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Im sorry guys, Im probably driving you all crazy with all this. I just don't get it. You know, to me, if something's wrong, you fix it. You make things work. I don't play games with people and I don't understand why someone else would. I believe that when you have children, both parents should be trying to make things work instead of all that. I've had a family before and I know what it takes.
So that's where Im weak?Quote:
Originally Posted by Kitkat22
BINGO, see how simple that is. Keep doing it, and the ways of crazy females, won't even bother you, because you will know what to do.Quote:
So just let it go right? Ignore it and let it go.
And when you get one who is not crazy, oh, will you appreciate her!
I think Im starting to see it now. I guess my efforts just make things worse with her. And I shouldn't be worrying about defending myself with her when she blames me. The less I worry about it, the better it will be and she will eventually figure out that her controlling ways don't work on me anymore?Quote:
Originally Posted by talaniman
Don't be sorry.
We all can be weak. Its human to be at times.
Just don't go down a path that isn't right.
That will hurt 10 fold later.
DD
She knows she has you by the short and curlies , and she can do or say anything she wants and you'll still be there waiting in the wings and trying to make things right. I applaud your morals on families etc which is very noble , unfortunately she hasn't got the same morals.
You see that's the weakness , so you have to let her know you won't put up with her cr*p and still be there if it continues.
I really think Im getting it. So the less I act like I care, the more she might actually try to treat me better if she really wants things to work?Quote:
Originally Posted by friend4u178
You are weak because you let this woman make you miserable! When she says jump, you say how high! You depend on a text or a call or a little hope and a smile from her to make you happy. You depend on her to make you happy or miserable. She calls all the shots. She gives you a kind word and your on cloud nine and when she's ticked you hit bottom.Quote:
Originally Posted by darkdays
All the time that little child is caught right in the middle. I guarantee if you don't get your act together and start acting like a man and putting that child first, he will be in therapy by the time he is ten years old. God help these children who are born into a scewed up lifestyle like you and this " ex" have made for him.
I think I got it. I should just act like it doesn't bother me either way. If things are fine, then fine. And if not with her, then it's still fine.
Do you think I was acting like a woman normally would?
You aren't a woman are you?:confused:Quote:
Originally Posted by darkdays
Of course not, but do you think that's how I was dealing with all this?Quote:
Originally Posted by Kitkat22
Women most of them, wouldn't put up with the she's treated you. Women would tell a man who treated them this way where to get off. There are some women who are doormats, but I haven't seen one of the woman on here who are longtime members tell you to be a carpet.Quote:
Originally Posted by darkdays
Women think with their brain and women and most good men would never treat their child or wife or girlfriend the way this woman is doing you. If a man ever tried that I'd take a broom to his head
The guys on this forum treat their children like a true father should. No you're not acting like a woman. Women are nurterers , your ex has nuteured you.
I had no idea you were a woman KitKat.
But anyway, I guess from your perspective, I should be more of a man about things. Getting bent out of shape from her just gives her more power or ego I guess. And just makes me the doormat. I guess it's mainly my fault. I just enabled it and made her this way by falling into it and letting her do it. Im always the one stepping on eggshells. I feel like such a wuss. But I hope you understand, I thought I was being what she wanted. I only took it all the time because I loved her and cared for her. I would have done anything for her, and I have. And all she did was take advantage.
Good for you, you have seen the light! Now start getting you self respect back and leave her alone. Concentrate on the kids. It's her loss!Quote:
Originally Posted by darkdays
You're right. I still wish it could work out with her though, you know.Quote:
Originally Posted by Kitkat22
Do you think it's too late after being her wuss boy for so long?
Yes I do! SorryQuote:
Originally Posted by darkdays
That's OK, you don't have to be sorry. I appreciate your honesty.Quote:
Originally Posted by Kitkat22
I just don't understand if that's trye, then why was everything going so good last Saturday when we were together? She was really happy and she even said she wished it could have lasted longer, even said she loved me.
