I'm from Southeast asia, its(not everyone) not as open minded as europe or america or other continents. Some examples, The generation before me mostly have just 1 partner and then they get married. When their marriage is a mistake, they stick to it. Just a rough idea.

3 yrs of relationship, brought me to another level. Just hope the pain goes away fast enough. My ex is a total confusion that she don't even know, just like I was when I broke up with my ex before her.

The pain will go away-don't dwell on it-keep busy.

Almost 1 year, time passes fast. I have not recovered fullly yet, didn't know it would take so long...

Four years is a long time,but you know,you'll get there in the end.
Patience and time will do it.
Take care.

I'm back guys, I'm back with the scar in my heart. A tragic makes someone grow, and growing at a fast phase really makes me feel I'm not my age. I'm 20 and its hard for me. It has been some time... I felt, strange. Wondering how long it would take to get over this girl.

I broke NC once when I met her, texted and called to have a friendship, but she was acting strangely, strange enough I did not notice it early enoough. We met up, and she's got a new boyfriend that she don't have the guts to tell me about it. We had a short dinner and drove her home. Her respond fluctuates, lying a lot in guilt ( can be sensed ). At last I sent her a text to end the friendship for good. Nobody wants a lier for a friend.

I'm trying hard to get rid of her. There's absolutely no contact for more than half a year, but it doesn't seem to work as I get dreams about her, bad dreams. Can't believe I still got the butterflies in stomach. DO I NEED professional help?

No I don't think you need professional help. You need more time. More time with which you can continue rebuilding your life without her in it. You had a four year relationship, don't expect to be completely healed in a certain amount of time. What works for some doesn't always work for others. Keep up the no contact!

Haven't seen for some time tiger, its hard at this age, because I can't go out dating people because It hurts even to see couple, or felt any romance with anyone. I don't like to carry hatred and the thought of revenge. I actually have nobody to tell my problems to, that's the hard..