When those thoughts hit you-as they will on occasion,that's normal,like Tal said,get busy.

Have a backup plan.
Watch a comedy dvd,go for a run or come here and help out.

And know that those feelings will go away with time.

You're doing well,so pat yourself on the back.

Thank you amicon, yea that's what I have been doing Since I posted thread. I was just reading darkdays post, and when I got done reading it made me feel better to know that some one has it worst then I do. I have been keeping myself busy but today I wasn't really busy with the business so I guess I had a lot of free time for my mind to float away. I just hate, I hate her for making me feel this way. I know I'm better off though but just can't help my thoughts. Ohh one more, listening to break up music some how makes me feel better do you know any songs about breaking up.

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thank you amicon, yea thats what i have been doing Since i posted thread. I was just reading darkdays post, and when i got done reading it made me feel better to know that some one has it worst then i do. I have been keeping myself busy but today i wasnt really busy with the business so i guess i had alot of free time for my mind to float away. I just hate, i hate her for making me feel this way. I know i'm better off though but just can't help my thoughts. Ohh one more, listening to break up music some how makes me feel better do you know any songs about breaking up.

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You are going to get through this show me. I'm counting on you!

Hey guys, so its been awhile since I had any contact with my ex, and plan to keep that forever. But here is a little dilemma, all this week I had my ups and downs but I was good so far, kept myself busy and did what I have to do to heal, then Saturday came and I got invited by my brother to go and party with him and all his frats and friends. When we got there, he had introduce me to this girl he was friends with, she was really cute and out going, smart and seems to get all her things together. Only one problem she has the same name as my ex. We both talked took lots of pictures and even invited me to dance with her. After they left I couldn't get her out my head, do you think she has any interest on me? Then all of a sudden I started missing my ex, then I woke up this morning still missing my ex, is this feeling normal, what do you think I should do, should I ask my bro for her number or ask him to hook us up together or should I just focus on myself till I heal completely. I really did had a good time but for some reason I still can't get my ex off my head while I talk to other girls. Other thing, if it is good for me to contact other girls, how can I contact her without her thinking weird about me. Do you think it's a good idea to get her number from my bro, or should I just have him tell her that I'm interested on her and I want to talk to her. What do you think I should be doing. Thanks a lot

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hey guys, so its been awhile since i had any contact with my ex, and plan to keep that forever. But here is a little dilemma, all this week i had my ups and downs but i was good so far, kept myself busy and did what i have to do to heal, then Saturday came and i got invited by my brother to go and party with him and all his frats and friends. when we got there, he had introduce me to this girl he was friends with, she was really cute and out going, smart and seems to get all her things together. only one problem she has the same name as my ex. We both talked took lots of pictures and even invited me to dance with her. after they left i couldnt get her out my head, do you think she has any interest on me? then all of a sudden i started missing my ex, then i woke up this morning still missing my ex, is this feeling normal, what do you think i should do, should i ask my bro for her number or ask him to hook us up together or should i just focus on myself till i heal completely. i really did had a good time but for some reason i still can't get my ex off my head while i talk to other girls. other thing, if it is good for me to contact other girls, how can i contact her without her thinking weird about me. do you think its a good idea to get her number from my bro, or should i just have him tell her that im interested on her and i want to talk to her. what do you think i should be doing. thanks alot

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Everyone goes through this as they get over someone! You can do it!

Your feelings are normal at this stage,its still a bit of a rollercoaster.

A word of advice-meet and get to know new people-but don't jump into a new relationship.

Rebounds are not a good thing.

Heal properly before you even start thinking of future relationships.

Thank you guys, yea I am seeing new people and I'm not jumping in a new relationship, I don't want any relationship for a long time but soemtimes I feel like I want a girlfriend. But I'm doing my best to heal the proper way. Thank you guys for being here and helping me heal, it is getting easier and easier each day.

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thank you guys, yea i am seeing new people and im not jumping in a new relationship, i dont want any relationship for a long time but soemtimes i feel like i want a gf. But im doing my best to heal the proper way. thank you guys for being here and helping me heal, it is getting easier and easier each day.

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Glad to hear it! You can get through this! We're all here for you!:)

Thanks every one. I'm really moving on faster then I thought I would, Last night I had a dream about her on and off but for some reason I feel no pain, I don't even miss her when I woke up. Still feel a little lost every morning I wake up but the pain I feel is no longer there when I wake up. Thanks again everyone. Its almost been a month since she broke it off with me, and I'm healing faster then I thought I would. I still miss her here and there but not as bad as before. NO CONTACT does really work aslong as you apply it. For the new people that just got their heart broken, please take it from me, staying in contact with your ex doesn't make any better except it only makes you want her even more. Stay no contact its hard at first but when you continue with it, each day does gets better and better. I thought it wouldn't work at first but I was wrong, it takes time and patience and the longer you don't stay in contact with your ex the more you realized that you can do better. Like what KP said, there is a billion of girls here in this world one girl can only make you happy.

