Originally Posted by
positiveparent
Hi Katie, thats a good idea dont let him get around you to speak with you on the phone, he wants to see if he can get you to do one thing he wants then he will believe or know or think he can still win you around, if he offers you buckingham palace rent free for life dont take it, diamonds, pearls, your own hareem of men ( ummm could be tempting LOL) refuse, anything from his last rolo, to the shirt off his back, just calmly say No Thank You Ive got 2 already, lol seriously, decline anything he offers you.
You did say you were taking a friend with you, is that still on? When you meet him make sure you stay in a fairly open area, where there will be others passing by, dont be too close to water, as in on the banks of a lake or similar, I recommend you wear flats or trainers,(in case you need to exit fast) dont be dressed up, jeans and a jumper is good, you want to be looking just ordinary.
You dont want to have him getting amorous, after all.
Go through the list of suggestions in the Loser file, have a strategy, like say you can't stop long youre awaiting an urgent phone call on the home phone, that you only found out about 2 hours earlier, so couldnt let him know for a reschedule.
Try not to cry, be cold, or calculating in how you talk too him, just keep reminding yourself how he was wanting to control you, dont fall for his tears theyll be put on Im sure. dont let him hug you or hold your hand or anything familiar, you have to be cool calm and collected, tell him youve given it much thought and whatever else, and be firm, he may try all sorts to win you over dont fall for anything, youre strong, youre determined, dont feel sorry for him, did he when he wouldnt let you be yourself, wouldnt let you do what you wanted, no he did not.
Just keep it short and too the point you dont owe him any explanations. You had a relationship, it didnt work its over end of story.
Wish him well Tell him you want to focus all your attention on your university degree, and you want to focus on it as your main priority, and youve realised thats your number one thing to focus on. If he asks personal questions dont reply, make an excuse to cut the meeting short the bare minimum of time you need to tell him its over and then go, dont wait around for him to get it together hell get himself together almost immediately once you walk away.
As already suggested use the urgent phone call excuse. turn your mobile phone off, you want this businesslike and texts coming in or a call from your friend wont achieve that. Keep your car in sight as much as possible, this is incase you need to get away from him in a hurry.
If you take your friend, ask her to wait a sensible distance away, but to remind you after a pre determined time span that you have that urgent important call to get back home for.
Hope this will be useful for you.
Youll do it, I know you will, but do it as quickly and cleanly as possible.
Businesslike and efficient.
