Please excuse the wide array of emotions. And if things don't make sense sometimes.. I'm just typing what pops into my head.


Ex,

I have mixed feelings about this. I want you in my life as a friend, but I know that no matter how far along down the road we get, there's always going to be that tension. I can't believe that you lied to me about her. You would sit at work on the computer just to keep in touch with her. That is PATHETIC. She is three years younger than you, she JUST turned 18, and I'm really ing angry about this. Whatever kind of "relationship" you guys had before we were together should be forgotten by now. I know there was nothing but pure physical attraction with you two. I gave you that, and so much more. I moved across the country with you when you went off to college. I supported you, cooked for you, took you places, and you all over me. Speaking of which, you just graduated from one of the most prestigious motorcycle schools in the (world, probably), and ALL YOU WANT TO DO IS SEE HER. I know you're online, all ing day. You are a loser. You claim that you want to be with your friends/family right now.. but yet you sit on your ing computer talking to her, sending her messages, etc. You are such a -whipped douchebag. I hate you. But I still care about you. I hope you have fun throwing your education away and basing your decisions around this one girl. I hope she cuts your ing heart out and slices it up, then hands it to you on a platter. You deserve that after that you pulled with me. We were together for a year and a half. And you claim that you were telling everybody that you were planning on breaking up with me months ago? And you tell me two weeks before we move back home? What was that you pulled in the hotel room on the ride up here last week, you were being so ing affectionate I thought you'd changed your mind and wanted to be with me. You will realize how much I gave in our relationship, and you'll miss my touch, my laughter, my personality. You'll come running back. And you know what? Right now I'm not sure if I'm strong enough to tell you no. This past week has dragged on like a month to me. I don't want you to completely cut me out of your life. You know what, I ing hate you for what you did. You threw me away just to get with some girl you've been obsessed with. You're in love with an illusion. You are a self-centered piece of . How can you accept the fact that, just days before you broke up with me, I wrote you a letter letting you know how much I love you and care for you.. yet you still stood there and watched me ing fall apart when you broke up with me. You stood there and watch me ing cry, you saw my heart shatter. I gave you my soul, and you ripped me apart just because you want to sleep with that girl. I ing hate you. If I could, I would wish you to feel the way I feel. I think about you all the time, and it's emotionally devastating. I want you to know the pain of a broken heart, I want you to cry yourself to sleep at night. I want you to have to force yourself to eat, sleep, or drink just like I have been doing for the past three weeks since our split. I want you to ing fall apart. I hope that someday, when you give your heart out, they sabotage it and watch you cry, without showing any glimmer of emotion. You'll know how much this hurts, and you will realize that you are a ing .

No, I don't want you to be in pain. I want to hold you, and kiss you, and love you. I want your arms around me, I want your breath in my ear, and I want your warmth at night. I want to forgive you and put this behind us. I don't want this animosity. I want to talk to you all the time. I miss everything we had. I miss being anxious and happy for you to come home from school, I miss falling asleep with you, I miss doing absolutely nothing on Saturdays with you, I miss your tickles and our wrestling matches. I am still in love with you and I'd give my world up to have you back. I want you to want me, so bad. I want you to think of me at night when you're falling asleep. Most of all, I just want you.


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I feel like a psycho, I feel weak and I hate this. I know this will pass, but it hurts so much.

Dear Ex,

I could not have been more happy with the year and a half that you spent with me. It was my first relationship, and I was worried about how the experience would be, but you showed me how wonderful loving someone can be. And being loved is by far the greatest thing I have ever felt. Hundreds of my fondest memories have you by my side, and you became one of the most important parts of my life.

Unfortunately, your feelings changed for our relationship. So you ended it. I still don't know what I did to make you leave me. You tell me you love me, I tell you that I love you, but it's not enough. And then you tell me you've been feeling like this for the past 10 weeks. 10 weeks? Why didn't you talk to me about it? I was new to everything, trying to be a good boyfriend to the best of my advantage, I haven't had the experience you have. But, one thing I'm sure is that a relationship relies on good communication. It is not good communication for your feelings to be changing because of anything, maybe something I said/did, and not to talk to me about it. You should've known I would have done ANYTHING in my power to fix things. I can't read your mind, and I'm sorry you couldn't approach me with your feelings.

