Yeah you know what to do. Don't call don't talk don't do anything relating to him.Quote:
Originally Posted by h0llister
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Yeah you know what to do. Don't call don't talk don't do anything relating to him.Quote:
Originally Posted by h0llister
What if he calls me I told him to call me back last time he called, I said the next time you call it will be the last time he could call me and I would answer, so he could think about everything.
UPDATE! We talked tonight, he called and we actually had a good talk, we talked about all the problems we have been having for the last 6months and saying how we feel and we never decided or spoke about being together again but we did work out a lot of negative feelings we have been having... I don't no if it was a good idea or not, but I feel better now.
Ready to move on, or do you wait for another TALK?
I'm not to sure, I'm not going to call him, if he calls I will answer to see what he says I suppose.
And if he doesn't call, what will you be doing about your life??
He will call, I know him he says he misses me a lot and stuff and I can just tell, but if he doesn't ,oh well I will move on. Right now I'm not sure if I actually want to date him or not.
Hello, most of you know my bf/ex broke up last week. Every night I am having 2-3 dreams with him, sometimes there so romantic and sometimes its horrible fighting. It really sucks because I wake up every morning upset,and also I usually wake up while I'm sleeping as well and upset. I don't have any problem sleeping, until I start dreaming of my ex. Have any of you had this problem before? How do I stop it?
Time, or doing something that makes you so exhausted that you don't have time to dream. Join a gym or go for a job, take up something you have wanted to but couldn't.
Your feelings are still fresh, and close to the surface, and are bound to come out, one way or another.
As you learn to cope with those feelings, and actually get about making new ones, they should fade.
NORMAL!
The same happened to me. After my ex broke up with me he haunted my dreams... sometimes they were happy where we'd get back together and other times he'd be with this other girl (the one he left me for). Either way, I'd wake up feeling miserable. I had them a lot too... pretty much every night. But after time I wasn't having as many and they weren't as intense as they were right after the break up. Eventually they stopped completely.
So there's nothing strange about it. That's what's occupying your mind now so it's no surprise that it crosses into your dreams too. As your feelings begin to fade the dreams will too.
Thank you guys.. during the day I am OK and at night I can sleep fine, but I always wake up heartbroken all over again and it sucks so much. Last night my dream was my boyfriend bought me a plane ticket to go visit him So I went to his country.. and the next day we had to go to church and I went with some people and he went with his family(and we would meet at church) , on the way back from church the people I went with drove me to the airport (I didn't know on the way to the airport) and then when we got there they said chris (my ex) was already there and when I got inside he wasn't and I had to leave without saying goodbye and I was crying so much in my dream ( I felt abandoned) every night my emotions come back again!! Errrrr I want it to go away! :(
Yes it is normal, only time helps at this point.
Our minds plays tricks on us like that. When you go to bed are your last thoughts of him? That use to happen to me with some of my exes but I realized it was due to me thinking of them before I went to bed. After I realized that I starting thinking of my favorite movie star in hopes he would turn out in my dreams.
I called my ex today . And told him I don't want to wait for him to decide on if he wanted to be with me or not because its not fair. And I told him I will turn off my phone forever ( it's a phone his family gave me and it only works for there numbers) I told him to not email me or text or call my house/other cellphone. I also said I will be OK because I know I did nothing wrong and he agreed... I asked if he has found someone else or has hooked with anyone and he laughed and say uhh noo.. it was weird but I'm going to be OK I know now I want a better guy and I don't want to used anymore. And he will feel guilty cause he knows he has been a jerk a lot lately. I'm just hoping he won't get a guilt trip and try to get back with me... hopefully he does NC!. OK there was no question . Sorry I needed to vent.. but please leave advice or something of anything you have thought of while reading this... and thank you to everyone who has been with me through this.
Yes, you absolutely are.Quote:
Originally Posted by h0llister
Awesome. Remember that when you doubt it later. You do want a guy who's panting after you, and guys WILL do that.Quote:
I know now I want a better guy and I don't want to used anymore.
Well, that needs to be unimportant to you. You can't concern yourself with any of that. NC is what YOU are going to do, whether he does or not. He's not in control of that.Quote:
and he will feel guilty cause he knows he has been a jerk a lot lately. I'm just hoping he won't get a guilt trip and try to get back with me... hopefully he does NC!
