As some of you may remember, my ex and I broke up a little over 6 months ago. Since then I have had about 6 months of no contact, and if not for finding that plan here, who knows where I would be. I am glad to say I'm in a much better place in life and am about to get back out there. So, I thought I would come here to ask a simple (perhaps complex) question:

How do you got about making that first call to a girl these days? I haven't had to do it in over a decade. Make lame small talk for 3 minutes, then ask them out? Just cut to the chase? I'm not nervous or afraid, just curious as to the etiquette these days.

Thanks in advance for any insight you guys can shed on this for me!

I think it depends on the circumstances surrounding how you came to have the girl's number...

If she gave it to you, call, chat for a few minutes, then ask her out...

The preliminaries of dating haven't changed as far as I know.
Small talk about what is happening in your neck of the woods and then you pop the question,easy as pie!
You go guy,get back on that horse:)

Quote:

---

Originally Posted by kctiger

I think it depends on the circumstances surrounding how you came to have the girl's number...

---

Friend of a friend gave her my email address. We emailed around 2-3 times then I asked for her number and she gave it to me saying I should call and we can grab dinner, etc sometime.

Just call her and say "hello, how are you" and then ask "I was wondering if you would like to go out to eat with me?"

Make some small talk, then ask when she'd be free.. great to hear your doing so well.

Like everyone said small talk. I was in the same boat a couple of years ago. I was very nervous but when I started talking to a girl it was like riding a bike. Just talk about things you like at first then other topics will come up. Then after a while of talking to women on the phone it got easier talking them on the phone. But for me the first call is the most nerve racking. You'll be fine.

There is really no script just be yourself and everything else would fall into place.

Just ask, but make the first "date" small. Most people say over coffee, but I can't stand coffee so I say ice cream. Make it something small, because a date is an event, which can be a little overwhelming right of the bat is you don't have a connection yet.