Ask Me Help Desk - Is it really that wrong to be obedient?

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Originally Posted by xXxEmOxXxPrInCeSsxXx

Sleep makes things worse for me...
I'm going to take a shower...
I'm sorry guys...
I don't know what is going on with me lately.... so damn emotional

Been there, done that. It's always best to step away when that happens.

Remember something, we've all been 17. We all remember being 17. It's not a fun time. So many hormones, life changes, everything. I spent 17 not knowing whether I was coming or going and I made many mistakes thinking that I was mature enough to handle them. I wasn't, but it wasn't until later that I realized that.

We only want what's best for you. I hope you know that.

Take a shower, realize that no one on this site would hurt you, we're here to help and I know the people posting here would never ever lead you in the wrong direction. You may not always like the advice, but we only have your best interests in mind. Try to remember that.

Hugs sweetie. I hope you feel better. :)

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Originally Posted by xXxEmOxXxPrInCeSsxXx

because I can't take people saying he doesn't care. I know for a fact he does.

E-mop, I think you are scared. It is a normal reaction to what you thought was your stablizing force not being quite so stable.

I have a feeling that deep down you are concerned that maybe he is distancing himself a bit more than you are comfortable with. Don't allow the negative emotions to cause you to strike out at those who want to help you.

Edit to add: How is the St. John's Wort working for you?

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Originally Posted by Altenweg

Been there, done that. It's always best to step away when that happens.

Remember something, we've all been 17. We all remember being 17. It's not a fun time. So many hormones, life changes, everything. I spent 17 not knowing whether I was coming or going and I made many mistakes thinking that I was mature enough to handle them. I wasn't, but it wasn't until later that I realized that.

We only want what's best for you. I hope you know that.

Take a shower, realize that no one on this site would hurt you, we're here to help and I know the people posting here would never ever lead you in the wrong direction. You may not always like the advice, but we only have your best interests in mind. Try to remember that.

Hugs sweetie. I hope you feel better. :)

Awww, Alty's everyone's mommy. :) (for us youngins anyway!)

:):):)
I think nobody has a right to abuse anyone in any way. Listen to the answers these people have given you. I know you love your mother,but have you ever thought deep inside she may want you to do something, like telling your therapist.

As for the boyfriend , it will work out either way. You are a good person remember that.
Meanwhile just know all of the folks here are telling you the truth and giving you sound advice. I will pray for youand ask others in a prayer chain to do the same. God Bless You Little EMOP!

Showers do wonders

I'm so sorry guys

I really am...

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Originally Posted by xXxEmOxXxPrInCeSsxXx

showers do wonders

I'm so sorry guys

I really am...

Hey, no problem, you are human after all. :)

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Originally Posted by xXxEmOxXxPrInCeSsxXx

showers do wonders

I'm so sorry guys

I really am...

Don't be sorry. There's nothing to be sorry about. Be glad for the experience and for the lessons you are learning.

Gosh EMOP you have been there for me and you really helped me. You are a nice, caring, good-hearted person.

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Originally Posted by xXxEmOxXxPrInCeSsxXx

showers do wonders

I'm so sorry guys

I really am...

I'm glad you're feeling better and I want you to know I'm always here if you need to talk. :):):)

I feel horrrible, dang it.

I guess you all are right though, especially Cat.

I am scared.

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I feel horrrible, dang it.

Now, take all that maturity you tell us you have, and spin this around to work to your emotional advantage.

I'm not quite sure what you mean

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Originally Posted by xXxEmOxXxPrInCeSsxXx

I'm not quite sure what you mean

I said it as clearly as I could. What positives do you find in all of your posts and the responses you have gotten?

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Originally Posted by Cat1864

E-mop, I think you are scared. It is a normal reaction to what you thought was your stablizing force not being quite so stable.

I have a feeling that deep down you are concerned that maybe he is distancing himself a bit more than you are comfortable with. Don't allow the negative emotions to cause you to strike out at those who want to help you.

edit to add: How is the St. John's Wort working for you?

When I remember to take it, wonderful. I just took some a little bit ago. Instant cheer up.

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Originally Posted by Wondergirl

I said it as clearly as I could. What positives do you find in all of your posts and the responses you have gotten?

