I think you need to leave the ladies alone for a while. Work on yourself.
You are a hard person to please, you need to explore why that is so.

Have to spread rep. Homegirl I agree with that totally, he does need to give up with the girls for now at least, he's leaving a trail of heart break behind him, and to me that's basically cruel, these girls haven't done him any harm...

Kyle you need to sit up and be counted..

I think Kyle would like everyone to think he is a heart breaker. I don't believe it.

I also don't believe this story about a girl jumping out of a tree.
He is seeking attention. Reading all his other threads tend to make me believe he's not being truthful about these relationships.

I know I will get a lot of disagrees, but this is how I feel. I'm not feeding the troll anymore.

Kyle the only thing that's going to grow is your nose LOL. No other area...

My 4 year old would say you a porkin piers LOL..

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Kyle the only thing thats going to grow is your nose LOL. no other area...

my 4 year old would say you a porkin piers LOL..

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That's hiliarious... LOL:D

What have I done to deserve this attack? So a grown woman climbing up a tree, waiting for me to pass, and then jumping out of the tree to surprise me isn't a little strange? That's normal behavior? I'm not looking for faults. I just recognize weird behavior. Also, just because sal jumps out of trees doesn't make her extraverted. She is still as shy as before. Just becoming weirder.

This isn't about image. This is about character. I don't care if people label me as a heart breaker. I want advice that will help me improve my relationships and my character.

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what have i done to deserve this attack? so a grown woman climbing up a tree, waiting for me to pass, and then jumping out of the tree to surprise me isnt a little strange? thats normal behavior? im not looking for faults. i just recognize weird behavior. also, just because sal jumps out of trees doesnt make her extraverted. she is still as shy as before. just becoming weirder.

this isnt about image. this is about character. i dont care if people label me as a heart breaker. i want advice that will help me improve my relationships and my character.

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Stop making up stories and be a grown up. Trust me.. you're no heartbreaker.

Kyle this girls behaviour wasn't weird your reaction to it was, Im a lot older than both you and this girl and yet if I pass a swing park Ill go right on over to the swings and swing away, and I also get my husband to push me, its called letting your inner child out to play, its also not taking oneself too seriously.

Its good to be child or act young and carefree again. Its not weird, Its fun.
Fun is a vital ingredient in living a happy life, lose the fun element and you'll be old before your time..

We advised you last week and the week before that, and Ill do same now, go NC, and get over the hurt you're harbouring, deal with the issues you're trying to camouflage behind a blasé front.

If you don't you'll have mere meaningless and empty liasions because it won't disappear, it will mutate,or morph into something more harmful and toxic that you could believe possible.

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what have i done to deserve this attack? so a grown woman climbing up a tree, waiting for me to pass, and then jumping out of the tree to surprise me isnt a little strange? thats normal behavior? im not looking for faults. i just recognize weird behavior. also, just because sal jumps out of trees doesnt make her extraverted. she is still as shy as before. just becoming weirder.

this isnt about image. this is about character. i dont care if people label me as a heart breaker. i want advice that will help me improve my relationships and my character.

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You have been given good sound advice on relationships and character,that is evident in several of your threads.

Why you have chosen to ignore it,only you know the answer to that one.

So she's a little different,I like different,if she's not for you,move on.

Huge bravo!

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you have been given good sound advice on relationships and charactor,that is evident in several of your threads.

why you have chosen to ignore it,only you know the answer to that one.

so shes a little differant,i like differant,if shes not for you,move on.

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Do you really look like your avatar picture? If you do, how about meeting for coffee? Do you jump out of trees?

If you think this girl is too weird for you. Leave her alone. It's that simple.
You're not a teenager. You don't need to be with just anybody to be with somebody.
You have gone through how many girls in a few months? There is always something wrong with them.
Just chill for a while.

Kyle: you're a Tart, no more no less I hope you're being sensible about protection, obviously you think you're something special, maybe to your Mom if no one else you are but its not clever making remarks such as those in the above. Post.

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Kyle: youre a Tart, no more no less I hope youre being sensible about protection, obviously you think youre something special, maybe to your Mom if no one else you are but its not clever making remarks such as those in the above. post.


Just to show you that I know my stuff, heres my real photo, I play on the swings , Im not weird, Im fun loving though .

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The difference is you look like you play on swings. I would expect that after meeting you. I want sal to open up and communicate. I didn't realize she would express herself with bizarre behavior. I feel misled.

Its kind of like being invited to a bbq with the impression that there will be chicken and steak and instead I end up getting garden burgers. I feel misled. With you, I know I know I'm getting garden burgers.

Actually with me you'd be the garden burgers, whatever they are.

You haven't been misled you only met this girl a week ago, and already your speaking of her in derogatory terms.

Also with me Id have thrown you in the pool by now along with my sons aged 13 and 4..

So long Kyle you're obviously some kind of lost cause, I and many here have tried many ways to help you and given you sound and sensible advice, you fail to take that advice, so on your own head be it, you're the architect of you're own downfall.

Enjoy the negative you're surely going to be left with toodaloo...

You may think you're clever, my how blind can you be. Enjoy your games in the playground...

I actually wonder if that's where you are. Because you're not mature enough to be an adult, and not sophisticated enough to be a man about town.

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the difference is you look like you play on swings. i would expect that after meeting you. i want Sal to open up and communicate. i didn't realize she would express herself with bizarre behavior. i feel misled.

its kind of like being invited to a bbq with the impression that there will be chicken and steak and instead i end up getting garden burgers. i feel misled. with you, i know i know im getting garden burgers.

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What do you mean you felt misled. How long have you known her?
Maybe she feels misled. You wanted her to open up and communicate and when she does, you're criticizing. What nerve!
She is not to your liking then move on, but don't make her feel like there is something wrong with her.
You need to stop hopping from pillar to post looking for Miss Perfect. She does not exist anymore than Mr. Perfect does.

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Work on your character, and stop trying to have a relationship. That's the whole point of dating. Your going about this backward, your jumping from one girl to another expecting to build something over night with a perfect stranger, that you find faults with I might add. Just as the ladies here are rejecting your notions of love, and romance, so will any female you judge, as evident by your past 3 failures, and blame it on them.

Realizing your own responsibility in these failures is all about character, that you have so far failed to show, which is at the heart of your problem, because they can't all be flawed as you say. If you had character, you could enjoy all of them, without getting carried away by this relationship idea that you put before all else, that is common sense.

Put your character ahead of your needs, and you will learn a lot about yourself, and be able to make adjustments, and better decisions, based on the facts, and not your feelings that are telling you to start a relationship, instead of taking the time to let it develop.

Until you work on your character, your relationship attempts will fail, and you will miss the very enjoyable part of a relationship, making female friends, not for love and romance, but because they are fun.

Kyle.. stay on the porch with the puppies. You "ain't" ready to run with the big dogs.

Everyone wants to gang up on the popular kid. I role with the big dogs all the time.