Turn that fear that you have of the future into excitement for the future.

They are both identical reactions/emotions only utilized by our bodies and minds in different ways and for different reasons. If you take control of your fear and make it work for you, instead of against you, in a short period it will turn in to excitement and you will be able to do anything.

Think of it this way... many people fear jumping out of the plane the first time they go skydiving. Heck many people won't go skydiving at all because of fear. However, once that first jump is made, they always want to do it again. They love it. They almost crave it. They get excited when they plan another jump. That is the effect of turning your fear into excitement. Once you do, the world looks like a totally different place!

I don't fear jumping out of the an airplane, I fear about how hard that ground is if the guy who couldn't pass 10th grade didn't pack my chute the right way.

Wow... I just read my thread from the beginning to now and I've realized I've come a long with the support of you guys. There is still a long way for me to go and I'm taking each day at a time =P

You will be amazed at how much you learn and grow during this time... just amazed.

It feels good to be free now =P and get out of the house XD ^_^ though I still think of my ex sometimes~ I learned how beautiful life is. Its sunny outside =P and the cold depressing winter is going away ^___^ I don't know why but I feel good today O_O

YES!! I think he's got it!

I'm so glad to hear you say you feel good today : )

This time of year everyone is a little depressed, waiting for spring and summer (I guess depending on where you live).

I'm glad you got out of the house!! Do more of that. A Change of scenery does wonders.

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YES!!! I think he's got it!

I'm so glad to hear you say you feel good today : )

This time of year everyone is a little depressed, waiting for spring and summer (I guess depending on where you live).

I'm glad you got out of the house!!! Do more of that. A Change of scenery does wonders.

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Yah I'm going to get out of the house more and enoy the beautfiul weather =P. I still get sad when I think of everything me and my ex have been through but I'm also exicited of the future now and what it will bring =P There will always be the what could have been thought in my head if me and my ex were together though.

Guys I'm still curious what my ex is up to with this "new guy" I have this urge to check her Facebook to see if there's any pictures >_< I have been controlling my urges so far and I haven't been on Facebook for like ages... I want to see if her status does still say she's in a relationship with me or not >_<

Don't do it, it hurts, I found out either way... why do you think I went back into this stage? I just took like 3 steps back and spent $200 on a guitar set to ease my mind. I thought you deleted her from your Facebook?

Checking on Facebook is a known detriment to healing. If you want to feel like total sh*t, then be my guest, but take it from me, nothing good comes from checking that stuff.

Curiosity killed the cat... don't do it. Ignorance is bliss my friend.

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Dont do it, it hurts, i found out either way...why do u think i went back into this stage? I just took like 3 steps back and spent $200 on a guitar set to ease my mind. I thought you deleted her from your facebook?

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Well at that time I didn't want to go onto Facebook just to delete her >_< because I know I would go onto her profile so I told myself I won't go on Facebook all together... oh you got a guitar? =P NICE

Yup I ended up not doing it and didn't check it YET but its really tempting and I know it ll be horrible once I do so I'm trying my best to not check it and keep myself busy

Step away from the computer and visit some friends.

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Step away from the computer and visit some friends.

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I don't have much friends here because I'm new to this city and I'm just staying here temporarily but ill be going home soon and I can't wait to catch up with them =P

Well, then take a walk/drive around the city and go to a coffe shop or something where some girls hang out and try talking to them. Do something to get your mind off your ex.

She is probably having sex with him... the thought of that drives me crazy. >_< I don't know why but I still having feelings for her

Who gives a f*** what she is doing? She could be doing naked cart-wheels on the White House lawn, and it still doesn't matter. DO NOT waste your time worrying about how she is living her life. You have better things to attend to.

Don't go looking for answers about what she is doing. It will not help you. It will actually hurt a lot more to actually know for a fact what she is up to than just wondering.

I found out the hard way. I asked my ex what she did with her new BF. She told me and let me tell you... it hurt more than anything in my life. It definitely set me back and extended the time I needed to get over her. The anger and animosity I felt toward her was there, but the actual heart ache and pain I felt was so much worse than anything.

Don't do it! Get distracted and resist the stupid Facebook/MySpace trap!

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Don't go looking for answers about what she is doing. It will not help you. It will actually hurt a lot more to actually know for a fact what she is up to than just wondering.

I found out the hard way. I asked my ex what she did with her new BF. She told me and let me tell you....it hurt more than anything in my life. It definitely set me back and extended the time I needed to get over her. The anger and animosity I felt toward her was there, but the actual heart ache and pain I felt was so much worse than anything.

Don't do it!! Get distracted and resist the stupid Facebook/MySpace trap!

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Okies I'm kind of bored right now and there's nothing to do but yah last time I did that is saw a pic of them holding hands >_<