You know what always makes me feel better? It involves a doorstep and a flaming bag of dog poo.
Cheer up! It could be like a fate thing... she could totally be sparing you the cold sores she has on her crotch. There's always a bright side. :)
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You know what always makes me feel better? It involves a doorstep and a flaming bag of dog poo.
Cheer up! It could be like a fate thing... she could totally be sparing you the cold sores she has on her crotch. There's always a bright side. :)
That's true, you don't know much about this girl... she may be a really good pathological liar.
Who knows, she suddenly decides she wants to move things along a little faster, you go to her apartment. Then as soon as you walk in, you get knocked out and wake up in a bathtub full of ice... missing your kidney. Aah, the beauty of dating.
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Originally Posted by ihatewestseneca
Lol you watch way too much TV, lol...
O_O Like Chaaaarrlieee --> YouTube - Charlie The Unicorn
LOLOL. Great. And I thought I had trust issues when it comes to relationships... haha jkjk
Exactly!! There are reasons things don't work out. Consider yourself lucky! :)Quote:
Originally Posted by ihatewestseneca
It's been a while...
Nothing much has been going on in my life concerning the ex. Overall, I think of her... maybe once a week, and not in a sad way or anything... just something that happens makes me think of her. The image of her... is a flash.
Her friends are hitting on me relentlessly. I have a theory that women like guys who have just gotten out of a relationship, or is currently IN a relationship.
I recently found myself talking to a friend of mine who kept bashing my ex... I asked her how her week was, and she began with, "it was going fine until I ran into..." I ended up defending my ex.. . it was a bizarre moment.
Overall, I'd like to think that I'm "healed" and doing just fine. As of right now, I'm not looking for anyone... just really busy with school and work and writing my theses... mainly just trying to stay alive for the next 2 months until graduation! You're all invited.
I thought about asking the admin to "close" this question... but I have this gut feeling that it's not over yet. I have a strong feeling that something will come up with the ex. Until then...
p.s. - there's a rumor out that I have a girlfriend... I didn't start it. Apparently, my ex found out and has been asking around to see if it's true. Guess she still cares? Either that or she's just curious. Regardless... it's funny.
Update:
To come. I am at the moment a little tipsy. So I am updating about an update. It will come. Hold on tight.
OMG! Tipsy? Update? I'm holding on tight!!Quote:
Originally Posted by ISneezeFunny
WONDERGIRL! I've missed you. Where have you been? (all my life)
I'm here, Sneeze. I'm heeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeere!! Where you been??
So tell us!! I'm dying of suspense!!
I'm afraid the story won't flow unless I'm completely sober. Give me time.
I'll wash dishes for a while and pay some bills. Just forget I'm around.
I've kept everyone in suspense long enough... and I just feel plain bad as this isn't really that big of an update.
This past week was my spring break. Most of my friends went on cruises... me, being the loser, stayed back to work full time. I figured, I'm going to europe in may. I should save some money up.
While I was here, I hung out with my ex's ex best friend... I say "ex best friend" as they are no longer speaking. We hung out... nothing serious, just movies... went out to dinner... etc. had a good time.
Two nights ago (while it was tornado-ing here in the atl), we ended up meeting with a group and going to a bar... and we got a bit reckless (as those crazy college students do... ) and we got a little drunk. We got back home... and she was WAYYYY past drunk... so she asked me to take care of her. Not a big deal... I've taken care of her in the past after she drank...
She spent the night. I took care of her... no problem. In the morning, I wake up to realize... she's wearing my shirt + pj pants. You should have seen the look on my face when I realized this.. it was a look of confusion, desperation, and fear... mix in constipation and you have my look down. I was INCREDIBLY confused as to why she was wearing my clothes when CLEARLY she went to sleep wearing HER clothes.
Over breakfast (I made chocolate chip pancakes... yeah, that's right) I asked her about the clothes... apparently, she had woken up in the middle of the night... changed into my clothes. OK. Not a big deal. Then she continues to tell me that I am a cuddler while I sleep (what can I say... ). I apologized for it, then she replies, "no, I liked it..." and we ended it there. I went to work, she went back home.
