No, no, no... do not write this woman anything. Do not give this snake any attention. Leave her alone. Move on. You're freaking crazy if you give her attention.

Obviously she was seeing this guy A LOT longer than you ever knew.

My good. You should have never had anyhting to do with her after the first time she cheated on you.

Seriously - if this woman, who POOPED on your for five years, this upset you this way... you need to go see counseling - go see a therapist this week.

This gal is a horrendous person. She treated you like crap - that isn't any type of relationship. She is very unhealthy person and no one should be with her.

I feel REALLY bad for the SUCKER who is engaged to her. What a moron.

How can she break your heart? You should be massively repulsed by her. You should be happy that she is gone.

I don't know if I know of a woman who has terated a guy worse - most guys would leave way before that.

Ok, I had some time to let things out of my system and tlak to some of my buddies so I am much better today. I totally agree with you wildcat, I don't think anyone could have treated someone worse than this girl did me. She actually called me today... and I let her have it BIG TIME. I said everything that I have wanted to say for the past few months and just let it out. She told me she doesn't want me to hate her, all I said was hate doensnt even beging to describe what I feel for you right now. She told me I could call her and "vent" if I wanted, I just told her I naver wanted to hear her voice again, or see her. She told me she missed me and thinks about me everyday, I just told her goodbye and hung up. Man, I was freaking out last night, plus I was drunk. Thanks for all the support, I don't think it could get any worse than this... knock on wood. Only way to go now is up(I hope).

"She actually called me today......and I let her have it BIG TIME."

GOOD FOR YOU MY MAN!! I normally wouldn't agree with that. But this gal deserves it. I hope you really told her how awful she was to you. I hope you told how awful the cheating was. She's is reall you pretty bad person. I feel bad for the guy who is engaged to her - this gal is still calling you and saying she misses you.


"she told me she missed me and thinks about me everyday" - THIS IS MORE MANIPULATION. UGHHHHHHHHHHHH!! She is just a snake!!

"I just told her I naver wanted to hear her voice again, or see her." - good - now do this. Hopefully she wakes up and realizes how crule she was - but I doubt it - too many women react on feelings.

You will be much stronger after this. You got a lot of great life lessons. It' sgoin gto take time.

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Ok, I had some time to let things out of my system and tlak to some of my buddies so i am much better today. I totally agree with you wildcat, I dont think anyone could have treated someone worse than this girl did me. She actually called me today......and I let her have it BIG TIME. I said everything that I have wanted to say for the past few months and just let it out. She told me she doesnt want me to hate her, all i said was hate doensnt even beging to describe what I feel for you right now. she told me I could call her and "vent" if I wanted, I just told her I naver wanted to hear her voice again, or see her. she told me she missed me and thinks about me everyday, I just told her goodbye and hung up. Man, I was freaking out last night, plus I ws drunk. thanks for all the support, I dont think it could get any worse than this.........knock on wood. Only way to go now is up(i hope).

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Jeff dear, this little witch with a capital 'B' is a power monger, and the more power she has over men, the better she feels, even to the point of acting kind and caring after spitting her venom. I'm a woman and know what we are capable of, and she takes the cake. Be glad she's out of your life, and if she tries to get back in, tell her you are recording this crap and sending it to her 'fiance' if she does not let up. You need your inner peace now, and a short vacation over the holidays is not a bad idea. Just remember, for a lot of us, the holidays make us more depressed, so stock up on Vitamin D, A, E, and B-50, then get some white and dark blue candles to let light in and give you energy and equalibrium. Please try not to drink much, as this only brings up bad memories and creates and not obviate depression. Stay in contact with us and also help other's on this forum. Until then, have a Happy Thanksgiving.

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Thanks, this made me laugh!! I needed a good laugh. I EALLY appreciate all the help guys, this has truly been a crazy situation. It really has almost been like some kind of bad movie... but I won't let this beat me, I will find "the one" and honestly, I am glad its not her. She doesn't deserve me. :cool:

You will dear, just be careful about those 'rebound' relationships, so give yourself time, have some 'safe' fun, nothing serious for a while. OK?