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thanks every one. I'm really moving on faster then i thought i would, Last night i had a dream about her on and off but for some reason i feel no pain, i dont even miss her when i woke up. Still feel a little lost every morning i wake up but the pain i feel is no longer there when i wake up. Thanks again everyone. its almost been a month since she broke it off with me, and i'm healing faster then i thought i would. I still miss her here and there but not as bad as before. NO CONTACT does really work aslong as you apply it. For the new people that just got their heart broken, please take it from me, staying in contact with your ex doesnt make any better except it only makes you want her even more. Stay no contact its hard at first but when you continue with it, each day does gets better and better. I thought it wouldnt work at first but i was wrong, it takes time and patience and the longer you dont stay in contact with your ex the more you realized that you can do better. Like what what KP said, there is a billion of girls here in this world one girl can only make you happy.

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YEAH! WAY TO GO! Here is a big HUG:D

Good work-keep going-stay around,you give good advice and are helping others-way to go!

Hey every one so here is an update. Around 12:57 Am I got the same text twice from my ex saying "its funny how you say you love me but do nothing to prove it well have a nice life and iam done waiting goodbye glen now all we have are memories goodbye:)" I don't get what she is trying to do. When I got that text so mad I want to text her back and say I want to fight for us, but that was just my emotion at the moment, so I didn't and I stop and think and I feel good. I am continuing to do NC and I will always, I don't want to be her friend now or forever, I am finally having my life. I just want to ask why do you think she did that, I don't get it. Just a question that's been going through my mind. I feel better but still I have her on my mind on and off but not as bad. Thanks again to all of you, if I didn't found this site I know I would jump in her trap and get myself hurt really bad. So thank you, I really do appreciate all your help

Glen,keep ignoring her-mindgames and she is frustrated because you don't bite.

Goodbye forever,she already said that,sorry,but one word comes to mind,loser.

You're well rid of her.

Thanks amicon yea I know she said that many times, it sucks cause when I get that text it makes my heart jump. But I am doing better then ever. I don't know why she's doing that mindgames. Does she have a life, why does she have to bother me.

She 's a manipulative controlfreak,that's why.

Can you change your number?

Or block her.

I tried but my phone company don't have it in their system for some reason, I can't change my # cause its also a business #. I can see that cause her mom is very manipulative and a controlfreak over her. Can she get that trait from her mother?

Possibly-children learne from their parents,I guess.

Can you change your actual cell,some come with a block function.

Haha man women love it when you ignore them... it's kind of funny actually once they lose the power. Staying NC was the best decision of your break up man, because as you said in my thread, it would have been reset back to day 1... and now you have some power and she is losing hers... it should put a smile on your face. I don't know how many other threads I have read where people break NC... think they are doing the right thing, only to realize they made things worse, and thus feel worse (myself included)

You give us all hope... wheres emopunk he needs to read more threads like this

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haha man women love it when you ignore them...it's kinda funny actually once they lose the power. staying NC was the best decision of your break up man, because as you said in my thread, it would have been reset back to day 1....and now you have some power and she is losing hers.....it should put a smile on your face. I dont know how many other threads i have read where people break NC....think they are doing the right thing, only to realize they made things worse, and thus feel worse (myself included)

you give us all hope....wheres emopunk he needs to read more threads like this

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Good for you!! You are doing great! Proud of you!:)

Hey everyone so here is an update about my ex. She change her number and called me, I was surprised that it was her, its been awhile since she tried contacting me. Again I have done no contact and all I've been trying to do is move on with my life. Will here's what happened, We were both talking and she said that she misses me a lot and that she still do love me, and that she wants to work things out, while we were both talking she told me if I still have her things. When she moved out, some of her things was still in my house, so I gathered them all and put it in the box, anyway I drop off her things and I thought it was just a hi and bye, she got in the car and then started crying, she was saying that she misses that old times and that we both had been through a lot. She said that she wants to talk more and work things out so we can get back together. After I had done the NC she is doing her best to get incontact with me, I know you guys are going to get mad but part of me do want to talk and work out the issues that broke us apart, and part of me just don't want to deal with her and just to move on.

Do you think if two people talk and tried fixing the issues that it can work out for the best? or is it just all a fantasy. I have not done anything to contact her, she had sent me a text here and there before, and I didn't replied. Do you think she's playing this mind games or did she really realized what she lost. If you guys can be honest and don't hold back with your advice I would highly appreciate it.
Thank you for taking your time to read my post.