You did dissapoint me though. We're broken up four days, and you've already drunkenly made out with your guy friend you told me never to worry about. I didn't worry ever. Why? Because I trusted you. I trusted you so much. And to do something like this four days after our relationship ends shows me that you may be a different person than I thought. If you can get over it that easily and already fool around, it makes me feel like I meant nothing to you. You further dissappoint me, however, when you took advantage of my vulnerability. You knew I wanted you back, to be together again. Even though you didn't want to get back together, you missed having me as someone to talk to, as your friend. Well you can't have your cake and eat it too. But you wanted to, so you told me we'd try to start things over. So we started talking, dating here or there, and then two weeks into it you tell me something that breaks my heart even further. "It's not exclusive." I still love you. And loving you means that I can't be a friend right now, it's too hard, but you made me one without my knowledge. I was working so hard to show you my feelings, to show you how much I loved you and how hard I'd try to fix things, and I thought we were doing this "together". But that was not the case, because you were running around doing your own thing while I put in all the effort to repair what we had, and you led me on to believe we were a couple again when we weren't. I can't believe you'd make me go through something like that; you know how hurt I am.

I'm done playing games now. If you don't want to be with me, it's time to go separate ways. I'm sorry if it stresses your life further. And I'm sorry if you want to be friends and I can't do that, but I need to look out for myself. You've taught me a lot, and I thank you. But now it's time to repair and rebuild. I'm moving on. Please give me my space, I need it. Don't message me, it's too hard to ignore you and I don't want you to think that I don't want to talk to you, but I can't. I hope everything works out for you in the future. I'm sure it will. And although I still love you, and am sure you will always hold a special place in me, I hope I will find the one person meant for me.

Aww man, that's sweet :( all the best :) YOUR find your special person, keep on chugging on!

Dear Ex,
Okay it has been a long time. I a married now and have I have a beautiful child. I am so happy that we dicided to part ways. You were never right for me. I wasn't racists and you were. I hated when you used to call people of a different origin rude names. Your alchoolism doesn't bother me anymore. The fact that you slept with my best friend, well I hope it was good. I hope that you got back with your ex. Did you rape her like you raped me? Good luck and I wish you the best.

Second ex,
I can't believe that I was so niave as to stay with you. You used to beat me and make me bleive that I did something wrong. Well let me tell you something... you did something wrong. You are a horrible person... you killed my cat in a satanic ritual and never fessed up... I know it was you. I can not say how glad you are out of my life. Goodbye!

Oh and to the first ex you sucked in bed!!

That was theraputic lol

Ha ha
<<you killed my cat in a satanic ritual and never fessed up... I know it was you>>

No way!!
Gosh u had some WONDERFUL exes!!

I know didn't I? He believed that he was satans child lol... Man what was I thinking. Now I have a keeper... I had to kiss a lot of nasty.. wierd frogs to get that man lol.

Just had to laugh there :)

Dear Johnny...


I hope your new girl knows what to do with you... since she's been around the block. You disgusting pig!

Dear ex,

It's amazing how for a year and three months I gave you everything. I let you hit me, shout and scream at me and time and time again take the blame for something I never did for you. I got myself in a lot of trouble with you financially, physically with you (letting you beat me is never a good idea) and with others (being the true gent and defending your honour) and also emotionally (by losing best friends and arguing constantly with parents) just to stick up for you because I loved you. I adored you.

Then you banged your cousin.
The one you're now engaged to.
I dread to think about what your children will look like.

Oh, and the rumours your school 'friends' spread about you? They're true... You really do smell like cheese.

By the way, the way you treated me? I did do things with others I shouldn't have... Never mind eh?

Relishing the day you trip on your wedding dress, fall forward and the candles impale you through the eye and out the back of your head to death...
Your saviour.

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Originally Posted by robertsqueen

I know didn't I? He believed that he was satans child lol...Man what was I thinking. Now I have a keeper...I had to kiss alot of nasty..wierd frogs to get that man lol.

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Sorry about that rate, apparently I hit the "enter" button. What I meant to say was

How ironic given this thread's topic that he believed that cat was satan's child because in fact satan's child was my actual ex-girlfriend.

Dear Ex,
I wish I had known you when I was older... and not so damn stupid. You took my friends away one by one, put distance between me and my family, and never knew the meaning of the word love. You berated me constantly even though you were a lazy fat a** SOB who did nothing useful beyond scent the room with your beer farts. You accused me of sleeping with anything that resembled an upright human, including your own freaky looking family members. I used to have such great plans for us... then I developed wonderful daydreams... daydreams of you being struck by a random bolt of lightening straight out of heaven and such. Now I smile when I think of you. I smile because when you are getting your senior citizen discount, I'll still be in my forties! I smile because when I die I won't be alone or begging forgiveness with my last breath. You'll have nothing but your halitosis to keep you company. I may have forgotten to tell you this along the way, so I'll say it now... you really suck.

XXOO, V

ps, please give your brand new girlfriend my deepest sympathies.

Ahha o how I love this thread!

