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ok guys, i have to go to bed now.. thank u all SO much for your help. i will do what u said and be back tommorrow so check the thread.. thanks so much i really mean that thank u

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I'll pray for you to have courage. You can do this. And it will be so wonderful in the end!

So what do I say to her when she says why didn't u answer me last night?

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so what do i say to her when she says why didnt u answer me last night?

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You don't have to answer every question. Ignore that one and wait for one you want to answer.

Good luck man... Be strong...

OK thanks good night

For when you wake up-

Have the balls to tell this female your sick and tired of her BS!

Tal, perfect response. Eventually he will get the idea and use our advice.

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Tal, perfect response. Eventually he will get the idea and use our advice.

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Yeah, I was trying to be uplifting, but I see disaster looming around the bend. And the NC for 24 hrs is more for him to rethink this and to regroup than for the relationship.

Steve, I hope you're still hanging in there and taking the good advice that was given to you on this thread. She needs to know that she can't control you. When you do have contact, like Wondergirl says, only respond to respectful questions. If she calls you a jerk, you must tell her that you want to be treated with respect. Tell her that you won't respond to any disrespectful comments, and tell her goodbye. You are not chasing her away... look at how many times she continued texting and calling last night after she saw that she couldn't control you into answering her!

She used every trick in the book last night... she is not about to let go of you. You must get some power in this relationship, or it will always be her pushing you away, and then pulling you back... only to push you away again.

Please come back tonight and give us an update!

Take care...

OK so here's what happened, she called this morning on my break so I answered.( to see if shed be nice) she was and I told her I want a relationship and she can't treat me crappy anymore. So after that we were texting. She then said that she didn't want to end the relationship.. she said I did. Even though she told me she didn't want one anymore. So I end it. And she flips, she's like "i never was gonna do that, u ruined it" she started telling me we can be together and she need her space, ******THEN I asked I can be the only guy, she then says I can do whatever I want. If I want to see other guys I can, I'm not yours anymore were not dating.. she then said she doesn't intend to see other guys, just telling me that she can if she wants. So I said NO WAY. She then said fine, were done.. so sadly I fought about it with her, she then says o jordan you were the best boyfriend I've ever had I want you to know that. Our relationship has just taken its course. But I still want to be more than friends.
So I said no. and now I said rethink it and she said OK I need time and space... so I don't know what happens next she hasn't texted me in an hour

By the way, before she said I just need time and space.. which was after she said were done... she said if I didn't like her terms (of her being able to see other guys when were together if she wants) ((yet she says she doesn't want to, but she can if she wants)) that I should let it go then

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ok so heres what happend, she called this morning on my break so i answered.

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You weren't supposed to be in any communication with her until after 9 p.m.

I know I'm sorry, I couldn't help myself

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i know im sorry, i couldnt help myself

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So we are back to Square One. Last night was a waste.

It couldn't be that bad now??

Let us know what she wants you to do, since she is the one wearing the pants.

What do I do now

Do you think she said I can see other guys if I want don't tell me what to do... just to make me mad? Because she said she doesn't plan on it but she can if she wants

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do u think she said i can see other guys if i want dont tell me what to do... just to make me mad? because she said she doesnt plan on it but she can if she wants

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If you are not in an exclusive relationship, she can date and you can date. Then you two are just friends, not bf-gf.

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She said she needs time to think or whatever, but how do I respond to get her back

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she said she needs time to think or whatever, but how do i respond to get her back

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I have no clue. You didn't follow the program. You're on your own now. She is still in control and manipulating the h--- out of you.

I'm sorry I didn't, I did that thing that one guy said if she's nice talk to her... is there any help you can give me? Please? Is there any other techniuqes?

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im sorry i didnt, i did that thing that one guy said if shes nice talk to her... is there any help u can give me? please? is there any other techniuqes?

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If she's nice AFTER 9 P.M.

The only thing you can do is start over with absolutely NO CONTACT.

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im sorry i didnt, i did that thing that one guy said if shes nice talk to her... is there any help u can give me? please? is there any other techniuqes?

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But she wasn't nice and you continued to argue with her.

What u mean if she's nice after nine?

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what u mean if shes nice after nine?

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You were not to communicate with her until after 9 tonight. THEN, if she would be nice, you could text, etc. If she wasn't nice, then Goodbye.

Ahh

You can tell her, "I want an exclusive relationship with you. If you are not willing to be faithful to me, I'm not interested."

You can tell her, "I want an exclusive relationship with you. If you are not willing to be faithful to me, I'm not interested."


Then you disappear from her life.

What if she doesn't see other people. I think she just said that to make me mad. And she just wants some time to think? Do I put up with it?

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what if she doesnt see other people. i think she just said that to make me mad. and she just wants some time to think? do i put up with it?

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Put up with what? She gives you loyalty and faithfulness, or you're gone from her life.

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what if she doesnt see other people. i think she just said that to make me mad. and she just wants some time to think? do i put up with it?

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Let's see... she's already slept with one other guy, or was it two? Because she was drunk? She's got you right back where she wants you. She's manipulating the ens out of you. What I heard in her twisted commentary was that she still wants to be able to sleep with you, when she pleases... but she's wide open to other guys, too. She might not be seriously looking to sleep with other guys, but she is clearly controlling you, and telling you (in so many words) that she is the one who matters here. Not you. Please take Wondergirl's advice and lay off the texting and calls.

Wow. I tried to say she was manipulating the "dic*kens" out of him... LOL! I knew h*ll wouldn't be passed, but I never suspected that "dic*kens" would be censored!

You we just started talking about sex, and she flipped when I started too. She's like if you really love me you wouldn't of done that and hasn't responded in an hour

After we were done talking about it with each other, then she was like "yah ur all about sex, if you really cared about me you wouldnt of done that" because she was like ooo babe lets talk dirty, so I did.. then she said that and hasn't responded

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ya we just started talking about sex, and she flipped when i started too. shes like if u really love me u wouldnt of done that and hasnt responded in an hour

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"If you really love me u wouldnt of done" WHAT??

Listen how much longer are you going put yourself through this? Most likely she is laughing at you because she knows she have a puppy in you.

Let her go and move on!

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"If you really love me u wouldnt of done" WHAT?????

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I wouldn't of talked dirty to her, she asked me too. Then I did. And when were done she said that

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Listen how much longer are you going put yourself through this? Most likely she is laughing at you because she knows she have a puppy in you.

Let her go and move on!

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She was like your my baby you know that?