Hi Guys

Thanks for the advice - I agree NC moving forward is best for me - its tricky as I thought I'd kind of got it together just before xmas and then she started all of this and has now messed me up a bit again.

I know it is better to think of it as done and dusted - no hope, particularly for my own safety. I am sure it isn't though. Put it this way, if I was with lets say a new girl and we went out and met her, don't think she'd handle it too well (well maybe in front of me, but not afterwards lol).

But, if she doesn't want to play ball I agree there's no point in trying to convince, manipulate the situation. Its up to her at the end of the day.

J

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Originally Posted by 1927city

Hi Guys

But, if she doesn't want to play ball I agree theres no point in trying to convince, manipulate the situation. Its up to her at the end of the day.

J

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It's actually up to you, remember that!

Well enough time has passed to know I still love her and that for me at least - it was the real deal.

I think I've proven quite difficult for her to 'forget' to be honest - I treated her well and have not caused her a single amount of grief since we split - just focused on improving myself, my life and trying to move on etc.

... and that's the problem - its now not down to me. There's nothing I can say or do to make her change her mind (and keep things good)... so it is down to her, she is the only one who can decide what she wants.

I'm a bit messed up as she appeared to be wobbling BIG time from Nov to 2 weeks ago after I didn't hear from her at all beforehand. Now she's disappeared again (tho its only been a few weeks).

Perhaps it because of Valentines Day... a bit down about it to be honest.

J

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Originally Posted by 1927city

Perhaps it cos of Valentines Day ...a bit down about it to be honest.

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You and everyone else darlin, stupid made up load of crap!!

I'm not bitter though :D LOL