My ex is some sort of demon I think to : (

p.s. to the EX - You think chatting on MSN is actually some sort of friendship, whatever, I can't be bothered to wait for you anymore, with some sort of false hope, what am I doing sitting there advising you on life, what am I accomplishing - nothing, you put about as much effort into talking to me as you did to 'us'!

I Hope you find someone who treats you like utter crap! So all the **** you've put people through can come and HURT U !

Dear Ex,

So 2 weeks after you kissed that girl and ended our relationship I finally find out why you did it.
You done it because that girl (your ex) messed you up so bad that you don't think you can ever love someone again, that you knew you could never love me. But you was falling in Love with me wasn't you ex that's why you done it you got scared, scared that I'd be just like your ex and hurt you again. But Ex you knew I could never hurt you, not even if I tried, I loved you too much.
But why be a cheat and end things like that, how do you expect to even want to respect you when you couldn't even be honest!
You right what you say it is your loss, you say I'm everything a guy could want but still its not enough. You're an idiot Ex you could have had everything with me, but you threw it away with constant comparisons with your ex!

You have to move on stop living your life through your relationship with your ex it will get you know where and you will end up old and lonely!

I now wish you all the best, move on and be happy. Thank you for finally being honest with me in the end!

Love always x

Dear Ex,

Thanks for ripping out my heart again. I hope you are happy. I just hope you find what your looking for because obviously it wasn't me. And the time we had apart this time really shows me what type of person you really are. You are a golddigger, you never did anything for me(never) your selfish, you only cared about your own a**, you used me, never asked if I wanted to do something, always yelling at me, your way was the best way, never listen to me, you always made me feel stupid, was always about you and your son. Who noes you probably lied to me and cheated on me. But I don't care no more. And after all that stuff I bought and did with you guys this is how I'm rewarded. If you really think now that you have your new t*ts everyone is going to drop every thing and try to meet you, your living in a fantasy world like you always did. And I can't wait to the day I see you and you say (Me) I made the biggest mistake by letting you go. And I do hope you meet someone and you get pregnet and get big and you think he's rich because I no that's who your going to find a sugar daddy.But he gets you pregent and he dumps your a** but he has a ex wife who gets all of his money and you get sh*t , then you can have 2 kids with 2 different fathers. You had no rite to treat me like a yoyo and door mat all these years and you will have your day because what goes around comes around. When I still had possession of OUR ring you told me once too shove it up my a**. But since your not giving it back, you can shove it up your a** now and your fake t*ts too. Tell your son I will always Love him and even with all the crap you put me through, I will probably always love you too but not enough to take your fake a** back.

I WISH YOU THE BEST PRINCESS

P.S. If you really think any one else is going to put up with sh*t your wrong, I was just too much in love with you and neive to see the real person you are. And I hope your son resents you for tearing up this so called family.

Dear EX

I became your friend in the beginning of the school year. I helped you get over your shyness. I was the person you could talk to about everything and I could talk to you. I told you things no one was supposed to know and you told me. Then the problems started your brother became evil and started to tell your friends nasty rumors. Then you started to believe them and didn't want to talk to me. Now that I'm recovering from a broken jaw you want to talk to me now and be friends? I am sick of this bull what about me? What about how I feel. I can't deal with all of this I just wish you out of my life and gone.

A way of letting go...

Dear Jesse,
There are a million things I wish I could say to you to get you understand the pain you put me through. I was your rock, the one who was there for you when nobody else was. I remember the times when you had nothing, absolutely nothing and that never changed how I felt about you. No car, no job, not even a pot to piss in. I moved you into my home, struggled with my bills in order to give you money to survie, bought EVERYTHING, treated your daughter like she was my own and sacrificed my friends and family for a relationship with you.
I never wanted anything in return but your love, I thought we would have beeen married by now, have a family and prepare for our golden years together. Instead you played with my heart for 5 years and now all of a sudden that you are on your feet and you have the job of your dreams I'm no longer good enough. You're such a materialistic coward. Money, cars clothes, hoes that's all you care about. Now that you have "baller" status, every golddigger in dallas wants you. What do think is going to happen if you lost your high paying job today? Who would you run to? Who in their right mind is going to sacrifice everything the way that I did?
You listen to what everybody has to say about our relationship, don't you have a mind of your own? Aren't you a grown a** man? I want to hate you right now I really do, but I'm so stupid because when I think of you all I feel is love. I want you to know that you hurt me in the worst way, I have never had someone make me feel so useless and unattractive. I hope one of your whores gives you an uncurable disease and you die in misery you f***ing bastard!!
How could you treat me like I'm nothing? You said so yourself, I was the best thing that ever happened to you. I made you feel like a king when you were only really worthy of being someone's servant. I gave you my best, my all and now I'm stuck with nothing. I'm stuck with jacked up credit and mounds of credit card debt trying to support the both of us while you now have perfect credit because every f***ing thing was in my name.
I find myself wishing horrible horrible things on you. I hope you get hit by a bus or better yet I hope choke on coarse pubic hair since that's the only thing you seem to do with your spare time you a**hole!

p.s. I AM going to move on, and I can be happy without you no matter how much you doubt me. No I may not have the best looking car, house or the most high paying job, but I have love, support, and a good heart and no amount of money can top that!