WILL DO! Trust me, I want no kind of anything for a while. I don't want to bring any baggage on anyone, and I don't feel like dealing with that crap either. I am just going to play the field and have some "safe" fun now. I deserve a break from all this junk and I am going to have a blast. :eek:

Jeff-So sorry to read about what Cruella's engagement did to you. Let me ask you, how do you know that she actually is engaged? I mean, playing devil's advocate here, even if she told you herself, how do you know it's actually true? She just might be whacked out enough to lie to you to drive you nuts!
Just a thought...

Even if it is, she's part of your past, a closed chapter. If you ever meet the guy face to face, thank him from the bottom of your heart, he saved your butt. You could have been the poor schmuck she suckered into a horridly unstable and untruthful marriage. She gives evil women a bad name!

Enjoy your T Day with your friends and or family and be grateful for what you have and even more for what you escaped!

I know its true because I know the guys little brother, and he told me. The funny thing is, even he was like "what the hell!?". True, it does suck, but not in the long run. I am better off, and I am having soooooooo much fun right now doing what ever I want, seriously... single life is a lot better (than being with her). I came to that conclusion last night. I am NOT a "player" or anything like that, but I LOVE to make out (sorry, its just fun). I made out A lot last night (and tonight) and I am having a GREAT time. There is TOTALLY life after this girl, and I have my options open. I am still pretty broken up over this, but I am getting better. One girl at a time... :cool:

p.s. I PRAY I never meet this guy, because I am likely to punch him in the face. Sorry, but I couldn't deal with that. I don't think I have to worry about this because I avoid ALL places where I might see her.

I just really wanted to send out a BIG thanks to all of you that have helped me through this TUFF time in my life. She sent me a text yesterday saying "I really miss your friendship Jeff" and I didn't respond and don't plan on it either. I am FINALLY having a great time being single and dating a new girl. Im taking things REALLY slow, and just having a great time. Again, you guys are amazing. :D

Dude - grow up. Here are the facts - I bet $10 million that she's been dating this guy for well over year. No one gets engaged in a couple months.

You're jealous of this guy and insecure about a woman who is completely worthless and who you should dispise and hate. A woman who thought nothing of you and is still trying to play game with you.

That said - you did all this to yourslef. Sticking around with a gal

Yet you still want this crazy, whacked out, manipulative, lying beatch back. WHY?

"I really miss your friendship Jeff"

With friends like this who needs enemies??

She is no friend. Friends don't walk all over the other person. Friends don't cheat. Friends don't lie. Friends look out for your back.

Friends don't say I love you as they about to get enegaged

Ummmmmm did you not even READ what I wrote? Seriously, why attack me for not responding to what she wrote to me? What is up your butt today? I was only telling you about what was going on, and how I DO NOT want her in my life anymore. I am dating a NEW girl, and have moved on with my life. Jeez, calm down. I think it is YOU that need to grow up and not be so critical of something I didn't even say. Oh well, I am having a great time doing whatever I want to do now and it doesn't really matter what you or anyone else thinks. I know I am feeling 1000 times better about thing whole thing, and I will just pat myself on the back. :cool:

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Ummmmmm did you not even READ what I wrote? Seriously, why attack me for not responding to what she wrote to me? What is up your butt today? I was only telling you about what was going on, and how I DO NOT want her in my life anymore. I am dating a NEW girl, and have moved on with my life. Jeez, calm down. I think it is YOU that need to grow up and not be so critical of something I didnt even say. Oh well, I am having a great time doing whatever I want to do now and it doesnt really matter what you or anyone else thinks. I know I am feeling 1000 times better about thing whole thing, and I will just pat myself on the back. :cool:

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Jeffie... you avoid places where she goes; you want to knock the guy out... this does NOT sound like a guy whose having fun and fogetting the whitch with a capital 'B', so stop going on the defensive. He's right, you still are NOT over her, so stop saying so. The poor schmuck and her should be totally indifferent to you by now, and stay away from her brother or anyone else in her family. Like I said before, if you are into S and M, I'll be available, cause you are really barking up that tree. Go to Las Vegas over Christmas and get a taste of fantasy for a while, because reality is driving you towards lalala Land. You and I both know that you can't even keep her out of other posts when you try and help others, you still use her as an example too much, instead of giving straight advice. So, drop down and give me 20, NOW! And next time I say jump, ask me how high! Get my meaning?? Come on, dear listen up and please recover! Remember the last date you kept at a distance?

