Ask Me Help Desk - Girlfriend Wants Space/Break

Hay rightheart I hopoe your doing well and I hope the girl is on the way back, I mean you better let us know when you get her fully back. Is there any update yet is she keen.
Hope your getting back in there, we are praying for you.

UPDATE - we had dinner the other night and after we kissed a lot. Last night we hung out a little and we kissed again. This morning she called me and possibly wants to get together tonight for drink(s). I hope it's not to break my heart again...

Another update -
She slept over last Saturday and everything was cool, then on Tuesday we had dinner at my place and kissed and cuddled some more. The entire time we haven't seriously talked about our relationship but she has told me that she is still looking to date, meanwhile we make out and kiss like we are still together.

Now it's Thursday and I find out she has a date for tomorrow. What the heck is going on?

Your heading for a BIG FALL! What a mistake, sorry chum, its all going down hill from here. Stop it!

What should I do then? How do we kiss and make out and act as if things were going back then she plans on going out on a date with someone else?

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The entire time we haven't seriously talked about our relationship

Because at this point there is NONE!

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but she has told me that she is still looking to date,

She must really love you to go on dates with other MEN?

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meanwhile we make out and kiss like we are still together.

She is your door mat, and she keeping you offf to the side just in case she can't find anybody else. Umm that would make me feel good?

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Now it's Thursday and I find out she has a date for tomorrow.

Well I would too, she know's you'll be thinking and waiting for her?

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What the heck is going on?

At the present time she doesn't want you, she trying too find someone better and if she can't she knows you'll be rite their waiting with open arms to take her back. I know it's hard but I will still admit my feeling for my ex are still their, but if you would have listen to everyone here you would been further healed from the first day she dumded you, yes YOU. You probably feel like crap she going on that date if you would have done the NC you would been healing and sometimes it's just better not to no what the ex does. You might just get burned. Please just leave her alone and heal yourself.

You have gotten a promotion from friends, to friends with benefits

Rightheart you have not listened. I know your situation cause I was in the same situation. I know all about the kissing and hugging!! HELL my girlfriend even slept with me and she kept kissing me saying Im still deciding your making my decision so HARD.

What a load of crap SHE thought I was making her decision hard because I was still around and no doubt she had feelings for me but te problem was she was not missing me she was still emotionally involved and loved the kissing and huggging but that was cause it was like a drug after 3 1/2 year sof hot action and affection she needed her regular fix of kissing . Adventually though after time they slowly walk away and this is a way of doing this slowkly and at the same time you think well we must be going OK kissing and stuff means we must be gettibg back together.

WRONG WRONG WRONG WRONG!! Sometimes this can be right but only when you push her away will you gett your true answer!!

I already tiold you this you are letting her have you there which means she is happy to date other guys and feels good cause HELL a lot of peopole are like this that's why they cheat they feel like they are safe with the person they are with so they are happier to find others. These people are creeps but that's how it works.

YOU CANNOT GIVE HER THE OPPORTUNITYU TO DATE OTHER GUYS AND FEEL GOOD AT THE SAME TIME , THE ONLY WAY YOU CAN ACHIEVE THIS IS TO NOT SEE HER AND TELL HER YOU ARE DATING OTHERS. GIVE HER A DOSE IF SHE CALLS AND SAYS KETS HANG OUT TOMORROW NIGHT TELL BHER SOORY iM GOING TO THE MOVIES.IF SHE SAYS WHO WITH JUST SAY WITH SOMEONE I MET AND TELL HER ITS NOTHING SERIOUS. GIVE GHER WHAT SHE IS GIVING YOU, MAKE HER WORRY , You're a GREAT GUY WITH PLENTY OF GIRLS WHO WANT AND DESERVE YOU.

At the moment you are looking to her like you can't live without her and you have no girls chasibng you , girls want a popular guy who is busya and has other girls eyeing him off...

Do this now next time you speak tell her your going out let her go crazy she will realise then you may be the one for her.

IF YOU KEEP DOING YOUR WAY SGHE WILL FIND SOMEONE ELSE AND THEN YOU WILL HEAR THIS " LETS JUST BE FRIENDS" OR ITS NOT WORKING" OR " IM WITH SOMEONE NOW LEAVE ME ALONE"

IIF You want to hear this keep doing what your doing! Stop

Do what I said now if you want let us no

We talked about "Us" again and she says she loves me but can't commit to a relationship right now. The thing is we still kiss when we see each other, I know I should do no contact - I guess that is what needs to happen.