So scccrrreeeewwww you!
Nikki

Dear Ex of mine,

I hope your P*NIS falls off!!

Never again,
Me

Dear Ex,


I'm thinking of you less and less and went out bar this weekend and talked to some woman and didn't even think of you at all. I really don't know, why but for some reason I'm thinking of you a little bit today. But don't worry I think I'm emotionally stable now to start dating again. And being by myself this weekend without you, I can honestly say I am happy without you in my life. I don't need you to make me happy no more. And when you see my house up for sale don't worry about where I'm moving too. Because it's none of your damn business. And no I don't ever want to be friends with you, you selfish B***H
And stop driving past my damn house. Just remember this is what you wanted and in a way I'm glad you broke up with again because I'm seeing more and more every day what type of person you are.And I feel so sorry for your son, that's probably why he wanted to move in with me. He can't break up with you.

Dear j/o
I took care of you for 8 years and what did I get for it but a kick in the azz.
How could you let your sons girlfriend abuse me in YOUR HOUSE and scream at me and go to hit me 8 times without doing a dam thing. I TOLD YOU I would NOT be back UNTIL YOU told her she must apologizr to me. COme on we are in our 40's she is 23 and your son moved her in and I did so many facvors for her and the other kids all for her to snap one day and tell ME I Don't BELONG UPSTAIRS in YOUR house. We were engaged and yet YOU DID NOHTING> you are so shi* scared of your son that you won't even say hey look she was good to you AND your girl so you better have your g/f APOLOGIZE or else HER AZZ IS OUT OF HERE >>>but NO you just stood there >>>>>>>>that was 3 months ago and even though you are a sh*t head I still miss you. I guess I have a grude against myself.
You threw 8 yrs away because you didn't have he balls to tell your son that you wouldn't have that going on in YOUR HOUSE> you happy now that Im gone??
I hope you suffer every night especially since your friend saw me with another guy the other night. I hope your scrambling your drug induced brains as to WHO he was and WHAT I was doing with him. 8 years 8 long years and YOU let ME go instead of putting your foot down and telling the kid either she apologizes to me or she goes. Ball less bastard.

Roses are red violets are blue go to hell and take your son with you

The post above inspired me to rhyme...

Dear Ex,

There must have been some good times
Or I surely wouldn't have stayed,
But all that comes to me now
Are the games you always played.

You were a decade older.
I thought that made you wise.
So once I met the "real you"
Imagine my surprise.

I should have seen it coming,
The signs were all right there.
You constantly hurt me,
And you didn't even care.

Well here's a little update
In case you're interested
I finally found a real man,
and he's good in bed.

He makes a lot more cash than you
But more importantly
He knows how to treat a woman
With respect and dignity.

So happy to inform you
That I am doing fine
And came out in tact
Despite your grand design.

Good luck finding someone
Who let's you pull your crap.
You'd have much better luck
If you dated a door mat.

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Originally Posted by niniback

Dear Ex of mine,

I hope your P*NIS falls off!!!

Never again,
Me

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LOL... had me in splits... hope he reads it... it will really fall off..