Last night, we go out again... different bar, different group... nonetheless, we have a jolly good time (yes, I used the word jolly... if you can imagine an asian guy from atlanta using the word jolly... ) she once again gets hammered... and she asks if she can spend the night again. She does.
This time, she snuggles up really close... and one thing leads to another, and we end up kissing and cuddling. Twas all in good fun... nothing serious happened. This morning, I make omelets, and again, I go to work, she goes back home.
Nothing's weird between us, nor do I see anything serious happening between us, as we have 7 weeks of school left. Regardless, it was one of those things where I can say... "I hooked up with my ex's best friend"
Updates on my ex, she was on a cruise along with most of my friends. When they returned (today), I got an e-mail from my ex saying... :
- her and the new guy are now "official." I am apparently the first person she told...and she wanted me to hear it first before anyone else told me...
I guess I feel special about this. Yay!
- she wants to quash all rumors that have been going on about us. for example:
1. she cheated on me with new guy while we were still dating.
2. he was the reason we broke up
3. she told people I hit her while we were in a relationship...
OK. I believe you. Sort of. Only sort of. #1... fine. #2... hard to swallow as you and him were "together" 2 weeks after we broke up. #3... yeah, it's ridiculous enough that I don't even care if that one goes around. People that actually matter in my life would think that the idea that I would hit a girl (especially a girlfriend) is ridiculous. So... yeah.
-she also wanted us to be friends before we graduate.
y'know. I've given this plenty of thought. I really have. It REALLY stinks that this is how we're going to say goodbye to one another... probably for the rest of our lives... but hey, I think the ex f-ed it up. Really.
I do want my readers' opinions on this. We have 7 weeks of school left, and I seriously doubt that we'll ever speak to one another again. Should I really be friends with her and end on a good note? To be honest, she messed up. She broke up with me (which I'm OK with... ) but then she got with some other guy within 2 weeks. If we had broken up, and neither of us really dated other people... I think a friendship wouldn't hurt. But... the fact that she started to see another guy so soon just kind of puts a kink in my side. Not only that, none of my friends like her... none of her friends like her. She has NO friends except her new guy's friends... and HE doesn't really have friends either.
Someone once told me, "this is the legacy she's leaving behind. what's the legacy YOU want to leave behind?" at this moment, people are supporting me. They're saying that I did nothing wrong. But I DO feel bad about her losing her friends. I know what tal would say: screw her. She made her bed. She lays in it. Right tal?
Another thing I decided was that instead of going straight to med school, I will be taking a year off... doing research + working... taking a break. I'll be going to med school in August of 09. I have a job secured so it's not a big deal, but it does mean I will be in atl for another year. Who else is staying in atl? That's right... my ex. Ex's new guy is a 3rd year, so he'll be here as well... I'm assuming they'll stay together... although people are speculating that they'll be broken up within the next 3 months. We shall see.
Sorry that was so long but hey, you guys wanted to read about my life. I'll keep you guys updated on the ex situation + girl I hooked up with... although I don't think there'll be anything to update on until May-ish.
Stay funky.
Reread your post before you decide because as I remember, your feelings were all over the place around Christmas break, turns out you were right though. As to your present update, you need a bigger bed.
Aaaaaaaaaaaaaahhhhhhhhh!! Finally. Another great read!
Does the girl get to choose what you make for breakfast, or do you decide?
I say continue NC for the ex. Or do you want her back?
? Whatever do you mean tal? My feelings for her.. of course, they were. We had just broken up.
I DO need a bigger bed... but I already have a queen.. . do I dare upgrade to a king?
... then the girls'll never leave.
Wondergirl:
Usually, I choose whatever I want to make the girl... but if she has any preference, I'm open to suggestions.
I had no question in my head about nc. I feel it's not worth replying to her e-mail... nor is it worth talking to her. I see her on campus from time to time... and I say hi. But that's it. A simple head nod... hi... then it's done. I'm civil, not friendly.
