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Just so we know how long she has been going through this drama. What I see is, things getting worse, not better. He is doing little to show love, just the opposite.

Cher13, the only thing worse than staying with a man like this for one more day, is staying with him for the day after that! Get yourself out now while you still have some dignity!

Thank you all for your advice I feel stronger listening to it...
I left him... I have before though and when I do it goes through a pattern of him saying so what you're a fat stupid blah blah blah I never wanted you or would never marry you your just a mistake the we go a day of not talking and he starts texting me small talk asking if id like to hang out as if nothing happened then I address the problem he says he's sorry he never meant anything he's going to try and he loves me so much blah blah blah then a few days were back where we started... I do NOT want to follow that pattern again! I don't call or text but when he texts or calls me I feel weak and want to/do answer I tell him I'm moving on from your abuse and I want no contact with you but he just keeps texting/calling till I answer and feel sad enough to accept his appoligy... how do I stop this?!

Don't give in. if he calls or texts you, just ignore him. Don't talk to him for anything. Look where it's gotten you in the past

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Originally Posted by Cher13

thank you all for your advice i feel stronger listening to it....
i left him... i have befor tho and when i do it goes thru a pattern of him saying so what your a fat stupid blah blah blah i never wanted you or would never marry you your just a mistake the we go a day of not talking and he starts texting me small talk asking if id like to hang out as if nothing happened then i address the problem he says hes sorry he never ment anything he's gonna try and he loves me so much blah blah blah then a few days were back where we started... i do NOT want to follow that pattern again! i dont call or text but when he texts or calls me i feel weak and want to/do answer i tell him im moving on from your abuse and i want no contact with you but he just keeps texting/calling till i answer and feel sad enough to accept his appoligy... how do i stop this?!?!?!?!?

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He can't contact you, and you won't see it, if you block his number. Block everything, so there are no reminders, and no temptation! Stay away from places he goes. You CAN get him out of your life if you are serious about doing it.

I have had a real rollercoaster with a break up... but this time I was dumped by the same person I've decided to give the No Contact a real effort... so far... its really working. My mind isn't racing about what they're doing... I am more able to focus on me and my enjoyment. The first few days... or week were absolute agony... but you can do it. You deserve more.

ENOUGH. Every woman deserves to be treated like a princess. Every woman deserves respect. Every woman should be happy and you are not. Get out. You stay with this guy because you are worried you won't find someone else, but you're wrong. You will. And next time look for someone that will look at you an only want to make you happy 100% of the time. Don't settle for less, you deserve more.

Get rid off him, the lady is probably telling the truth that's why he doesn't tell you that he's going to see his son. And he's being mean to you because he knows that he is doing wrong...