If it doesn't feel right, it doesn't feel right. No need to make excuses for him or yourself.

And yes it is his fault that he's a loser. He's in control of his actions and his behavior. No one else. So if he is as you say a loser, it's by his doing no one else.

As far as telling him... be honest. Tell him you feel he has lied to you and that's unacceptable. Done.

Thank you for your quick replys. Im trying not to let this bother me but it is. I just feel like I'm stuck in a rut with this situation. I still have feelings for him and it is bothering me that he has come back into my life when I was doing so well.

I need to kick him out of my life but I'm unsure as to how I can doit. I don't want any drama or arguments with him. The last thing I want to do is show him that he can still get to me. I honestly feel like a fool for accepting him back into my life so easily.

When we last spoke I really enjoyed his company and I thought that he has matured. This was until it was confirmed by his family member that he is in fact engaged. Now I realise that he could have been lying to me about a number of things. I don't understand his way of thinking.

I know that it'd be hard, but I really think you're going to have to be blunt and tell him you don't want a relationship with him. We all like to avoid drama and arguments, but there are times that it's necessary. Don't you think it'd be better to suffer through a few minutes of drama and get your life back than to suffer on and on in a relationship that you don't want to be in? Stand up to him - you need to be the one in control.

-----------------------------------------------------------------

Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional - M. Kathleen Casey

Could you maybe have been reading into his intentions about his contacting you? Was he saying that he wanted to date/see you? Or are you thinking this?

I understand he said he misses you... well I miss all of my past EX's too. From what I read he sounds remorseful and guilty. So don't read into too much, what were his actions?

Regardless... he lied.

Accept no calls, or texts, from him, and when you bump into him, out, and about, keep it very brief, and be unavailable for long conversations besides hi, and bye. That gives him no time to lie, or feel you can be approached.

Unavailable and busy, will give your power back, and if he persist, just call him a liar, and tell him to leave you alone. Eventually even the dumbest loser gets the hint, so stand up for yourself, and take no more bull from him.

Quote:

---

Originally Posted by Imabadman

Could you maybe have been reading into his intentions about his contacting you? Was he saying that he wanted to date/see you? Or are you thinking this?

I understand he said he misses you... well I miss all of my past EX's too. From what I read he sounds remorseful and guilty. So don't read into too much, what were his actions?

Regardless... he lied.

---

He said he wanted to kiss me, to me that means something else. He seems to have forgotten that he is engaged.

He hasn't said he wants a relationship with me, he is just talking about our relationship and saying inapropiate things as he is with someone else.