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Originally Posted by odilians10

lol @ torri's post sorry about the confusion, yes tal i've let him go and is healing now..

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Lol, okay, because I was about to say, "Yes, of course we can be friends?" xD

I'm glad to hear you're healing! Keep your chin up; you can do it! :)

Though it doesn't matter becos I'm ova it, but I've a question I just want to understand, I asked him if he would be happier if I let him be and he never answers that question... why?

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Originally Posted by odilians10

lol @ torri's post sorry about the confusion, yes tal i've let him go and is healing now..

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Good for you. Now what are you doing for yourself? You have some behaviors you recognize as not working for you. Have you taken steps to address them?

Yes, by cutting off all contacts

So my ex sent me 3 emails to talk when I got the chance and I did text him and he didn't say much except that he was going through a lot during the past months, and said to be cool, what do I do now, I'm mostly afriad that strong feelings might come back, do I cut him off and get over my feelings completely before I start being cool w/him. I don't know what to do, if to stick to my original decision or give another shot?

Giving it another shot hasn't worked in the past, stick to NC and work on yourself!

Thanks

Just because he is reaching out to you doesn't mean you have to reach back. Nor does it means he wants you back.

You should continue doing what your doing and move forward instead of backwards.

Thanks liz, I figured that out and I've changed my # today, so that's it for me... NC for eva

Good luck with that decision!

We broke up over a yr ago because we both have a genetic disorder which prevented us from ever been together if we plan on having children together. I had so much anger towards him, but I got over it, moved on and have since dated someone else for a few months. I moved back to the same state and I texted him after a yr of no contact because I thought I was over it and was ready to be friends with him. We are both single and we tried not to talk about the past. We both do care about building our friendship but one thing led to another and we had sex, we agreed not to be friends with benefits, but we both started having little emotions and I started getting very angry at him again, and sent him a very mean email that I didn't want to ever speak to him ever again for the rest of our lives. My issue is now I feel extremely bad and I've apologized but he ignores me and is driving me crazy. How do I handle this situation ***?

The best way to handle it is to leave him alone for good. You obviously cannot be friends, because as soon as you started seeing each other, you've had sex. You're not completely over him either as you still harbor all that anger.

You're "over" them when you completely don't care one way or the other. If you're angry and then run to apologize - it's just a mess. So got back to NC and stick to it to truly move on from this unhealthy situation.

I always promise my boyfriend I would change my atitude of being so fast to break up w/him even sometimes with out a fight, but he always stands by me and gives me chances. Even if I'm extremely mean to him, he still tells me to stop over reacting. Him taking me back does that mean he truly loves me? We ve been together on and off for 5yrs...

Your threads were merged, but my question is when is this change supposed to happen? After the next break up? If you have no confidence he cares after 5 years of knowing him, and off and on in a relationship, what's the point of doing this all over again.

You have personal issues to work on, and next time may be too late. Maybe its best to leave him alone until you do deal with your issues. Obviously you seem hard to take for long, even though he likes the sex. HMMMMMM!!