To my ex, I could not be mad at you for you did nothing wrong. You were a gorgeous beautiful and honest girl and ever so trusting and always so keen. Maybe it was your age 19 may have been to young to start a relationship with you. But geez your 22 now and say you don't know how you feel. 3 1/2 years was a long time for you to say your not sure of your love? I know now what you wanted, you said that you loved me but not sure if that was enough. How could a few months change your mind. Only at christmas you send how much you loved me and as soon as I let you have more of me you lost interest again. I now know what you needed, really you needed a guy who was not so nice and not always there for you, Ive realised some girls just like and need that deep emotional bond and that's what you were looking for. I know now I could have been less available and it may well have worked, you missed me so much when I was away for a month how could you change so easily... I didn't want to have to see you less for you to want me more and I couldn't do that cause I loved you more... Maybe that's life sometimes you can't put everything ion cause you don't get a return. I know myself and you know it to I was as nice as I could be and you loved me for that you just don't feel it inside. I will live with that and move on now. Some people just like to be with people who make them miss them a bit more and maybe I am a bit soft and that's the reason your still on my mind after 6 weeks apart. I thought we were going to be together forever. You even were kind enough to tell me 5 months ago that you were not in love with me emotionally and you still gave me another chance, I turned it around and you told me how great things were and how you were feeling it inside and you thought we were destined to be together and then I fell back to the needy guy again and always let you come over when you wanted and again you wanted to part.. I know you think of all the good times we had you have told me that you love the passionate and loving times but maybe that's not enough, well maybe you should realise you had someone that loved you a lot. If you had an arsehole boyfriend before me then maybe you would realise how good we were together. I can't change your mind or your thoughts and at the moment I can only think why I didn't keep my guard up and remain a bit distant we were going so well I had a lot of control you wanted to speak on the phone every night, I knew I shouldn't be lettingf you and I should keep you keenr but you said you love toi hear my voice before you go to bed. Well its been 6 weeks and 2 weeks since yourve heard my voice. Im hoping you miss me and realise I was the one for you. Im trying not to beat myself up and believe I didn't handle my side of the mans relationship right, I know I wasn't strong enough and should have stood tall but your niceness dragged me in. I went inrto our relatuionship with no fear was not scared of losing you cause I did not want to get hurt but time got me and when the years went bye I slowly gave in as my heart got taken by you I could no longer pretend I was not in love and that's when you started to say you think you used to love me more but now you thinkn I love you more. I should have realised the signs had put up my guard and backed away, Oh how you love to miss me to realise your love, maybe its your youth yet I'm not much older than you but yet, I keep making up excuses but love is an emotion amnd if you don't make someone keep that emotion in then it slowlky drifts away...

I think of you always and wish I had another go mayb I would be stronger and not see you all the time but then again I had a second chance last time and I still fell into your lock what a wuss what a loser and to think for the first 2 1/2 years I was having so much fun and did not even need to think of you all the time but then love hit me when you told be you loved me I started to buckle, now I think of it, it may have been when I thought I was losing you I pushed harder to be with you when I should have stood my ground and let you come to me. Time will tell and I'm sure I will meet another and next time I know not to give my all. Less is mopre they say and that is what you wanted and that is what you need. No matter what you were pretty much the perfect girlfriend you gave 100% and was always there you tried your hardest and let me close. I can never imagine meeting someoine like you again, you seem to good to be true and I feel privileged to have someone like you come into my life and yet now I do not have you anymore. My heart is broken and my mind is shattered always thinking of how I should have maintained my leadership. Although I must tell everyone this girl rarely ever said "I love You" and said she kept her feelings reserved so she wouldn't get hurt. I told her you are so cold and she said to me if you don't know that after 3 1/2 years you musnt know me very well. She didn't let anything bother her nothing at all. When I first met her I was just like that as well, I didn't want to be hurt but maybe that just wasn't really me... I feel upset that you will probably let your guard down to someone else one day but I can't be that person now!! I was one of the best guys you have ever met you said and you were one of the best girls I've ever met. I still love you and always will, I feel lost without you and 6 weeks has not healed me. Im not sure how long it will take to heal me but I know one thing for sure I must go on!! Im hoping we join again but not holding my breath, Its hard for me not to be sad when I used to be so strong and you would want me so much, but oh how things change...
Love you lots... Baby Hope you miss me and call everyday. I won't be answering though urve broken me enoug...

This is exactly what I need to do...

"Dear Ex,

I don't know why I still think about you but I am working hard to learn that I'm better off without you.

You are selfish and short-sighted. You told me that you're seeing the other person just to kill time. You told me you still have feelings for me and will eventually marry me. This is complete b*ll-sh*t. I feel sorry for the girl and the so-called relationship you're in now.

Thank for letting me see the real you now after 5 years together. Though it's bit late, it's better than staying blind forever.

I still miss you, but it is only the person whom I know five years ago.

Again, thanks for being a big jerk and allow me to learn more what I really need."

Dear Ex,

I guess the hurt is fading away and the hatred I have inside for you ripping my heart out again is also fading. I don't hate you, in fact I will probably always love you and your son till the day I die. I know I can never be friends with you, the fact that you will be in somebody else's arms one day sends chills down my spine. And I do get jealous when I do think about that stuff. I know I can't blame you for the way you are. I just wish I seen you for the real you a long time ago. Maybe if I did I would be married by now with someone else. I can't say it was a total wasted 5 years. We did have some great times together I won't ever forget. I know one day you will want some closure but you will never get that from me. I know thiers a lot of things that I would like to have answers on but it doesn't mater anymore. I have let go of you now and moving on. Well I wish you the best and hope you find what ever you are looking for.

Your Ex,

P.S. I still hope you get preganet and get fat and he leaves you because he was just using you for sex. That would make me HAPPY!

