... and yes I'm going to change it

I think once my ex get dumped from this new guy or she gets bored she'll be coming around again. And once my house is sold I am also changing my cell phone #.

Understand not letting you go easily doesn't mean she wants you back.

Its normal when a relationship ends, even if you wanted it, to have some pains in missing the norm, the security. As I've said, your ex wants you to want her, wants to think you are thinking about her, wants to know you are sorry she's gone.

It isn't about you, its about her. She might not be letting go easily, but I don't think its cause she's interested in a stable relationship with you. She just sounds like she needs to feel propped up... and when you stop being there for her, she's got to figure it out all on her own.

So yeah... it sounds like a contradiction when you hear she doesn't want to let it go and yet she changes her number. Its not. Its all part of the same mess. It just shows you cannot really trust what she says or does.

Sucks that its like this, but better to know the reality. Now you can begin moving on. And there is better out there. You don't have to put up with this kind of noise.

You should also figure things out for yourself. Jumping into another relationship might mask some issues, but you need to find yourself on firm ground before you take another shot at a relationship. Sometimes that means you feel like crap for a time until you are sick of it and decide to do something about it.

I almost lost my mind. Last night she calls (I know you guys are tired of this thread by now)

Last night she calls, and kept calling until I picked up. So I pick up and she says how wonderful church service was. It's a convention all week that's goes all day long. So she asked if I made it to it, and I said I was busy. And she told me what it was about and hopefully that I wouild be there tonight or tomorrow night. The she said "well I'm going to bed, I have to get up at 8am for tommorrows convention. I will talk to you later. That's literally how short the conversation was...

Good thing my number change goes into effect at midnight

You need to tell her to leave you alone, and for some reason I feel you have not let her go yet.

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I have to get up at 8am for tommorrows convention

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U said she has a job. How could someone would leave work for convention, doesn't matter how important to her it is,tomorrow as today is Thursday,doesn't she have to work? I don't think what she said makes any sense.
This lady is driving me nuts.

No she does have a job she is a manager, she is on vacation this week. That I know for a fact, I use to come to her job to take her to lunch a lot

She is a nut, cuckoo,cuckoo!!

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She is a nut, cuckoo,cuckoo!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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LOL @ talaniman

I think she is Confused. Part of her wants out, part of her wants in is what it seems. Its like she has to know almost everyuday what's going on with me... She is VERY VERY sensitive, I'm not sure if this would have anything to do with it

Do you know what her focus on life is?

To minister to people and help people

DougE... I think she is trying to give herself a boost by letting you know she is keeping busy and making it seem like she is unaffected by the whole thing. Good thing you changed your number. She wanted out, so now you show her what that means. You live a good and happy life. You deserve it. You get everything that this life has to offer you without looking back. Be glad it happened if even possible but certainly keep your head up and look to the future! God bless you!

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DougE...I think she is trying to give herself a boost by letting you know she is keeping busy and making it seem like she is unaffected by the whole thing. Good thing you changed your number. She wanted out, so now you show her what that means. You live a good and happy life. You deserve it. You get everything that this life has to offer you without looking back. Be glad it happened if even possible but certainly keep your head up and look to the future! God bless you!

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Thank you I really appreciated that

Now one last question guys do you think if I FINALLY not answer the phone tonight when she calls, she will panic, or get angry given the details I mentioned earlier in this thread?

Who gives a damn what she thinks.

You are still caring about it. Meaning you are still not moving on very much.

It does not matter what she thinks.

I know I don't care what she thinks or how she feels, I was just wanting to knoe for myself... makes no sense I know

Nope Doug, makes no sense. If you don't care, then why do you want to know.

Have contacted a counselor yet? It would really benefit you to get the professional help you need.

Anyway how is she going to call you if you changed your number? Did you really change your number or did you just tell us you did?

She has my house number J-9

Then change it. Simple as that, change all numbers. Get some professional help as she has really played a number with your mind.

I know all the things she did to me, as yes my number is changed, and I know all the things I did to her. But sh must care, why else on earth would you invitie someone to church, church on top of all other things. She even said you probably won't see me "i'll be in the choir stand, so i wouldnt know if u came"