I think you made the right decision. :) Just stay strong and know that we are all here to support you. I know it was tough, but you'er strong. You will get through this. :)
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Good girl. EMOP.. I was telling my daughter about you this afternoon(hope you don't mind) she said there were a couple of girls she had counseled as in her dormitory. She said , Look inside your heart at the good things you've done and build your future from this moment on. She said never let anyone take away the faith you have in yourself. You have strength you don't even know you have until you need it.
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She's a good kid and I always cry when we leave although she's only sixty miles away
Lots of people cofide in her and she gives them good advicce. She's an understanding young lady and she has always been very sensitive to other peoples problems. I hope you are doing all right little girl. HUGS from me and Hugs from Bethie!
GUYS... I feel like a total slattern
From dictionary.com
Slat·tern /ˈslætərn/ Show Spelled[slat-ern] Show IPA
–noun
1.a slovenly, untidy woman or girl.
2.a slut; harlot.
I feel like a tramp
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Stop it! And I'm not giving up on you and you'd better not give up on yourself.DO NOT put yourself down. I have prayed for you throughout the day "God Don't Make Any Junk". You are worth something. We all make mistakes but when we realize they are mistakes we try not to do them again. You stop it now. Hugs
We love you EMOP and we are here for you. Take it one day at a time.
Sorry, meant to explain and got kicked off fast! Sorry! Sorry! Sorry! I guess I deleted the explanation in my rush, I'm sorry guys, please forgive me
Here's my problem: AS FRIENDS I went to the movies with my friend. A guy friend, but still just a friend. We were watching the movie, behaving pretty well, and I said I was cold, so he put his arm around me. About half an hour later, he kissed me. It progressed to touching and heavy kissing, "making out" I guess. It was unexpected, I really didn't intend on this happening, but now I feel like a loose girl for this. I especially feel like this because he isn't sure if it meant anything to him, as he told me after I got home last night.
I think you kind of went for it because you wanted to feel like someone (a guy) cared for you the way you want to care for another guy. Most of us have had impulsive moments like that. Just look back on it and learn from it the best way you know how.
And here's a bit of advice for you: If it was the right thing to do, you'd feel good about it. So let that be how you judge your behaviors and decide to learn from them.
EMOP, why not try finding the person you are and I think it will be a good person you find. You don't need a guy to make you fulfilled. So spend some time finding you. There's a big world out there and as I said before.. You can be a help to someone. Someday when you least expect BAM you meet the man you want to spend your life with and he will feel the same if it's meant to be. You Take Care.
I felt great about it until he said he needed time to think.
My mum has been telling me to date around, immediately. I had a date tonight with my other friend, but dad didn't let me go. I want to go out and have fun, take my mind off the break up. However, I feel I may be moving too fast.
I think the strong feelings I had for Cody were more fear of being alone than a desire to be with him.
I don't think you are a tramp or loose or any other negative word for a female. What I do think is that you are confused and feeling alone. I think you are in danger of looking for a new source of affection and 'stability'.
You need time to work through everything that has gone on and everything you have been through. I know you are strong enough to be on your own for awhile. Don't allow fear to rule your emotions and get into another relationship before you are ready mentally and emotionally.
When do you begin counseling with the new therapist?
Alone time can be so soothing. Try this, in your alone time read a good book. Write down all the things you would like to do when you are on your own. Keep a journal , it's like having a friend, you can write and it's your private thoughs no one else can share.
Workout , you don't have to have that really expensive gym equipment. Some two pound arm weight and running a mile or two a day or every other day can make you feel great! And you have all of us.
Here's some advice from a counselor -- Don't start with "but"s. Don't set yourself up for failure. And don't just quit because you're not happy about how you think the counseling is going. There may be something very important going on that you aren't aware of. Question the counselor. YOU are the client. This is YOUR life that you are working on.
I work out every day, run a mile and a half on the treadmill. I used to write in a journal, but when my parents found it, I was punished for depression.
I can't stand alone time. I spent the majority of my life in isolation, now I can't stand it for more than a few hours at a time
If the counselor is worth his/her salt, he/she will drag out of Emo herself what will help her. She knows herself far better than the counselor does, and a good counselor knows that. That's one of the reasons psychological counseling is called "the talking cure."
[QUOTE=Wondergirl;2241213]If the counselor is worth his/her salt, he/she will drag out of Emo herself what will help her. She knows herself far better than the counselor does, and a good counselor knows that. That's one of the reasons psychological counseling is called "the talking cure."[/QUOTE
Thanks for telling me that. Lots of people need to have someone to guide them. You do a great job.
Clients tell me, "You are such a good counselor," yet I hardly say a word. I listen to and reflect back to them what they say, am empathetic without buying into the problems they bring up, and elicit strategies for improvement from them based on their own ideas. Getting counseling is the hardest work a client can do. The client has to make a total investment in the process.
Wondergirl, I envy your patients. I truly do. I hope that my new counselor is like you
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