Give your love to some one that gives it back, once they stop giving then you should also, if you continue giving it you will be the only one ending up being in so much pain. You can't make someone love you, or care for you. Don't hold on the words she said in the past, present, and future. They are only words. Feeling heart broken does not make a different if you are 10 or 100 years old, it will make you do the same idiotic things, beg, hoping for that false hope to come true. Hold on the good memories and dwell on them every moment you get a chance. Make excuses of why you can't move on,and she is the only reason of your happiness. You did your best to make her happy, it didn't work so now move on and do your best to make YOU happy and your children. Think logical not emotional. Instead of using the energy you have left of fighting for the perfect family, why don't you use it to find a perfect life for your kids in the future. Girls comes and go, but your kids will always love you. No matter if your poor, rich, happy or sad, they will always love you. So why don't you put all your love to all your 4 kids and stop loving the person that no longer deserve to feel love from you. God bless and hope your dark days will eventually turn into happy moments.Quote:
I only took it all the time because I loved her and cared for her. I would have done anything for her, and I have. And all she did was take advantage.
Hey everyone, I've got some good news and some weird news. First off, it's over between me and my ex-girlfriend. I did what I know I shouldn't have did, but I did it because I just thought I had to. For the past two days, I emailed her begging and pleading to give things another chance and that I would change and I was sorry about the email thing a few days ago. Well all she did was put me down, tell me it's over and she deserves better and blah, blah, blah. I even called her at the end of the day and boy did she let me have it. I mean she was mean as anything. I could just see the flip side again as I've seen before in her. Well, to say the least, it hit me we were once again for the thousandth time over and done with. And needless to say I was down in the dumps. So, that's done.
Now, not long after that call, I get a call from a job I applied to. They told me I could start next week. So, that's a good thing.
And then this evening, I stopped by the bank to give them my new address. When I went in, there was this woman dropping a bag full of change into the coin counter. She was very attractive. As I was sitting there waiting for the teller, I glanced at her slightly and she did also. Right after I walked out and got into my truck, she came out. So I figured what the heck. So before she got into her car, I rolled down my window and used an opening line, I know, but I had nothing else to think of at the time. I said, "excuse me, but don't I know you from somewhere?" She said maybe. So I asked her name and acted like it might sound familiar. As we were talking, I was trying to look at her hand to see if there was a ring, but it was so hard to because her pretty eyes were so dead set into mine and I didn't want to give it away as to what I was doing. But I did give it one quick glance, and her keys were blocking her finger. I think she saw me look, and then she grabs the keys with her right hand as almost to let me see her left. So after I noticed she was not wearing a ring, and at the end of the bogus conversation I started, I simply asked her if she was with anyone. She said "no, Im not with anyone". So I asked if I could give her my number and she accepted. She had one of the prettiest smiles I've ever seen, and from how she talked, I could almost get a feel that she is a good one. Before we parted ways, she said she will call me sometime.
The whole ride home coming down the highway, I couldn't help smiling, like I haven't smiled in so long. I kept thinking about her, and every song on the radio had me thinking about meeting her. It was almost, maybe even the same feeling I remember having when I met my ex.
So then, when I got home I called my ex. She didn't answer, so I left a message. I told her I apologize for bugging her the past two days, and I told her about meeting this new woman. I thanked her for breaking it off with me, because if she wouldn't have, I would have never approached this woman I met at the bank. I told her I feel happier now, and that there are no hard feelings and I hope we will be able to be friends because of having a child together, and that Im ready to start the new chapter in my life.
Go slow.. rebound relationships can leave you in worse shape. Be cautious! It's okay to date but don't go into it with unrealistic expectations. Take it slow.:)Quote:
Originally Posted by darkdays
How could it leave me in worse shape? Just meeting her has already made me happier than I've been in so long.Quote:
Originally Posted by Kitkat22
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