years, we were thinking of marrige but the issue she had was she wanted to marry a guy that was in the same religion. At first 2 years ago, I agreed to convert but soon I realized if I converted then it might set up other things she may ask of me to change, so I told her I can't do it and she was very mad.
She ended it but after one day I called her, and we were back together but I told her I can not convert, but we still carried on the relationship.
Well last week we had an argument over the phone and she wanted to break up, she said we can not carry on since she can't marry me since I won't convert and she has talked to her sister and the sister agreed too. Funny thing is the sister is in a marriage where she and the husband do not get along and she almost got a divorce and here she is advising her sister. I was mad but at the end I told her if that is what you want then fine and we hung up. I did text her back 30 minutes later and wished her the best in her life and that I hoped she found the guy she is looking for that is from the same religion and she would be happy. She texted me back and did the same.
She is going to NYU in NYC and I'm in DC, it seems when she is there I miss her but when she came to see me after couple of days in my mind I wanted her to go. So I have also been thinking , what if we got married, would it have actually worked out? I did also have doubts at the end about marrying her but I did love her.
I noticed on Facebook she posted this song Saturday night, it is by Depeche Mode called Suffer Well. I knew when she was depressed she would listen to Depeche Mode, so it was obvious she was feeling depressed. The funny thing is I also got her into the band.
Anyway, this time I have done the no contact but it is sooooooooo hard. During the days in the morning when I wake up it is so depressing and then specially at nights. One thing for sure one of my friend's who has been in and out of long term relationships, told me it will get better. In fact we are all going to vegas end of the month. But I hope I can move on without her, 50% of me wants her back and the other 50% is confused and is not sure if I want her back.:confused::confused:
It sounds good but really difficult to apply it... one can't really avoid the person he/she loves...
I am feeling your message right now. AMEN! Been there as the dumper and dumpee all rolled into one in a short space of time and finally found laughter with good friends. I'll shall now start working on finding my old self again! Thank you, Thank you,Thank you!
I went through the same thing!
I thought it was the end of the world without my ex in it.
Now, I'm so much better - I have found someone else, and he makes me incredibly happy. I don't regret anything that has happened now.
Love this post, I could relate to it a lot!
You are telling an exact situation here, but how does it work if I have to deal with him every day at work. I can understand that he stepped away for many reasons (logical reasons) but what I can't understand is having him around acting very normal as if nothing had happened between us, how would you deal with that? Can you tell me please?
All I can say is that is the truth! I went threw every bit of it and thank god that today 2 years later I am totally OK with him... we talk from time to time but even when he turns on that charm I feel nothing... I have dated since him and even had a live in BF but I think it was all part of the healing and getting over my ex... I care for him but I don't love him and don't care what or who he's doing now days...
Wow, that was amazing. Thank you!
Great post F4U! You cover every aspect, spot on! Thank you! Just reading it made me smile a couple of times.
Amazing and so helpful.
Thank you for posting this, it is helping me and I will read it everyday until I am healed.
Thank you so much, this is going to help me so much and I know it will help others get through the incredibly difficult times. The times I am suffering right now with no end in sight except for this post.
I was looking for something that will make me feel better and I'm glad I found this it has been two weeks since my break now every time I think of doing something stupid I would read this to bring me back to reality.
That was awesome! Iam hurting. Its been day two and I ran across this site yesturday.
I don't see how you're supposed to accept the fact that your ex is just happier now and could possibly, and in many cases its true, be dating someone the next week or two. And people are supposed to wait to find a new relationship with someone? I'm not the person to go out and freely have sex with people, but why wait?
Maybe I took the last part of the post wrong, but I'm in denial right now.. so maybe I have nothing to say about it until 6 months from now
That is the best description of break ups ever completely inspiring and full of truthful hope. Well done!
Bottom line, this is what we need to hear.Quote:
Originally Posted by friend4u178
Completely right, I'm the breaker upper and for me to think about my ex, hoping he heals soon, I hope he finds this post. He's never been through it before and he is going to need something like this.
I had my heart broken recently. Well last week. You have the stages of things, and yes all of these things do happen. I tried to talk to her about it you know negotiate my way out of it.
Aah it was all in false hope.
I even helped her with a huge move she had going. Was hoping to win her back. Alas it was a fail.
So I ended it. She told me she had no feelings for me so I told her I will make the descsion for her. It is over. Now she may have decided it sometime before that but, I reached my this is done point.
Yes it does pain me, when it reaches that point. There is nothing I can do, I do not ever ever go back. The issue with going back is you remember all the reasons things sucked.
And yes technically she might have dumped me. I consider discussion or conversation about it a breach. Now I might reach out, this is true but, never go backwards.
At the end I deserve better, not from someone who knows not how they feel?
She told me she was faking feelings for me but, she tried and had no feelings for me at all. That was my end point.
-Tordo
Damn... I teared that soon I cried by reading your thread.
Great job lad. :)
Take a look at my thread. Currently I need guidance, tips and hints on my situation.
https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relati...me-370092.html
Thank you in advance of anything you can help me. Cheers mate.
Wow... I have been waiting for this speech for about a year and a half. You have no idea how much you just helped me. Thanks
This is what I needed,but I'm been there and done it.thanks
I wish everybody in the world who has ever been dumped could read this. This is really good.
Took me a while to read but by the end of it I cheered up slightly.. and it only happened today! Cheers buddy! :)
I can read this over and over without getting bored cause is such a good thread. I'm saying this again am I? Haha!
NC since 29th June
Thank you , glad it's helping you out :cool:Quote:
Originally Posted by carlson92
Stick with the NC!!
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