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I just really wanted to send out a BIG thanks to all of you that have helped me throught this TUFF time in my life. She sent me a text yesterday saying "I really miss your friendship Jeff" and I didnt respond and dont plan on it either. I am FINALLY having a great time being single and dating a new girl. Im taking things REALLY slow, and just having a great time. Again, you guys are amazing. :D

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I seriously hope you mean this, but the post directly before your quote didn't sound like it at all, and your last date, was a wash, remember?

*sigh* :confused: Its true. I am not "over" this whole thing, and I do take things VERY personal at times. I do really appreciate the feedback all of you have given me, and a lot of times I need to be "called out" on my own BS ;) . I guess I am just going through that whole "angry phase" right now, you know, the whole "Im numb to the world crap". I think I am just holding on to that whole angry thing is because it feels better than missing her. I also know that I can't let that anger take hold and burn me up or I will never get over this. Sometimes I feel like kicking myself when I read some of the crap I post on here... :p but hey, that's part of life isn't it? The fact is, I am having a lot more fun now than I was (believe it or not) but I do need other ways of dealing with my problems than I have been. I think I am realizing that I let this crap take over WAY more than I should have, but that is the beauty in being able to read all the BS I have posted over the past few months. I think what I need is an electronic !SHOCK! Whenever I bring that 'B' up! :eek: . Sorry I blew up on you a bit wildcat, I know all you guys are trying to do is help. I think before I post on here again I need to get my sh*t together, and stop feeling sorry for myself. I am tired of being a baby about this, and I am sick of complaining and looking for validation for the things I do. I have NEVER been that way before, I have always had that "take no crap" attitude with life and I can't let this change that. I made some mistakes in my past relationship, and now its time to learn from that and MOVE ON!! Sometimes I have a hard time letting crap go (if you couldn't tell) but that's OK. I have learned A lot about myself, and I want... no, NEED to pull my head out of my as*. Time to grow up... I will be back, but I agree, I can't keep looking for pitty and need to get confidence I'm myself back before I can be of ANY help to anyone else. :o PEACE!!

Jeff, we all go through 'crap' like this at some point in our lives, and in many ways it is a test. You are just taking a little longer to comprehend and 'pass' this test, that all. Please don't go through your depression,(and this is exactly what your current post indicates) by yourself. This is the perfect time of year for people as sensitive as you to drag yourself deeper, so watch for those danger signs. We do care, otherwise we would have just given you a whole bunch of BS instead of helping you out of this quagmire, so feel confident in the fact that you can count on us, any time, even if you don't think so at the moment. So head up! - and don't let this drag you down, OK? Try and enjoy a holiday with new people, new places, and you'll notice that you are not the only one going through this. I sincerely wish you all the best and hope you stay in contact with us.

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It is amazing how those websites will get you in trouble. Be it friendster, Facebook, or myspace, you can't let them show how you feel at the time. I was stupid enough to let those show the "at the time" way I felt as opposed to how I truly felt overall. Let me just say that it caused a lot of baggage and pain for absolutely nothing. Live and learn

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It is amazing how those websites will get you in trouble. Be it friendster, facebook, or myspace, you can't let them show how you feel at the time. I was stupid enough to let those show the "at the time" way i felt as opposed to how i truly felt overall. let me just say that it caused a lot of baggage and pain for absolutely nothing. live and learn

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WRONG! You did not go through this episode in life for 'absolutely nothing'! You gained experience and attitudes that you otherwise would not have. This helps us all grow and learn, therefore going another step further to getting to the final 'me'. It's all a part of life and will help you grow. You might be a little bitter now, but you will reflect on this a few years from now and be able to realize that you have gained a lot. Don't let your bitterness turn into disrespect for others, that's not the point, and also keep your self-respect. Good luck, and keep us posted.

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