Ask Me Help Desk - I think I really messed up! Not giving space.

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Originally Posted by Romefalls19

Yes you can! Last time I checked, those phone have a hang up button, so next time simply press it

This.

She was cheating...

update:

So I found out that she wasn't needing space but she was cheating on me for the second time.. She was jerking me around and everything. She used me to help her move and as a front for her family (She was having an affair with a married man w/ kids). It was a HUGE mess. BUT I pulled it together and went NC since June.

But then around Sept. She called me with a blocked number.I got an email from her but I didn't answer it. Then I got like 5 calls on both of my phones from an unknown # so I thought it had to someone really needing to contact me so I answered. Here is the kicker, she called me the day before MCATs =(
When I realized it was her I told her I had to go and hung up.

Last week, she called and texted me again. Saying that she would like the stuff I offered to her. I didn't respond and she txted me a picture of our dog. That was such a punch in the gut, I love that dog so much. Sigh... But I pulled it strong and did not meet with her.

And today is her birthday, I had to force myself not to call or email happy birthday. It is amazing how well I was doing and this can still trip me up a bit. But overall, it has been a rough few months but I see better days ahead...

here is the question, what the heck should I do with all the pictures and cards... Parts of me wants to trash it and other parts of me thinks shouldn't be too emotional and just drop it off at her parents. Man I miss my dog, she doesn't take care of the dog.. her parents has the dog.. go figure...

Cheated on you a second time? After that, I think you can pretty much trash the pictures and cards. It will only remind that you dated a cheater.

You've come a long way Idanny. You did well in igoring her. It sounded like she just wanted a booty call. Stay strong and don't give in! Keep it up!

You re doing well-as for your ex-good riddance to bad rubbish.

Thanks for coming back, and updating us. Seems you have been doing well on your own, and you are finding out the only good thing about this whole situation was the dog.

I'm not going to lie, it has been pretty rough and its still pretty rough... I just realized that its been quite awhile, it feels like when I quit smoking almost... its super hard but sometimes when I hear/see a cig I still want to try it.. Same thing with the ex, I hear her and somewhere inside of me wants to talk to her and see her... But also like smoking, I know there isn't anything good that can come from it.

Old habits do die hard, for sure, but your on the right path. I think when you resolve the "stuff" issue, then it gets better. Her phone calls have stirred up some old feelings, but they will pass in time.

So should I just trash the stuff? But man I miss my dog LOL

Send it to her. That ends her involvement, but the dog, honestly I don't know how she would feel about that, or her parents. You sure could ask and find out though. As I remember you bought the dog together, so no telling how she reacts to that. Just don't fall into a trap you can't get out of.

Cool.. ill probably do that... don't know why, but I feel bad for not saying happy birthday to her even though she screwed me over and all..

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Originally Posted by ldanny

cool.. ill probably do that... dont know why, but i feel bad for not saying happy bday to her even though she screwed me over and all..

Its good you didn't though. You still hold power.

OK so today I dropped off everything with her parents and I just texted her, told her that her stuff is with her parents.
... man I love her parents, they were still so nice to me still. Life sucks... but on the bright side, I saw my dog..

I hope you can heal for real now. Good luck and take care..

I hope so too.. I think she got the hint after I didn't contact her for her birthday... for some reason, I'm a little sad she didn't respond back to me.. man I just need to stay away and really heal

Wow.. the year has past so quickly.. for a mini update.

She tried to contact me a few months back but I ignored her and I have been NC since last year. It always gets hard around the holidays but overall it hasn't been too bad. Moving on and (trying) not look back.

So for all the people that just broke up, there is a light at the end of the tunnel! You will feel a rush of emotions but just follow the NC rule! I was a lot better once I started really following NC!

Happy Holidays!

I love it when a plan comes together, have a great holiday Dan!

Awesome!