As far as her coming back... not a chance in hell. I have this thing with trust... where if someone loses my trust, it's impossible for them to gain it back. I'll forgive them fine... but I'll never trust them again. So... yeah, it's done and over with.
Yyyyyaaaaaaaaayyyyyyyy, Sneeze!!
I will stay funky!
As for the ex... "screw her. she made her bed. she lays in it." haha, he would say that. And I would have to agree. She messed with a good thing for her own selfish reasons, and she is continuing along that selfish path by wanting at least one more buddy before school is over with. I think she thinks you're an easy target as you have a history and I bet she thinks you still want her (im sure you dont). Here's what I would do... either reply with "nopes, nopes, nopes" or just continue along the righteous path of NC.
As for the ex's ex friend... dude... you're a slut. Haha. I don't really have any advice on that... so I'm not going to try.
ihatewestseneca:
She doesn't want "one more buddy"... she wants "at least one buddy"... seriously, if you come to my school (of 10,000) and ask about her, she doesn't have a single friend here. It's really sad. She had the rep of a saint for 3.5 years. People used to come up to me and ask, "how'd you get her?!?"... and now, it's more along the lines of... "oh her? yeah, f her"
I'm not so sure she thinks I want her... as I cut her out completely and she's been getting updates from my friends about my life and has found out that I've been going on dates. She once found out that I went on a date with this girl (remember that girl who said "we need to set up ground rules?") and she freaked out... started calling my friends and asking if we're in a relationship... etc. so I'm sure she knows I want nothing from her.
I AM a slut. I was recently deemed the following monikers:
Narcissistic masochist - I am dr. house.
Karma - I do bad things and I don't get what's coming to me...
Man whore -... kp did that one.
Personally, I would leave things between the ex alone as why change a situation that's working so well, and let people say what they want. By the way I'll be visiting the grandkids in Stone Mountain this summer, so if you hear a lot of hooting and hollering, that's us.
Well, I own a shirt that says "manwhore" and ladies enjoy it. Girls at school will read it and give me this look like "who are you kidding" and then I say "for you, 30$" then you know, exchange them digits.
I have one that says..Quote:
Originally Posted by ihatewestseneca
... ready?
... here goes...
I LIE TO GIRLS
I completely agree.Quote:
Originally Posted by talaniman
On the stone mountain thing... hope you're prepped to get in an argument over who won the civil war.
... on my most recent trip, I got in an argument with a nice gentlemen about who won the civil war. Seriously.
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Originally Posted by ISneezeFunny
Haha, of course it was the south! Psh
Word, man. WORD. Let your ex stew in her own BS. Ugh..
Oh sneeeze. You were sort of slutty this past break, but whatever. It's college (yeeaaa~). My advice is that you live it up before you leave the nest.
Best,
J
Sneeze
I think you need to remember this split only happened about 3 months ago , that's not that long for a relationship that went for over 3 years. The fact that you know all this "stuff" about her and what she thinks etc is not doing you any good in my opinion. Even though you seem like your pretty much over her , you do seem to me to hold a fair bit of resentment against her.
Let her think what she likes , let her do whatever she wants and let her and her friends think and say whatever they want to about you. It doesn't matter.
as far as my resentment, it's not really much of a resentment but apathetic disappointment. I really don't care much about what happens with her life... just a bit disappointed that who I thought she was... isn't really her.
I do not go out of my way to find out about her... but people constantly come up to me to tell me about her.
At times, I tell people I don't want to hear it. Really.
as far as my life, I think I'm doing OK =D
midterm week. Yikes.
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Originally Posted by ISneezeFunny
Too right!
Well, if you are both staying in atl for a year, I wouldn't rush into the friends thing. Maybe in 5 months or whenever you feel ready. But right now things might be too fresh. No rush, just keep doing your thing.