I just want to pop in here and let you all know how great you all are doing.
Your letters are just incredible and I just know, all of you will be more than okay.

The hurt and pain you feel now, believe it or not, will be worth it, when that heart of yours heals and is loved in return as you all so derserve!

Very proud of all of you and keep those letters coming. Not only does it make you feel a little better, but it helps others out as well.

Boy, some of those exs... lucky they are out of Allheart's reach ;)

You were the snake the girl trusted. You go by the name cobra yeah the lowest form on earth the snake and your proud. I hope one day someone stomps on you rips your guts out and then maybe just maybe you will feel one ounce of pain you put me through.
I would wish you a blazing case of herpes but I am too nice for that. SO maybe just (another) case of crabs after all you DO love crabs and you had them wayyyyyyy back in college lol.

This isn't really an ex, but a person who wanted a relationship with me after I moved away. I was just wasn't comfortable, and I was talking to someone else. She kept promising me over and over again we'd stay in touch. She dropped out of sight though. I had painted her a dish at a paint your own pottery shop. I had gone back to my old town and saw her and that she was finishing her masters and getting married in a few weeks (it's only been 8 months since she and I were talking). I sent this letter to her with the painted dish. It was incredibly relieving when I handwrote the letter. I still can't believe how much pain it caused me though, even though I am with someone else:
_______________________________

I want to offer my congratulations on your academic achievement. I am also happy you found a relationship that fulfills you.

I am certain a relationship between us in August 2006 would have been a mistake, but I am sad you avoided contact with me. I enjoyed how you got to know me. I appreciated the time you put into E-mails, phone calls, and cards. I was grateful at your efforts to understand me and encourage me through every negative emotion. While I only knew you 12% of the time I knew she-who-should-not-be-named, you are a much bigger part of my life. You were up there with <name of my friends>. Even though I am seeing someone else now, I still care deeply about you (with boundaries) because I have had so few people like that in my life.

You wanted a boyfriend bad. I wanted you when I left <city I moved away from>. I saw you were new to relationships and felt you deserved better than a 600 mile relationship. I wasn't going to cheat you out of that. I had to know whether you stood the test of time. Did you love me, or did you love the idea of being in love (as Jacob felt for Leah)? Did you like me or were you just bored, as you mentioned several times? My values would not let me uproot you from <old state> before I knew. You had other relationship weaknesses and so did I. I thought we'd support each other as we developed through them with local people. However, you pushed me in a corner because I knew a relationship in August would have been a wreck, but I didn't want to lose your friendship. I know, I said the opposite cause it was the macho thing to do. But that's what I felt. I was also bothered that I never had a picture of you since I was often lost in your blue eyes when we were together.

I regret I did not invite you last summer. I am not certain why, but I was afraid of leading you on, afraid of breaking your purity by inviting you, and afraid of incompatibilities I saw. I was meeting a lot of people back then and my A/C was broken, so my mind was occupied too.I did not know about last minute discount airfares back then either.

While I knew you'd see other people, I was shocked you cut me off. Over and over and over again you said we'd keep in touch. I wondered if it was a way to "get" me, but you said it was not. In October 2006 you asked for forgiveness. In November 2006 you said we'd stay in contact. I trusted you with my needs of people. I trusted you with my fears. I needed trust because losing people is traumatic to me. When you became apathetic, it hurt. It reminded me of getting kicked out of fraternities, invited to parties that didn't exist, rejected by Christians I thought were friends, and calls to God that were never answered. Maybe you did this to get back at me. If so, I am truly sorry that I hurt you and made you feel alone. I did to you what she-who-should-not-be-named did to me. I wanted your companionship but I wasn't willing to give you relationship. I unintentionally triggered your instinct to help others as a way to avoid losing you. At times I took you for granted. I may not have returned your kindness, especially when you seemed gung ho to get a boyfriend. I talked about other "hot" girls when I should have acknowledged how hot you were since I knew you were conscious about your body. I spent more time talking about what I was doing or trying to change you, than how you were feeling (but wait, you never told me). I communicated poorly in a few ways. I never introduced you to my friends in <old place I lived> or my family. But wait a minute. That's why I wasn't ready to have a relationship. You weren't either. And I started to see incompatibilities and questioned if you'd stick around. I didn't realize I would lose one of my safe people. As you once noted, safe people sometimes do unsafe things.

