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Dr. Dyer has a PhD

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Actually, he doesn't. He has an MD. He's a psychiatrist.

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Originally Posted by Wondergirl

Actually, he doesn't. He has an MD. He's a psychiatrist.

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On the sheet of paper hanging outside his little office thing in the main lobby there's a list of everyone. It says PhD

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On the sheet of paper hanging outside his little office thing in the main lobby there's a list of everyone. It says PhD

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Look again. PhDs can't prescribe medication. His Web site says he's an MD.

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Look again. PhDs can't prescribe medication. His Web site says he's an MD.

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I could've sworn it said PhD... maybe it was someone else on the list?

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I could've sworn it said PhD.... maybe it was someone else on the list?

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The facility contains MDs and PhDs. You know the difference, right?

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The facility contains MDs and PhDs. You know the difference, right?

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Yeah I know the difference. One's psych one's med

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yeah I know the difference. one's psych one's med

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Wrong. Both can be psych. The Ph in PhD doesn't mean psych. It means philosophy.

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Wrong. Both can be psych. The Ph in PhD doesn't mean psych. It means philosophy.

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O okay

An MD = medical doctor -- a general practitioner or has any kind of specialty for which he would have gone to school longer (orthopedic doctor, psychiatrist, medical examiner, brain surgeon, gastroenterologist, etc.).

A PhD = doctor of philosophy -- perhaps does research of some kind (psychology, food science, animal husbandry, education, library science), may teach in a university/college setting, may counsel/supervise in a clinical setting.

Only a medical doctor (MD) can legally write prescriptions and control a patient's meds.

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An MD = medical doctor -- a general practitioner or have any kind of specialty for which he would have gone to school longer (orthopedic doctor, psychiatrist, medical examiner, brain surgeon, gastroenterologist, etc.).

A PhD = doctor of philosophy -- perhaps does research of some kind (psychology, food science, animal husbandry, education, library science), may teach in a university/college setting, may counsel/supervise in a clinical setting.

Only a medical doctor (MD) can legally write prescriptions and control a patient's meds.

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OK

I would like to remind everyone of this topic- given my previously stated circumstances, is it really all that wrong to be obedient

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I would like to remind everyone of this topic- given my previously stated circumstances, is it really all that wrong to be obedient

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Yes, because then you lose who you are.

You had said in your original post, "when a female loves a male, she completely submits to him in every way and he is her superior." No. The correct way is this: "when a male and female truly love each other, she completely submits to him in every way and he to her." The Bible says they become as one flesh.

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I would like to remind everyone of this topic- given my previously stated circumstances, is it really all that wrong to be obedient

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Yes. As my analogy... obedience is for dogs. Dogs obey their masters. When we are in a relationship, we are partners. No one is more important than the other.

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I would like to remind everyone of this topic- given my previously stated circumstances, is it really all that wrong to be obedient

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I haven't forgotten the other topics. :)
You needed to hear about the medical issues because they can play a large part in what you think is going on in your brain. I think you really do need a good counselor who you can trust and be open with in person about everything you have said here. I think you need more people that you can truly trust.

Being obedient is what you want a dog or child to be. You are neither.

I am concerned that you are engaged at 17 years of age and that you place so much of yourself in this person's hands. You have been through a lot and I know you are wanting the stability that you think you have found. I don't think I have seen how old your fiancé is. Does he really understand the amount of responsibility you are putting on him? Do you?

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I haven't forgotten the other topics. :)
You needed to hear about the medical issues because they can play a large part in what you think is going on in your brain. I think you really do need a good counselor who you can trust and be open with in person about everything you have said here. I think you need more people that you can truly trust.

Being obedient is what you want a dog or child to be. You are neither.

I am concerned that you are engaged at 17 years of age and that you place so much of yourself in this person's hands. You have been through a lot and I know you are wanting the stability that you think you have found. I don't think I have seen how old your fiancé is. Does he really understand the amount of responsibility you are putting on him? Do you?

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He's sixteen. And also in need of the stability.

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Yes, because then you lose who you are.

You had said in your original post, "when a female loves a male, she completely submits to him in every way and he is her superior." No. The correct way is this: "when a male and female truly love each other, she completely submits to him in every way and he to her." The Bible says they become as one flesh.

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I'm not that religion, but that is a very good quote Wondergirl.

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Yes. As my analogy...obedience is for dogs. Dogs obey their masters. When we are in a relationship, we are partners. No one is more important than the other.

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Yes, true

And like a dog, I enjoy the rewards of a pleased master. Such as more affection

That may be well and good for young people in love now, but as you grow, and learn, and change, so will your attitude. So will his. The realities of life for adults is much different at 20, than at 16.

Even more so at 25. Lets be real, how many young loves stay that way forever? Its easy now with hardly any real life pressures, to be, and act certain ways and enjoy it. But forever? Hardly any of us escape the need to make adjustments in our adult life, where love doesn't pay the rent, or change diapers.

Not trying to change your mind, just trying to make you aware of the coming changes.

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Yes, true

and like a dog, I enjoy the rewards of a pleased master. Such as more affection

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I am sorry but I think that you have gotten some sound advice her to see a counselor and try to work through some of your issues.

Do you really believe the stuff you are saying??? 'a pleased master'??? That is not what a husband is, not in any country or culture! A true marriage, a true love does not have a inferiority and superiority dynamic. Its two people coming together to love and support one another for life.

You really need to take the advice of the others seriously and go to see a counselor, really what have you got to lose if you are emotionally and mentally sound in thinking this way a professional will back you up. If not you may be able to learn something about yourself... which is always a good thing.

Best of Luck.

My fiancé used to be controlling to an extent, but stopped a couple months ago. He said it makes him feel guilty. I love it when he acts like how he did, why would he feel guilty?

He never used to have a problem with it. He would order me to do things with no problem. Now he says it makes him feel guilty. I asked him why, but all he said was "Drop it"