Going over your past threads I found out a lot of things:
Your 17
You went through a miscarriage
You have family issues

... this is just a shot in the dark here but maybe your boyfriend/fiance has just gotten overwhelmed with all of this--- he is 17. Most 17 year old boys aren't ready for responsibility, some guys can even say "he got off the hook" since your miscarriage.

See if he feels this way, talk to him. He may feel pressured with all that has happened to you and what you have been putting into the relationship for the past year.

I'm not saying poor guy you put so much on him but I remember 17 year old boys, they like to run from responsibility.


...ahh just my opinion.

He is 16

He says he loves me and feels guilty for having feelings for the other girl.

Well hey it happens, at 16, even if you hate to hear it, your not really ready for long-term relationships.

Your still growing, your still learning...

Just talk to him, but if you feel that the relationship is over then don't keep dragging it. I did that when I was younger, I wish I had just let it go.

As for your other issues, do you go to a support group or a teen group? If not you should, it really helps talking to other teens that have gone what you have gone through or just talking to someone in person just helps-- well that helps me.

He honestly isn't like most guys his age. The only responsibility he's run from is the baby

I'm 17, and only want a long term relationship

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he honestly isn't like most guys his age. the only responsibility he's run from is the baby

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... that is like most guys his age.

Not only was that his "only" responsibilty-- that really showed what kind of guy he was. He ran away from his baby... it's not like he forgot to buy you a Christmas present. He ran away from his ONLY responsibility.

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I'm 17, and only want a long term relationship

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I was there once too, I was 17, I was in a relationship, I wanted it to last forever. Hey I know.

I'm not even 25 yet, and when I think back at 17 I'm like "boy was I silly".

Right now, no matter what I or anyone else says you'll stick to your guns.

My only advice to you is to take things slow. Don't rush at things, don't jump on the let's get married boat, if you want to be engaged then so be it. Talk to your boyfriend see how he feels about this whole thing. Maybe even take a break-- sometimes it's better to see where you stand when you step back from where your standing [hope that makes sense]. I know that your thinking a break is kind of scary, that he'll jump into the other girls' arms--- if he does then well now you know he doesn't love you.

Well good luck to you-- take things slow.

Break up with him, he's already moved on. Break up Break up Break up.

He hasn't moved on, he still loves me.

That's it

I'm leaving the site

EMOP, if you love this guy then talk with him and give him the benefit of the doubt until he proves otherwise. Try not to worry . LOL:):):):)

I doubt he has cheated on you, I've seen many cases like this. If you really want to know then just ask him. Tell him to give you an honest answer or you'll leave him. You don't need depression in your life, it'll only bring you down. I met this girl 2 years ago (who I was with for 2 years) and I thought she was the love of my life. For 2 years she was, until she she broke my heart and ed me over, in the end, there is always someone else who is much, much better. And I have now found that better someone (: wayyyyyyyy better. So you're in a win-win situation here, just be strong and confront this issue.

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he hasn't moved on, he still loves me.

That's it

I'm leaving the site

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I'm not trying to offend you, so lets not do the drama thing. I know how young guys minds work. But you won't know until you've been through it. If you don't want to break up with him, then be with him, it's not my relationship. But personally, I wouldn't put up with it, I'd say something, if all he had was excuses that would be my first sign and I'd go, no matter how much I loved him. I've done it before. You'll be okay sooner or later. Good luck either way.

Sweetie, I don't know the guy but if he has any brains at all he'll see what he has with you. Like I said before give him a chance to explain.

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he hasn't moved on, he still loves me.

That's it

I'm leaving the site

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E-Mop, you know that I care about you, I only want the best for you, but, when you post a question you'll get many different responses. They're not all going to be what you want to hear.

Do you want people to give you advice, their opinions, or do you want them to coddle you, tell you what you want to hear? If you only want the latter then you shouldn't ask the question. The people here will tell you what they think based on your question. They won't baby you and they won't sugar coat things.

If you're going to threaten to leave the site every time someone says something you don't want to hear, then you're probably better off leaving because that's the way it is when you deal with a site that has over 700,000 members. You're going to get opinions, they're going to differ from yours. You either accept that or you save yourself the stress and move on.

I'd hate to see you go but this is the second time in a few days that you've threatened to leave. I don't play those games sweetie. So either be here, be a member, or don't, but stop with the games. Okay?

I wasn't threatening, I was asking. Right now I'm only on deleting my info.

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I wasn't threatening, I was asking. right now I'm only on deleting my info.

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Why are you deleting? Your story could be a life saver to another young woman!

Because I can't take people saying he doesn't care. I know for a fact he does.

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because I can't take people saying he doesn't care. I know for a fact he does.

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If you know for a fact then why do you have so many questions?

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I wasn't threatening, I was asking. Right now I'm only on deleting my info.

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E-mop, you said;

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That's it, I'm leaving the site.

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That's not a very mature thing to do just because someone posted something you didn't want to hear.

I realize you're upset, I can understand that, but still, we're here to help. You asked the question, you have to be prepared to get answers you may not want to hear. You can't just say "That's it, I'm leaving the site" every time things don't go your way.

I know you understand this.

Maybe sleep on it, come back tomorrow with fresh eyes, when you're not as upset.

Okay?

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E-mop, you said;



That's not a very mature thing to do just because someone posted something you didn't want to hear.

I realize you're upset, I can understand that, but still, we're here to help. You asked the question, you have to be prepared to get answers you may not want to hear. You can't just say "Fine, I'm leaving the site" every time things don't go your way.

I know you understand this.

Maybe sleep on it, come back tomorrow with fresh eyes, when you're not as upset.

Okay?

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Sleep makes things worse for me...
I'm going to take a shower...
I'm sorry guys...
I don't know what is going on with me lately... so damn emotional

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Originally Posted by xXxEmOxXxPrInCeSsxXx

Sleep makes things worse for me...
I'm going to take a shower...
I'm sorry guys...
I don't know what is going on with me lately.... so damn emotional

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We hope you feel better.