One moment please, I'm going through each post, while a six year old jumps on me. Haha

What meds are you on hun? St. Johns Wort could be very dangerous.

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Originally Posted by J_9

What meds are you on hun? St. Johns Wort could be very dangerous.

None anymore, J. My doc dropped my meds

I deserve better than to be his second choice. I am done playing this game. I've served him a year and now that I want decent treatment, he distances himself. No, I won't put up with that.

Darlin, you don't SERVE anyone. Do you hear me? Look at your mom... do you want to be in a relationship like her? No, you don't.

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Darlin, you don't SERVE anyone. Do you hear me? Look at your mom... do you want to be in a relationship like her? No, you don't.

My thoughts exactly J. and what everyone has been trying to tell me

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Originally Posted by xXxEmOxXxPrInCeSsxXx

I deserve better than to be his second choice. I am done playing this game. I've served him a year and now that I want decent treatment, he distances himself. No, I won't put up with that.

I'm so sorry EMOP. Please feel this big HUG! You can do this. You are getting stronger! Way to go Girl.

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Originally Posted by Kitkat22

I:)'m sorry EMOP. Please feel this big HUG!

Thanks!

Sweetheart, I have to go to bed now. I've had very little sleep in the past 48+ hours... like about 4 hours. I can't think straight enough to help you. Just know that I will be here, and I do care.

Please promise that you won't do anything rash. Okay?

Haha, I won't J. I'm in a good mood now.
I'm great right now. I'm glad you care.

Have a wonderful night

Remember Emop... I lub you.

Would you be willing to sign a contract for me? I self harm contract?

J, I haven't self harmed in a long time, don't worry

Okay love. Now, I need to sleep. But remember that there are people out here who do care for you whether we have met you or not, you mean a lot to us.

E-Mop, you are strong. I see it in your posts. I just wish that you saw the strength that we see.

You deserve love and respect, an equal. You deserve to be treated well, you deserve to be number one in someone's life. You know you deserve it, and if you don't, I'm telling you that you do.

You have to look out for number one. Only you can. So chin up sweetie, do what you have to do to get where you need to be. Strong.

You can do it. I know you can. I have faith in you. :)

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Originally Posted by J_9

Okay love. Now, I need to sleep. But remember that there are people out here who do care for you whether we have met you or not, you mean a lot to us.

Get a good rest J
*hug*

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Originally Posted by Altenweg

E-Mop, you are strong. I see it in your posts. I just wish that you saw the strength that we see.

You deserve love and respect, an equal. You deserve to be treated well, you deserve to be number one in someone's life. You know you deserve it, and if you don't, I'm telling you that you do.

You have to look out for number one. Only you can. So chin up sweetie, do what you have to do to get where you need to be. Strong.

You can do it. I know you can. I have faith in you. :)

Thanks Alty, and I see that now. I was sitting there looking at my screen name. He used to call me that, because I used to be his princess. Then I realized, I'm no princess by how he treats me. I'm the servant.

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Originally Posted by xXxEmOxXxPrInCeSsxXx

I deserve better than to be his second choice. I am done playing this game. I've served him a year and now that I want decent treatment, he distances himself. No, I won't put up with that.

Now spit in his eye! :)

O Ohso! That's terrible!

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O Ohso! That's terrible!

But gratifying. :D

I can't though! He's three hours away!

Thanks M!

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I can't though! he's three hours away!

Thanks M!

I'd do it. My boyfriend is 3 hours away too, but when he comes to visit, if he's a jerk, I blow a raspberry in his face. Or anywhere else I can get him, like the arm, or the back, or his cheek, or his tummy. Mostly I threaten to give him a black eye. Then he goes back to being nice!

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O Ohso! That's terrible!

It's funny. :)

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Originally Posted by ohsohappy

It's funny. :)

I rarely see him. I make the most of each visit

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Originally Posted by xXxEmOxXxPrInCeSsxXx

I rarely see him. I make the most of each visit

I can understand that. :)

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I can understand that. :)

We spend the majority of the time talking, playing video games, cuddling, playing board games, hanging out with each other's families, and occasionally, sex