Ask Me Help Desk - I can't be with him because of this.

After reading your other threads it best to stay away from him. You can say a few words with him but you very need to watch yourself and keep your feelings in check because your old feelings might get mix in while your helping him out but I think it good you want to be there for him because no one likes to see a person down. Btw, sorry about your miscarriage.

I think its time to focus on you, and leave everything else alone. I have read your other threads, and can't see how you go from here

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relati...me-259523.html,

To this post.

Its been so long.

Hey guys! Its been a while! Let me fill you in!

got my license! finally!
working everyday
bootcamp jan12
saw my ex =/
my boyfriend is coming home in december

Its been pretty hetic, but I love it.
With my ex, we talked and I kind of cried a bit because I still had so many feelings left over. He's never going to grow up, and unfortunately, when he does, ill be half way across the world... or married to my boyfriend...

Don't get me wrong I love my boyfriend, and these are true feelings...
But I'm still caught up on my ex. Its only been four months, but its time to move on don't you think? We've been doing NC since we saw each other (we saw each other on the 1st.) and he texted me on the 18th saying "for what its worth, it was worth all the while." I asked him what he was talking about and he wrote "its a song, i thought about you."
And that was it. We stopped talking again.

He drives me crazy, because he knows I'm with my boyfriend, and he flaunts his girlfriends around, why text me things like that?
This isn't the kind of stuff that I need to have before I leave for bootcamp.. >.<

First I don't think you are being entirely fair to your current boyfriend if you still have feelings left for the ex.

Second, can't you block phone numbers to receive texts from him. If you allow him to keep in contact with you then you are only going to prolong the emotional issues.

I would go as far as changing your phone number... it pretty much needs to be like you are erasing him from your life, and vice versa.

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Originally Posted by kctiger

I would go as far as changing your phone number...it pretty much needs to be like you are erasing him from your life, and vice versa.

I did change my number, but a mutul friend of ours gave it to him. =/

For the shake of your current BF stop and prevent further communication from your ex. Be careful with your feelings.

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Originally Posted by chuff

First I don't think you are being entirely fair to your current boyfriend if you still have feelings left for the ex.

Second, can't you block phone numbers to receive texts from him. If you allow him to keep in contact with you then you are only going to prolong the emotional issues.

My current boyfriend knows about our long past, and understands that. He knows I won't leave him for anyone else. I love my boyfriend.

I don't really think your current BF is the most important person in this situation right now... YOU are. You have got to find some way of deleting him from your life! I know you have had a long past and I am more than versed on what boot camp will do (you will not have time to think of anything then). For your own good, and for your own development you need to literally pretend like he is dead for now. I know it sounds harsh and I don't mean to be that way, but it is the only way to emotionally get over someone. Compare it to drug adicts going through detox. Four months is not a long time either. It takes A LONG time to get rid of the emotional baggage of a long and loving relationship. You NEVER want to try and commit to something when there are some leftover feelings still lingering.

Haven't we learned, that talking to exes for whatever reason, brings confusion, and question we can't answer?

Get real with the NC, and given your new found happiness, hang up on him, when he calls since you can't just tell him leave you alone, and make it stick!

Its about what you do, not what he does.

I don't think you love your boyfriend. I'll be the first one to say it and you may disagree, but if you did you wouldn't be struggling with these feelings about your ex. I love my fiancée, very much so, and I still talk to my ex. She texts me every once in awhile(once a week?) and never do I have to post it on here because I have fully healed from that heartbreak, I don't think you have and until you have I can't see you giving your all to anyone else and that isn't fair.

Change your number, be more careful who you give your number to and go NC, think about your boyfriends feelings.