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Originally Posted by Justwantfair

Yes, you need to be cold for her and for yourself.

Handle it like you aren't concerned about her at all. Go get the camara, pass the camara on and leave. That's it.

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Polite but busy and unavailable,

"Here's your camera, I gotta go!!" See Ya!! (hate ta be ya!!):eek:

OK so if I'm cold then won't she think that I am an a$$hole? And then say: "seeing what youre doing now, im glad were not together"

Now allsfair... I do have just a little hope for us still... wouldnt that fuXX it up for good?

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Is there a way that I could be cold as hell to her but also give her the feeling that I'm also a nice guy so that she is even more confused?

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Originally Posted by crazyoverher

is there a way that i could be cold as hell to her but also give her the feeling that im also a nice guy so that she is even more confused?

comments please....

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My comment is this... get a life
That does not involve someone else to make you feel real.

Just give her stuff back, and be done with it, the rest is only a game you want to play to your advantage.

Hi crazyoverher, I think you are really crazy over her dude.

I know maybe you must be thinking that, she might be missing you or wanting to fix the relationship.

But whatever it is, even if it is the truth, right now you should have less contact with her.

So that, firstly, you can heal better. Secondly, IF she is really sincere about getting back , she will need to do more sincere work. But please don't think about this right now.

Anyway, just pass her the camera and say it with a smile, " there you go, anyway sorry, i really need to go, i got some important things to attend to. Take care! =) "

AND by the way, you are not an dude. If you are really an , you would have torn the ticket away in the first place. Haha , why bother to pass her the ticket... haha

Good luck

I mean you are not an @sshole...

Crazy you need to end this immature game that is going on... like Tal said, mail her stuff back, and like ArtLady said, GET A LIFE that doesn't revolve around trying to get someone to like you... if she doesn't like you, the fu** her! Seriously man, life is to freaking short to do this kind of stuff...

Thanks everyone for your helpful words!

Yes, today I see things diffrently. I hate feeling like I'm on a rollercoaster. My emotions go up and down... but your comments really help center me. I will do as you say.

Ill keep you posted!

Hey everyone...

I was in my car and I heard George Jones' "He stopped loving her today"... it got me to think...

Is it possible to end it with her and yet still love her?

How many of you out there understand that concept and do any of you feel that way?

Just curious...

I still love my ex... I think everyone still "loves" most of the gals they fell in love with. Love isn't always about holding on, sometimes it is about letting go, for sake of happiness, on both parties... I am not sure "falling out of love" ever really happens, you will always care for the person, just not as compassionately as you once did...

HEY MY FRIENDS...

Got a question for you all... I forgot to mention that I have her key to her apartment. Now, she hasn't yet asked me for it.

When I see her to get her camera out of hock... do you think shell ask for it back or should I give it back to her or... not say anything... if the key situation is not brought up, then id think that she is still unsure as to whether she wants me back or not...

What should I do? Advice please

Give her the key back... you have no business having it. Make your own closure and end the "what ifs" yourself... don't wait for her to do it. She may have fogotten you have it, or some other reason... just because she doesn't ask you for it back, doesn't mean she is still thinking about "taking" you back... that just creates more excuses for false hope.

Everybody... im very pi$$ed off this morning. Just thinking about how I have to see her because of the camera situation is upsetting. See the crap that I have done for her and she is treating me like this!!

I'm torn of seeing her again and just dropping off the ticket at her apt. if I could. Why should she get the pleasantry of seeing me if she doesn't know what she wants. You know?

Anyway, just disappointed in everything today. :( and yes, I'm keeping busy but it still weighs upon my mind.

Do you have a mutual friend? Someone who can be an exchange point for the camera?

What's wrong with sending the camera via UPS?

Hi... yes there is a mutual friend... it would take a lot of effort on my part to have him do it but I could.

Yeah... im sure the reason that she would leave is because she wants her freedom to get drunk with all her friends who "whore" around. >:

What a dissapointment in her. I give her my monogamous love and she doesn't know what to do! I'm sure I'm like everyone here when I say that she will regret it later on... but who knows... shell probably make excuses as to why it was best she's not with me.

You have to start getting over this and start to work on healing. It doesn't matter what her reason for the break up was or whether you understand or think that it is justified. The fact is it's over. Work on you, feeling better and healing, not self-pity, anger and denial. I know you are still in the first month. But you have to stop looking for answers and analyzing what you may never have any peace from.

Got to be honest dude... what she does with her life is NONE of your concern, not anymore. She is free to do whatever she wants to do... but, so are you! Be free, and that starts with doing your best to free yourself from worrying about her.

Hey kctiger... thats easier said than done if she hasn't yet officially Broken up with me... u know..

But I hear you. It sux big time... :( damn, why do relationships have to be so fu##ed up?

Is it me or just the woman I chose to be with... her?

Help me out guys... but we must have done something right to have been together this long...

You either give something your all, or give nothing at all... there is a price to pay with either choice when things fall apart