It will never be the same for you both, have some patience, and quit caring so much, why should you? Go with the flow

Hi guys,

Its been almost a week now, and I apologize for the long delay.

Its been a busy week. In case your wondering, I love the new job :) I get to go on business lunches, everything... its pretty fun. Not looking forward to school, but that's a few months off still :)

As far as everything else goes... Im doing pretty well. I guess its best I don't start thinking/talking about it because it will start to drive me nuts. It's a little hard when all my friends are busy with their girlfriends, but Im hoping soon we get out days to just hang out with the guys... thats what I'm looking forward too.

I hope everyone's doing well, and happy memorial day :)

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Originally Posted by sypher373

I guess its best I dont start thinking/talking about it becuase it will start to drive me nuts. Its a little hard when all my friends are busy with their girlfriends

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Its always hard at first after a breakup to feel down for a while when you see other couples together. It brings back memories and stirs up emotions. That's completely normal Sypher and will happen for a while.

Glad you are doing good and feeling more positive.

I came into this thread a little late, but I'm going through something very similar right now. This will be my second big break up with a partner. The first time I tortured myself exactly like you sypher373, and I know the reason you ask the whole "NC" thing is. And it's not purely because "youll be shutting off any chance that could of been with her" if you look at yourself deep enough, its about that suspicion you've always had of never being good enough. Why not you? Why aren't you good enough? What didn't I do right? Problem is, its not always about what you didn't do for her, what you didn't give her.. It's more about perhaps this time it was the wrong person. I myself believe in love, true love, and fairy tales and have always hoped my recent ex partner would fix herself up, and see that I was the one for her. But the truth is this isn't real life, and it rarely happens. Rebuild mate, and from what I can see it's been 3 years, it's a shame to be in the same negative depressing spiral I was in, but I feel many a young person has or is going through this.

If you read this, you are good enough, you just need to find someone that appreciates you, and all you can be.