Lol is about right. :)
In fact, the brain damage is not done by her, but by you.
You voluntarily stalking her over face book constantly, and let your heart dwell in the fantasy.
Living in a fantasy is easy get way and mostly sweet, but it is useless.

In my definition about face book:
“it is virtual place people post their (Photoshop touched) photos and narcissistic information to advertise self to others.
Face book is the most effective place to hurt & revenge ex by posting all rosy color information and happy photos.
If you are allowed to see the ex's face book, you are heart broken over and over again by knowing that how happy he/she is now without me.
If you are blocked from the ex's face book, you pull your hair, and wonder what is going on there, create crazy possible scenario over own jealousy, and get heart broken over and over again.
So called, face book curse.”

So, you did not do NC at all.
Yes, You are very stubborn.

Mmmmm, she blocked me even while in the relationship. So, I could not see her. She unblocked me last week, and yes, she can see my profile. I can only see her picture. Yes I am stubborn. And you must be an angel, by supporting your hubby with his son...

I was wrong about the face book situation of yours. Sorry for inaccurate comment.
Thanks for reading my thread, and I feel calm, feel better, and actually I like to delete it but I do not know how.
As you can see, I am far from an angel. I make more mistake than anybody else.
Actually, it would be really nice if I was an angel, then I would not make any mistake FOREVER. Ha Ha :)
In fact, I am stubborn as well, since I pushed myself hard until I could not take it any longer as you can see.

It seems everyone in this site has same problem in love, and I am learning a lot by myself.
I hope everything works out for you.
That remaining lingering feeling is really stubborn, and it is really hard to get rid of it. Bon Voyage!

Yup, this whole thread has been about that.

How long does "running its full course" take?

Could be forever. Or as long as you want it to.

Hey,

Was just thinking about something as I was reading your thread.

All the advice here is for you. Take it how you wish.
What really helped me when I was down & out, was reading my thread over & over. Taking into consideration the advice I blew off at the time.

There are some amazing people here. Isn't going to name names, but..

And not every answer will resonate. You will know which ones do, if you are willing to listen. To yourself, more importantly.

The point is everyone is different. Kind of like breakups.

Oh, BTW, this relationship wasn't right from the get go.
Go NC, and start living w/her in the front of your mind.

Van.

Thanks guys/girls for all your input. Sorry to be testing your pacience! I am stubborn yes, and I want to "win" maybe. The feeling has been very strong however, I am not used to this happening to me, although it has happened before twice, when I was 17 with my first GF and also 7 years ago with my divorce. It costs me a lot to let go with this girl. I think it is because I never spoke with her again. I am doing quite well emotionally though, compared to a couple of months ago. I just tend to keep wondering... Facebook is an issue, we could almost dedicate a forum to the role of Facebook in relationships!

Abrupt endings can put you in shock I think.
But,when its over,its over.

You get that Facebook forum up and running,I promise I'de drop in and post my candid opinions!

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Thanks guys/girls for all your input. Sorry to be testing your pacience! I am stubborn yes, and I want to "win" maybe. The feeling has been very strong however, I am not used to this happening to me, although it has happened before twice, when I was 17 with my first GF and also 7 years ago with my divorce. It costs me a lot to let go with this girl. I think it is because I never spoke with her again. I am doing quite well emotionally though, compared to a couple of months ago. I just tend to keep wondering... Facebook is an issue, we could almost dedicate a forum to the role of facebook in relationships!

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Maybe you've always get what you want. You said in your post that you are in contact with all your exes and probably a few one nights stand with them as well? Unfortunately this time around you got rejected and it caught you off guard. The chase is exciting isn't it?

No, it is not that simple. I am a pretty serious guy. I do have one night stands sometimes, but when in a relationship, usually very loyal, be it love, work, or friends relationships.

What I am trying to say is, you were able to be friend and get in touch with your exes and was able to have a few one night stand with them for old time sake. With this girl it's different. She didn't want anything to do with you and that's what killed you.

Apart from the one night stands with exes (never had one) I agree that something about this girl killed me. But as I said, I came back to share the fact that she "unblocked" me in FB all of a sudden, that stirred something up in me, but in fact now I am more OK than when I was being blocked. For the rest, I am doing fine, just curious really.

Just keep going about your business.
The one without her, and her Facebook status.

I'm not having the slightest urge to contact her, so that is good I think.

That's very good!
Good luck with the Ibiza project.

I would like to bump into her though, just to see the look on her face.

Cross that bridge when you come to it-if it happens at all.
You might surprise yourself by feeling -nothing.

It is almost impossible not to happen, living very near each other and going out in the same city... I must say, I bump into very unlikely people all the time, but haven't seen her since June... do women have a special radar? Maybe the unblocking thing has to do with that?

Or maybe it was something she just did,for no specific reason.

As for radar,I haven't got a clue, all I know is I don't.

I bump into my ex basically every time I go out.

I don't want to fall in the analyzing trap... (lol) but when I noticed she unblocked me she had some kind of CD cover as picture, as she always has. I have a lot of promotion for my Ibiza sail trip on my page (50 people already signed up) Then she changed her profile pic to one of hers in bikini on the beach in... Ibiza.. lol no wonder I went bezerk with this girl.

How cute-but don't fall into the trap of overthinking-its a waste of time and energy.

Stop looking and wondering.

Just worry about you.

NC, man. All of it.