You're going to be great. Truly. Good for you.
You're a very smart girl and you know what's best for you and sooo glad you womt put up with any crap from the guys.. Your going to be fine and you will end up with an incredible guy one who is respectful just because that whaat you want for yourself.. Just stay true to yourself man if you were my dai would be hugging you right now, good job and keep it up.
Your awesome
Thank you so much everyone. It just happened tonight so I just need some time and I will be OK, I've done this before. But I know now I want a more mature relationship (not right now) but in the future and I could never see that with him, he plays way to many games.. even after a year and a half.. still games! Err lol thank you everyone
I meant daughter sorry
Oh OK sorry lol thank you so much!
You've made your stand, now follow through, and keep your word to yourself.
Keep your ground on this one and don't go back!
I know, I don't think there's anything he can say or do to fix this. He has pushed me to far away now.
OK I am still doing NC(almost 2weeks now) but I checked the cellphone his parents gave me last Saturday and he still hasn't gotten them to cancel it. Then right now I signed onto messenger and he was online... he NEVER uses it.. NEVER and his name is all fancy and whatever but I will not message him and he hasn't messaged me.. I know I should I delete him.. I will but right now I am in shock.. I think he expects something and he thinks he will never lose me.. but he has and like I really don't want him to have hopes.. because if he talks to me I know my brain will get foggy again BUT.. I know I don't want to be with him.. but if we were to talk my heart would melt again... helppp someone.. I know you will give me harsh advice! Lol but I think I need it.
I'm sorry but your not over him AT ALL!
Delete him from your msgner, it myt be hard right now but then.. its done.
Your only torturing yourself... ye are over,it doesn't matter if his name is all fancy or what he thinks he is no longer an a part of your life, at least for the foreseeable future.
Delete him!!
Your doing the right thing No contact is great.
Now you have delet him from the messenger
Listen I was like you. And my x keept on talking to me. Going why aren't you speaking to me and that
and its like she was the one that left me it just makes me laugh so I deleted her. Easy :)
and I could move on with my life
and I did I'm with a great girl
Now that's what you need to do
you need to move on and find a great boy
stop wating around for him to talk to you or get hopes
move on :)
OK I just blocked and deleted him!
I'm actually enjoying being single, I can go out and do whatever and not have to explain to a jealous guy what I did and all this and that.. I'm fine until someone reminds me of him or someone says something about him.
Stay strong sweet heart.
we can't control how we feel but we can control how we act.
act well and enjoy your freedom =)
I love it when a woman knows her heart, but thinks with her head.
Just keep talking to yourself, and sooner, or later the heart will listen.
Thank you so much everyone! I am a lot better today... besides the dreams I starting having again last night! Err but I am going shopping today :D:D:D:D lol thanks everyone!
Ahhh shopping cure.. best cure for anything :)
Hey everyone I was watching a TV the other day and in it ,it said.. When 2 people love each other but break up.. where does the love go?. but they never answered it in the show. I was wondering what your personal opinions were? I still love my ex a lot. But I don't no does the love fade away? Or is it always there?.
p.s. like 2 weeks of NC and tomorrow is his birthday :O! But don't worry I won't wish him a happy birthday. But it will be hard :(!
Depends on what kind of person you are... I believe love never fades... love is not just physical attraction to someone... its a deep friendship... just my opinion.. some say it does fade over time and you grow apart... yes I believe you grow apart but you'll never forget those moments with that person
I don't think that certain love fades, but ATTRACTION is what fuels an INTIMATE relationship. Once the ATTRACTION is gone, that is when couples go their separate ways, but you may still love them like you would a family member.
I would like to think that someone's love.. TRUE love never fades.. that it is something that is always with you forever, not just in the feeling but in the memories and the person you are and have become because of it.
I don't think it fades away, I still love my first husband for many reasons, but I am not IN love with him. Many ways to love.
Lady_rose
I still love ALL my exes, haven't seen them in decades. The love goes nowhere, life gets in the way.
I think there are different flavors of love--affection, respect, attraction, passionate "in love." I think the In love and attraction can go away but leave the affection and respect. Or sometimes the respect goes away, but there's still attraction. It depends...
Love does not go away
I loved all my Exes
If you remember the real good times then you look back in love :)
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