I think if she does call ill pick up, if she texts I won't respond. I don't know, like I said its not going to ruin my birthday if I don't hear from her .

But it really stinks that she basically took our friends away from me. And I try to make plans with them , and they kind of shrug it off and avoid me. So I've started to avoid them.

This is why I'm ready for college, to make new friends and START OVER

so my birthday was awesome, I went to the horse racing track with my family and bet on horses it was amazing =]

and just to let u know, she didn't call and she just sent me something on Facebook so I'm kind of ticked, but over it. It's a weird feeling I don't know

Hey Man,

Don't worry about the small things.

The changeover from high school life to college life is very different, and I feel that what she has done is somewhat natural and understandable.

She's 300 miles away, would you rather her hook up with some guy and then never trust her again, or know that you're both single, you can meet new (and potentially more fulfilling people) and still know that the bond between you both wasn't ended on a bad note?

The one way for you NOT to get her back, is to try to get her back. Go with the flow, have fun.

I would say give yourself a little breathing room from the relationship scene, you don't want to have some girl that you may really like end up being just a rebound right? That's not fair to her, or you either.

Maybe you can contact her via E-mail or Text and just say something like, "I understand that being 300 miles apart would be hard on a relationship. I also understand that meeting new people in college is something that everyone should experience. Even though I am upset that I have lost you, I want you to know that I support you in anything that you do, I care about you deeply and I will always be here if you need to talk."

She'll read that, see how much of a sweetheart you are (even if you copy and paste haha) and maybe she'll think twice about what she has decided, and if she still rather not be in the relationship, at least you know that you went out with pride and that she can't take that from you.

Kevin I am seriously thinking of copying and pasting that. I really am.

We kind of broke up on a good note, saying once when the awkward stage of the breakup was over, we would try our hardest to be friends(which I know everyone says).

I do respect her for her choice , I just don't respect that way I've been treated after the breakup, and my family and friends agree with me

She also might take that for exactly what it says: "I understand and am here for you if you need to talk." Don't send it unless you can handle her talking to you and treating you like a friend that she needs when she's upset, but no intentions of anything more.

In the sexual sense, I am completely over her. The thing that is bugging me is that we were best friends when we were dating. And losing her as a girlfriend was bad, but losing my best friend was even worse. I want to have that relationship when I can call her and she can call me whenever about anything. Especially since college is around the corner, it will be a weird change for us, so I would love to have that contact with her, so if lonely or scared I can call her. Last time we spoke, she said she wasn't ready to be friends, so I said when your ready give me a call. Since then we have talked, its been about 3 weeks now and no call. I think she has moved on cause my friends say she has a crush on some drug dealer, which I mentioned earlier. So I'm not sure what to do. If I should send her a text reminding her that I will always be there no matter what.

I have finally realized that she will only be a memory of mine. It was an awesome year we spent together, and that's all I have left of it, memories.

I'm ready to move on with my life, including starting a friendship with my ex.

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including starting a friendship with my ex.

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Simply amazing how we want the ex for a friend, but we don't put the same on the other friends who come, and go through our lives, but let it be an ex, and oh boy, we do anything to keep them.

The value of a true friend can be seen best from afar, as we are always glad when they come back into our lives, as we know we won't see them as often as we like, when we like. Let it be an ex, and it's a different standard that hardly any of us can meet.

The only way to see it for what it is, is to heal first, and then worry about being friends.

What's simply amazing is I really have no other best friend besides my sister who I can turn to, so I really kind of have to try and keep this friendship afloat

Sorry if that sounded mean but its true, all my friends bailed on me when I started dating my ex, and she was pretty much the only TRUE friend I had

Sorry you depend on her for so much, but by working on your own life, your own friends, your own happiness, you won't depend on her so much.

Be aware that you put so much of yourself into her, you have forgotten who you are, and that's never healthy. Your path is clear, or it should be, heal, regroup, and rebuild your life that you enjoy without her in it. Thats a must, as your starting to sound like a junkie needing his fix, again that can't be healthy.

Leave her alone, and find yourself.

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Originally Posted by pol5019

sorry if that sounded mean but its true, all my friends bailed on me when i started dating my ex, and she was pretty much the only TRUE friend i had

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No offense meant when I say this, but many times someone can feel this way when in reality, it was you who bailed on your friends, not the other way around. It is a common problem when someone becomes MUCH too involved in a relationship - they lose sight of what they had before, so when what they have now is gone, they are left with next to nothing...

No I completely agree with that. My ex and I hung out every day, and its true, my friends did leave me because of that reason. After about two months of this, me and my ex realized we really had no friends anymore cause we would hang out every Friday, Saturday and Sunday. So we took some time off from just me and her chilen. Well she was able to re kindle the friendship with her friends, but mine were stubborn and hurt. So yeah bigbird I agree it was my fault, now a days me and my friends talk, but we rarely hang out, and I would never be able to talk to them like I used to.

You will in time, plus you will make new friends. It was something I did in my first relationship too, but now that it has ended, I value my friends for what they are and I realize that no matter what, they aren't going to bail on me. Its something that I would never do again, but it was a tough lesson to learn.

If you keeps your friends around you, no matter what happens when you breakup, you will have a net of friends to keep you happy and content with your life.

Well that's why I want to go to college already because I want to make new friends.

So I think once when I'm surrounded by new people, I should be fine

Thanks for the advice though bigbird, it seems like everything you say makes al lot of sense=]

7/30/08

Would have been a year ann

Anyone have any good ideas on what I should do tonight to forget about it?

Go to the gym, my 3 year anniversary just passed on the 24th and the only reason I remembered that was because a concert me and my present girlfriend were going to fell on the same day. I must say, I didn't think about it at all until I looked at the ticket stub ha ha

I spent my 4 year anniversary out with my friends. It was a Sunday night, so I couldn't stay out late, but I spent time with my friends and tried to go to bed early. You start to realize that its just another day - nothing special.

Well my day has been good so far, I went to the mall, and bought a hat, some posters, and a 6 foot funnel

So break in the funnel tonight - that should pass the time :p

Just keep your phone out of reach should you get a little too drunk...

Aahha thanks, its been off all day, in case she tried to contact me

It stinks cause I keep thinking of me and her and where I was a year ago today

I wish I can turn the clock back sometimes. I really miss the person she used to be