Perhaps one day, forgiveness may be possible. I have been filled with anger, guilt, betrayal, and condemnation. Every guy friend of mine told me not to write you. Sending this has pushed my limit of Christian love, and not just because it is the neatest stretch of handwriting I've had in 15 years. But I remember from Safe People that the chief message in the Bible is about reconciliation. I regret I ended my friendship with she-who-should-not-be-named because I could not handle the emtion. I pushed her because I thought I had to marry her when I finished my degree. I may send her an apology because of the similarities (reverse roles) with my experience with you. I had to send <my advisor> out because he would not stop lying to me. In Oct 1999, I had it out with a German exchange student. I thought we'd never talk again, but she sent me this E-mail that I direct at you (she's married now and we exchange e-mails every few months):

"Did you already give up on me? It really disappointed me that it seems to be quite easy for you to forget the friendship which connected us.

I know that some things happened, that shouldn't have happened and I am extremely sad that things developed that way. What I really regret is that we didn't took the chance to talk about all that on Sunday before both of us went separate ways. I think it shouldn't have been too difficult for both of us to say that we are sorry for everything that went wrong during that week and in that way we could have forgiven each other.

Maybe you can tell me what made you so mad at me - so that I can understand all that. But I really regret it that you seem to have no problems with forgetting me and our friendship just because of some minor problems, which we could have solved. In my opinion people shouldn't deal with such a wonderful thing like the bond of friendship too carelessly. For my part - I regret the mistakes I made during my stay with you, but I hope that you understand me and the difficult situation I was in, too.

I just wanted to let you know what I feel about all that and if you should be interested in rebuilding our friendship you could let me know what you think about this situation."

Wow, after reading that I am sending an apology to she-who-should-not-be-named.

I want the best for you and am glad you are in a relationship that provides for your needs. I hope you you're together for the right reasons and not because you feel alone, you feel you have to get married, or as a rebound to me. Through you, I realized what a sinner I've been and identified my relationship weaknesses (ie, fear of sharing positive feelings). Through <name of current girlfriend> whom I was introduced through eHarmony, I've corrected the mistakes I made with you. I'm feeling the unconditional love that does not have strings, and forgiveness. Through her, I've found a source of healing, my best friend, and someone who completes me. Having watched her in crisis, attend to her friends in crisis, set boundaries, and in conflict with me, I am confident I can be with her through good times and bad.

I am sad I lost what I thought was a safe person, but certain a relationship in August would have been worse. I value you and that's why I have attempted to reconcile. I welcome contact from you whenever it comes --- I will leave that ball in your court. Whether it's 5 days from now or 5 years from now, and whether its anger, appreciation, apologies, or advice, I will always be glad to regain contact. But if not, feel free to enjoy your life.

Regardless of whether you and I ever speak again, I hope you joyously celebrate your graduation. It is an incredibly big deal, even if it isn't as wild as <her undergrad school>. I also wish you a happy birthday next month, a passionate career that lets you make a difference, and the best in your future relationships and family.
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dear x now I see what a scumbag you really are matter of fact every time I see my douche nozzle thoughts of u come to mind. You never even squeezed a tear out. You're a hearltess son of a b you and your family use people you have no thanks for all I did you were never there for me and I hope someday your in pain (as usual it will come again) and your dying to have ME by your side and u start to thinkof ALL I DID every time u needed me which was all the 8 years. Yet u neve did a damn thing for me. My tears are turning to hatred cause now away from u I see you really are what you call yourself a snake lowest form of creature on earth. AND if your being a pig well get warts on your penis or testes or crabs see I'm still nice didn't wish you nothing terrible. But I know when a man has any prob w his penis he freaks out; lol hahhahah matter of fact hope your impotent. LOSER your like a B day cake I always told you that EVERYONE had a piece you whore/ THANK GOD I didn't get nothing from you and I HATED seeing all the neighbors and everyone in Town every day knowing you banged all of them. Your not special everyone had you. J/O

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Dear Ex,

I guess the hurt is fading away and the hatred I have inside for you ripping my heart out again is also fading. I don't hate you, in fact I will probally always love you and your son till the day I die. I know I can never be friends with you, the fact that you will be in somebody elses arms one day sends chills down my spine. And I do get jealous when I do think about that stuff. I know i can't blame you for the way you are. I just wish I seen you for the real you a long time ago. Maybe if I did I would be married by now with someone else. I can't say it was a total wasted 5 years. We did have some great times together I wont ever forget. I know one day you will want some closure but you will never get that from me. I know thiers alot of things that I would like to have answers on but it doesn't mater anymore. I have let go of you now and moving on. Well I wish you the best and hope you find what ever you are looking for.

Your Ex,

P.S. I still hope you get preganet and get fat and he leaves you because he was just using you for sex. That would make me HAPPY!