I'm glad you're doing well Sneezy. You are an inspiration to all us guys who have trouble moving on. With regards to the whole friends thing, well I would let it happen naturally. At the moment she wants your verbal agreement to a friendship in order to make things easier, maybe even ease her guilt. However, I would just let it happen when it happens. What I mean is that someday you two may eventually run into each other and have something more to say than "Hello." Maybe you'll even have a class or work together. Conversation will more than likely occur naturally and by then there will be no more bad feelings. From there a friendship can develop, heck maybe even a relationship will blossom again, but one step at a time. Don't force a friendship, just let it occur on its own.
I agree confused. Cept the thing is, I'm pre-med... working in a research lab. She's an educational studies major... and she doesn't have a job. Therefore, once we say goodbye @ graduation... chances are, we won't ever see each other again... except for the 1 year she and I will be here in atl.
I was also told today that she is staying an extra year... but due to a lack of a job, she will be living with the new guy.
The trend continues.
You never know what could happen Sneeze... if I remember correctly you didn't see the break up coming. And I'm sure when you were in the relationship that breaking up was the furthest thing from your mind... just like the idea that you may never see her again... stranger things have happened.Quote:
Originally Posted by ISneezeFunny
I need a woman's opinion on this...
Remember NEW GIRL (the girl who said we needed to set some ground rules?) https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relati...161688-15.html (post 148)
Well... we haven't spoken to one another in a while... she went on spring break... I worked... midterms... etc. anyway, this morning, I get an e-mail from her saying the following message:
Sneezy:
I hope your spring break went well. I had a blast! We should meet up for lunch soon. Are you free April 2? Say... 12:30? Let me know!
I didn't think much of the e-mail until I read April 2.
... April 2?!
That's 2 weeks away! It's not like we're far from one another... she lives in the apartment building next to me... we go to the same school...
I don't know, it made me do a double take. It's one thing to plan a trip 2 weeks in advance... but to plan a lunch 2 weeks in advance is a bit weird to me. Is it not? I admit, she's busy... I'm busy... but I wouldn't plan a date 2 weeks in advance, much less lunch.
This post reads as if I'm freaking out about it... I am not. I just thought it was really odd. It's one of those things that make you think... "is this a joke?"
"ground rules" and a set date... hmmmm... could be she likes to have some sort of control over things. Not necessarily a bad thing. Or maybe she just has a lot of stuff going on and wants to make some time for you because she likes you...Quote:
Originally Posted by ISneezeFunny
Maybe she meant march 21st. And just was thinking about April and forgot the "1" lol.
That is strange...
Hey Sneezy. Well first to respond to one of your earlier posts. I definitely understand that the different paths you and your ex are taking might result in you two never seeing each other again. However, I still think you should let a friendship grow naturally. The day you two say goodbye at graduation may be the day you two say hello to a friendship. It's possible you may never see each other again, but remember it's a very small world.
As for your new "dilemma." Well as I always say, we can never really know what a persons intentions are. Maybe she wanted to give you ample time to schedule, maybe she is really busy, or maybe she wanted to make it clear that its just a friendly get together instead of a date by letting you know she is not in a hurry to see you. Really though, who the heck knows.
If I were you I would wait a day or two to respond. Than when I do e-mail her I would tell her that lunch sounds great but it seems that week is a rather busy one for you (school, work, etc.) so at the moment you are not sure you can make it. However, you will let her know for sure by the end of the week. Tell her that it was great hearing from her and that you will e-mail her soon.
That's what I would do, but wait for some other responses. I'm sure you'll get some good ideas soon.
Yeah, she's a very independent (and business like) girl. Think ivanka trump. Seriously. Wears expensive clothing... jewelry... but ready to stomp your balls out in a second... but also the sweetest girl in the world. Hands down.Quote:
Originally Posted by mafiaangel180
For some reason, I'm attracted to that.
I e-mailed her back and replied, "april 2..? plan much? not sure if I'll be free that day...let me know closer to the date"
Wow... that's sexy in a scary way. I don't even have balls, yet oddly I felt it when you said that.Quote:
Originally Posted by ISneezeFunny
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