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  • May 25, 2009, 09:38 PM
    Wondergirl
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Steve1010 View Post
    how will she realize whats shes doing wrong? she will just be like UR THE BIGGEST A*hole IN THE WORLD WOW HOW COULD U DO THIS

    You don't get it, do you.
  • May 25, 2009, 09:38 PM
    BlackVY
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Steve1010 View Post
    how will she realize whats shes doing wrong? she will just be like UR THE BIGGEST A*hole IN THE WORLD WOW HOW COULD U DO THIS

    Dude... she will blame you as much as she can, as much as she wants, but eventually, in her own mind, she will question why you did this to her because you were never as A**hole to her, so why now? What happened, maybe its her fault...
  • May 25, 2009, 09:40 PM
    Steve1010
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Wondergirl View Post
    You don't get it, do you.

    I kind of do. Tell me what your thinking
  • May 25, 2009, 09:41 PM
    Steve1010

    Now she said all right if this is what u want kid..
  • May 25, 2009, 09:42 PM
    Wondergirl
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Steve1010 View Post
    i kinda do. tell me what ur thinking

    I did already. Now you tell me what this is doing FOR her.
  • May 25, 2009, 09:42 PM
    Steve1010

    I don't know, she's probably really mad and wondering if that since I'm not answering I don't care anymore
  • May 25, 2009, 09:43 PM
    Steve1010
    Now she texted me again...

    "what the F*&("
  • May 25, 2009, 09:43 PM
    Steve1010
    Calling me again...
  • May 25, 2009, 09:44 PM
    BlackVY

    2 things are likely to happen,

    Either she will go crazy insane and do some pretty bad stuff

    OR

    She will stop and think "What have I done?"
  • May 25, 2009, 09:44 PM
    Wondergirl

    Don't answer.
  • May 25, 2009, 09:45 PM
    Steve1010

    She's like freaking out I'm not answering her
  • May 25, 2009, 09:45 PM
    BlackVY
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Steve1010 View Post
    shes like freaking out im not answering her

    Exactly... that is what you want...
  • May 25, 2009, 09:46 PM
    Steve1010
    Now she says

    So your basically actling like a bg f*er yr ending this.so all those messages were a lie huh? This whole relationship was a big EFIING joke huh? I hate u, your ruined it
  • May 25, 2009, 09:48 PM
    BlackVY

    SHE is the one who sent messages to you that weren't true...

    SHE is the one who treated your relationship like a joke...

    SHE ruined it by being the way she is...


    Don't worry man, be strong, and do not reply to her...
  • May 25, 2009, 09:49 PM
    Steve1010

    I don't wnt her to be done... I'm scared now, I won't know what to say tomorrow when I reply
  • May 25, 2009, 09:52 PM
    BlackVY

    Just ride this Tuesday out... don't reply to her... and don't say anything tomorrow either, UNTIL she contacts you first

    Hopefully by tomorrow she will realize you ain't taking her cr*p anymore and she will be scared...
  • May 25, 2009, 09:52 PM
    Steve1010

    Because earler today I left her messages about how much I loved her.. as she was saying don't talk to me
  • May 25, 2009, 09:53 PM
    Steve1010
    She will contact me tomorrow first though.. she will and do I answer? What do I say? She will question me about tonight
  • May 25, 2009, 09:54 PM
    Steve1010
    She's calling me again..
  • May 25, 2009, 09:55 PM
    Steve1010
    Now she said...

    Answer your G*dam* phone
  • May 25, 2009, 09:56 PM
    Steve1010
    Its getting harder and harder not to answer.. I need support
  • May 25, 2009, 09:57 PM
    BlackVY

    Don't answer it, leave the phone alone and don't even look at it for the rest of tonight.

    It depends on what she says tomrrow. If she says "Hey, Im really sorry about everything"... then you can respond positively and tell her its OK, but tell her how u feel about everything that is going on.

    If she responds like " is wrong wit you? How can you do this to me?"... just ignore it.

    You will only talk to her when she has calmed down and treats you better. She has to know she can't keep treating you this way
  • May 25, 2009, 09:58 PM
    BlackVY
    Dude... like people said, go have a shower, do some fun stuff on the computer, play a game, watch TV, do anything other than look at your phone and stuff. You need to ignore her for the rest of the night, no matter what.
  • May 25, 2009, 09:59 PM
    Steve1010

    What if she just says like, Hey

    And doesn't apologize?
  • May 25, 2009, 10:00 PM
    Steve1010
    So why is she saying "i hate u u ruined it all those messages u left were a lie huh"
  • May 25, 2009, 10:00 PM
    Wondergirl

    No contact until 24 hrs have passed.
  • May 25, 2009, 10:00 PM
    BlackVY

    That's not good enough... she needs to know she did something wrong and can't treat you like this anymore...

    You need to man up and show her you ain't taking her abuse anymore. She can either stop being this way or she can just go.

    You don't need to be treated badly by a girl you love.
  • May 25, 2009, 10:01 PM
    Wondergirl
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Steve1010 View Post
    so why is she saying "i hate u u ruined it all those messages u left were a lie huh"

    She is just pushing your buttons.
  • May 25, 2009, 10:01 PM
    BlackVY
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Steve1010 View Post
    so why is she saying "i hate u u ruined it all those messages u left were a lie huh"

    She is trying to get a response from you. Any response.

    If you say yes or no, she won't care, just hearing you say anything will give the power back to her, that's why NO CONTACT at all...
  • May 25, 2009, 10:02 PM
    Wondergirl

    Do you understand yet, Steve?
  • May 25, 2009, 10:03 PM
    Steve1010

    She's going to be drilling me tomorrow.. saying horrible things.. so then come what 9 pm. What do I say?
  • May 25, 2009, 10:04 PM
    BlackVY

    If she is drilling you and saying bad things,

    Then you say NOTHING
  • May 25, 2009, 10:04 PM
    Steve1010
    Kind of :) I just need to know what to say tomorrow night after I have 394349 texts on my phone... or what if she doesn't text me at all??
    What do you think her emotion is right now?
  • May 25, 2009, 10:04 PM
    Steve1010
    Calling me again
  • May 25, 2009, 10:05 PM
    Wondergirl
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Steve1010 View Post
    shes gonna be drilling me tommorrow.. saying horrible things.. so then come what 9 pm. what do i say??

    Ignore her. Don't answer.

    Pretend you are me and I am you. What would you tell me about after 9 p.m.
  • May 25, 2009, 10:05 PM
    Steve1010
    Now she said


    Wow thought u were different.. clearly not
  • May 25, 2009, 10:06 PM
    BlackVY

    Either way, only reply to something positive, apologetic and nice. If she is still giving you attitude and saying bad things, then she hasn't realized or learned anything yet and she needs more time...

    She is currently going crazy, very angry at you right now, thinking you are horrible, but if she doesn't see that she is and has been in the wrong, then there is no hope for her..
  • May 25, 2009, 10:06 PM
    Steve1010
    Ahh I don't know? I'm sorry?

    But it could be to late by then.
  • May 25, 2009, 10:07 PM
    Wondergirl
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Steve1010 View Post
    now she said


    wow thought u were different.. clearly not

    She's a little button pusher.
  • May 25, 2009, 10:07 PM
    BlackVY
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Steve1010 View Post
    now she said


    wow thought u were different.. clearly not

    Haha... still trying to get a response from you... to get anything from you...

    This is typical... she is saying things she thinks will get a reply from you... Don't give her the satisfaction...

    If it was really over and if she really hated you, do you think she would be sending you all these messages right now? Would you keep abusing someone you don't want to be with anymore?

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