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WISH TRIPLETS ON THE BEOTCH

Dear Ex,

I really don't know why you left me, you said you had a change of feelings but that really doesn't make sense to me =[. We had a wonderful relationship, I treated you so well. I bought you what you wanted and everything I tried to be a perfect boyfriend , you told me you loved me so much and that you would never leave me, why would you break a promise like that? I truly do love you so much, I don't go a day without thinking of you and remembering everything we been through to our first kiss together in the park. But it's OK
I don't hurt as much anymore. And why would u like ____ he's probably one of the worst boyfriends ever.. I don't knowwww this pain feels like its never going to leave . I hope u live a wonderful life cause all I ever wanted was to make u happy.

Love
Kyle

Dear Ex,

I just want to say happy mothers day too you and your mom.

Forever Yours,

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It does suck that there is no dress rehearsal in life but at least its fair in that this is true for everyone. I can still remember the day I finally acknowledge (to myself) that I am powerless over others -- it changed instantly a lot of how I operated. And even more enlightening (again, for me) was how later on I realised just how powerless everyone else was over me BWAAH HA HA HA (LOL) and that changed me some more. We are for the most part powerless over each other - the best, if we even get this, is to influence only. That is something to consider and again its arranged fairly too, how nice! You MIGHT influence me, and I MIGHT influence you. But in my case it took professional help for me to get that I am not powerless over myself, nor is anyone else unless they choose to be. That was really a life altering awareness.

The best we can do is wake up, and live a life with eyes open, minds alert and hearts as loving as possible-- to ourselves first and foremost and then to each other. Lose the pollyanna mindset of childhood and see the world and its inhabitants as they are -- both good and bad. It is your job to take care of you -- that is your mandate as an adult. No priviledges for us without the corresponding responsibilites. The only real victims on my list are kids, animals and the infirmed-- they do not have the same resources as we do, on many levels.

So, when you see someone who looks like bad news, just quietly duck across the street. Don't be so quick to believe people. Some of us are very decieved and decieving both. But don't take on being jaded either, for that is just as bad. Instead cultivate (along with this realistic discernment about the world) a positive overall outlook because the best is yet to come. Notice the word "overall" and don't put the burden of your happiness on any one person -- its too big of a load for any mortal. And the good stuff that does arrive, be mindful that may not take the size, color, or form you imagined but it does indeed get better and better in the long run -- at least so far it has with me. That is the truth as clearly as I can put it.

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By chance I have found this website today and have been reading posts for a little while. I ran across this and I had to say that what VAL says is so true of life. I forget it from time to time and it kills me to learn the same lessons all over again.

I would thank him for our son... that is all I would have to say to him.

Dear Ex,

I only went out with you because you were hot.
Burn in hell.
The stain won't come out of your shirt.

Dear my huny
I love you ever so much. I can't understand why you had to do what you did, I am heart broken,I willl never get over you, why did you have to take your life the way you did, if you wanted to go,there were less dramatic ways of doing it, I miss u, I hope and pray that one day soon you will give me some sort of sign that you are really sorry,u do love me,and that your happy, I only ever wanted you to be happy.
God bless you my sweetness
Forever in my heart
Always your
Mwaa

To my ex:
I think you lost the best thing that ever happened to you!! Lol. Grow up.

Dear ex,

Its nice to hear that you are happy again. I hope you have found what you went looking for and your new love makes you feel as good as you did me.

Skell

Dear ex,
I am sorry I will pretend to dislike you on the following days because I think it will be good for both of us.
I still love you. But I believe that a beginning and an ending in the relationship are destined to happen. If our names are written on the star, we would be happy when we are together. I also believe you would be a good boyfriend and husband to another girl after me in the future.
I have seen your letter today. You said you tried to help a girl in England who wanted to leave the larger society. I knew you also hoped that I was not like her. However, you should realize this is a complicated society. You don't have to hope to change anyone. We all will be more mature someday. That someone didn't want to be sociable or talkative doesn't mean that she hates life. She has her own life style which might be better for both her and others.
I love you. I am sorry. I believe that later you would think our breaking-up is the best choice for you.


xiaocake

Dear Ex,

I read your profile again on match.com and from the looks of things the way you keep changing your profile it looks to me like your getting desperate. From some one who would never date a guy who didn't make over $75000.00 a year and didn't have a great job like me, it looks like your going to settle for anyone. I was shocked when you added you would date someone who only had a high school degree and would date any income level. Umm, looks to me like the grass is not greener on your side again. I just hope one day you realize that I did treat you like a damn queen. Like I feel you are now when you drive past my house on purpose. I still miss and love you and your son very much and I still can't believe you did this again. I just hope you hurt and regret every day for the rest of your life how GOOD you had it with me PRINCESS.

P.S. I see you for who you are and I'm moving on with my MONEY, and will see how far you get on just your income. You could have have it all with me baby.


Your ex