Should I take some time to be her friend?
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Hi everyone!
Some of you here know the issue with what happened about a year ago with my fiancé and his coworker. But for those of you who don't, here's a recap:
In February, (boyfriend) at the time, got busted! He was at his female coworkers house getting help with myspace (use to be famous). I called his cell several times and he didn't answer. Well when I found out where he was, of course, he tried to lie about it. Played as if he didn't know who I was talking about, blah blah. Eventually he came out with the truth. He said nothing happened with her and that they are just friends and he was wrong for doing what he did. I forgave him, but this girl just rubs me the wrong way.
Now, she is supposed to be some "aspiring" singer. She coming out with demos and shows. My fiancé got her demo yesterday and I snapped! I didn't say anything, but you can see in my face that I wasn't all happy about it. He was saying things like "I'm so ecstatic to get this". So he gets mad at me.
Then 2 days ago, I will admit, I do go on his fb page and see who he makes comments too. Mainly to see what he post on her page. So I asked him about one post he made on her page and he got mad at me. Said that she pushes him to go back to school, etc. He says I don't do that for him. And that I need to step it up.
So as you can see, I am getting a feeling that I am slowly losing my man for his coworker. He tells me he don't want to be with her and that she is just his friend. But in my mind, isn't that usually how it starts? You become friends with someone who is doing 20% of what your spouse isn't doing, then you end up having feelings for that person and hanging out more, then you end up having sex with that person. I desperatly need some advice!!
Should he get mad at me? Am I wrong?
Hi everyone! Hope you had a great weekend! :-)
Okay, so here is what happened. I posted a status on Facebook saying "Sooooooooooo hungry right now" and one of my guy friends posted "that's why you need a real ni*** to bring you breakfast". And then his sister made a comment saying "hope its not you cause you can't cook" then he said "i wasnt talking about me"... now these two are nobody to really take seriously cause they always joke around like that so I thought nothing of it and just said "you guys are wild". So my fiancé reads the comments and calls my guy friend out, saying "thats not cool she got a real man". So then my fiancé calls me and says "you need to delete him off your friends list cause that was out of line". Also he says, that it was messed up of me cause I didn't take up for him by telling my guy friend that I got a real man. I told my fiancé I wasn't even thinking to say that cause my friend wasn't anyone to take seriously, but I deleted him off my friends list. My fiancé said it was cool and that he will just take care of himself from now on.
Then a few minutes after that my fiancé writes on my wall "i love you babe".
Now am I wrong for not telling my guy friend that "i got a real man"? I can understand where my fiancé is coming from but I don't think it was that serious to get mad about.
I've asked him one time before to delete someone off his friends list and he raised hell with me. Said that he is not deleting his friends off Facebook cause he knew them longer and before me.
What do you guys think?