Yes my ex is driving past my house and playing with mind. As long as she does this I will always think of her and never move on. That's my problem. You can go NC and get healthy. As long as you see her you are never goint to get over her.That's your problem. You have a chance to heal. I can't until I sell my house and she can't find me.

WAKE UP WUSSY!!

Why he hell are youkissing if you are not in a relationship with her!! 1You have to realise that if she wants to be with you it has to be in arelationship!!

LET ME TELL YOU NOW SHE DOES NOT That's RIGHT Not NOT LOVE YOU!! THIS IS FOR SURE!! GUARANTEED!!

She only says that cause she still wants you around.

The only way to fix this is to not talk to her at all. Tell her your not that keen on working it out with someone who doesn't want a relationship and your going to move on to someone who can handle a relationship!!
This is when she will realise that she wants you...

Why would you hang around with someone who dumped you, they dumoed you for a reason and that was cause she didn't want you..

ANSWER THIS WOULD YOU DUMP A HOT GIRL YOU WERE REALLY KEEN ON HAHAHAHAAHAHAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAAHAHHA HELL NO YOU Wouldn't!!

Your holding on here thinking well if she keeps hugging and kissing m then she's not with anyone else and I'm might be able to show her and she might realise she wants me back!! S SHE Definitely WILL NOT!! NOTNOTNOT

You mus tell her yourve had enough if you continue to do what you want adventually you will be all he way out and she will not want you...

I GUARANTEE IF NEXT TIME SHE CONTACT YOU, YOU TELL HER YOUR TO BUSY TO SEE HER NOW AND THAT YOUR NOT INTERESTED IN A GIRL WHO Doesn't KNOW WHAT SHE WANTS. SHE WILL CHANGE HER MIND PRETTY QUICK!! PROBLEM IS YOU ARE TO SCARED TO TAKE THE CHANCE!! WELL IF YOU TAKE IT AND SHE NEVER TALKS TO YOU AGAIN WELL SHE Didn't WANTNYOU ANYWAY..!

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STOP STOP STOP STOP STOP STOP!!!!!!!! THIS IS NOT WORKING MORON!!!!!!! (sorry)

What you are doing is not working dont do what you have been doing all you are doing is justing hanging on a lifeline which she has got dangling. I did this WILL NOT WORK NOT NOT!!!!

I can tell from your thread you told her well we will have to take it really slowly. The only reason you said that is cause you are thinking well i can tell her and she will agree and take it slow and you will be together!!!! NO F ING WAY THIS WILL HAPPEN!!! and if it did youll be out again.

She wanted a break, DO NOT LET HER CRY ON YOU!!!! Your movin on you have to show her you DONT have time for crap you dont want a girl who doesnt know what she wants!!!

You have to be the best!! The best is NOT waiting THE BEST is busy!! The BEST has options if shes unsure theres plenty out there who are sure!!!!!

Even though at the moment you want her and really you are a wussie well you have to pretend your not.

This is what you do!!! STARTING NOW!!!!!

You do not answer for 1 week at all no text nil. You also have your phone switched off every second night. Thats right OFF OFF OFF!! You be unavailable even though you are probly lying in bed crying, you must show u are busy so she will wonder and can't tal;k to you. The less she can talk to you the more she will want too.

Do this for a week and see how it goes. Or else try ur s h i t way and keep hanging on and you know what she will say

"IM JUST NOT READY FOR A RELATIONSHIP AT THE MOMENT" I JUST WANT TO WORK ON MYSELF FOR A WHILE....... Then your out

Let me know how you go!!!!!

This is funny.. don't we wish there were no games! But this is how it is!

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BE THE MAN TONIGHT!!!!

Does this work for women too?

Maybe that's the problem with a lot of peoples relationships, they play to many games. Better to take a little extra time to find someone who doesn't play games.

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I guess that is what needs to happen.

Change guess to know

Well she went out on a dinner date last night for an hour and a half and then she called me, 5 times. I didn't answer her calls (it felt good) and she left a message asking me to call her.

Next move?

Go about you business. Leave her alone, but how do you know what she is doing?? Not good guy. Get your nose out of her business.

she told me that she was going out. And then she calls me 5x what's that all about.

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she told me that she was going out. and then she calls me 5x what's that all about.

Oh yea turn your phone off the first time she calls, why are you sitting there counting how many times she calls?

She called me today to see what's up and told me that I didn't return her calls the other night...

Am I rude for not calling her back? Or is it weak on my part to call her?