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  • Jan 31, 2010, 02:18 PM
    Wondergirl
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by J_9 View Post
    I'm not sure you should be putting their names or the name of the office on the internet. It might lead to a lawsuit.

    I'm wanting to call him first thing in the morning and have a professional talk with him.
  • Jan 31, 2010, 02:20 PM
    EmoPrincess
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Wondergirl View Post
    Two of those meds are not usually given to someone under 18. Did he ever explain to you why he prescribed them?

    Why didn't you ask for time alone with him on the 27th? In fact, you are the patient, and your mom should have gotten only a brief amount of time with him. The doctor knows this. Why did he let your mother run the session?

    He explained that the adderall was for my ADD/ADHD
    My wellbutrin was for my depression
    And the lamictal for bipolar

    I didn't oppose to her coming in so I guess he just figured he'd let her
    He really just asks me how I'm feeling and gives me medicine usually. The appoinments are only about 20 minutes long
  • Jan 31, 2010, 02:25 PM
    Wondergirl
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by xXxEmOxXxPrInCeSsxXx View Post
    I didn't oppose to her coming in so I guess he just figured he'd let her
    he really just asks me how I'm feeling and gives me medicine usually. the appoinments are only about 20 minutes long

    So if she says the meds aren't working, he takes you off them to prove to her they are. So how are you going to act without meds?

    No therapist for weekly goal-setting and problem-solving?
  • Jan 31, 2010, 02:27 PM
    EmoPrincess
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Wondergirl View Post
    So if she says the meds aren't working, he takes you off them to prove to her they are. So how are you going to act without meds?

    No therapist for weekly goal-setting and problem-solving?

    No
    My parents assumed the meds would do all the work
    Plus it's expensive my mum said
  • Jan 31, 2010, 02:35 PM
    Wondergirl
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by WG
    So how are you going to act without meds?

    No therapist for weekly goal-setting and problem-solving?

    Please answer.
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by xXxEmOxXxPrInCeSsxXx View Post
    my parents assumed the meds would do all the work
    plus it's expensive my mum said

    It's a scientific fact that the meds don't do all the work! The doctor went along with your parents' thinking?

    You don't have insurance coverage for the prescriptions?
  • Jan 31, 2010, 02:39 PM
    EmoPrincess
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Wondergirl View Post
    It's a scientific fact that the meds don't do all the work! The doctor went along with that thinking?

    You don't have insurance coverage for the prescriptions?

    The meds are mostly covered. But there's still 40 each for well butrin and lamictal, then 80 for the adderall. The doctor asked a while ago if I was seeing someone other than him. I said no. he said okay and then went on about different medicine options.
  • Jan 31, 2010, 02:41 PM
    EmoPrincess
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Wondergirl View Post
    Please answer.

    That's the part where I said no, sorry. Forgot to specify. No, I'm not seeing any one for problem solving or goal-setting.
  • Jan 31, 2010, 02:47 PM
    Wondergirl
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by xXxEmOxXxPrInCeSsxXx View Post
    No, I'm not seeing any one for problem solving or goal-setting.

    And your doctor didn't even suggest it, especially since that's what his health care center does?

    If you are going off meds now, you definitely need to see a therapist/counselor at least once and maybe even twice a week. The meds only smooth out the wrinkles in your emotions and make you open to counseling. The counseling gives you handholds and footholds for everyday living.
  • Jan 31, 2010, 02:49 PM
    EmoPrincess
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Wondergirl View Post
    And your doctor didn't even suggest it, especially since that's what his health care center does?

    If you are going off meds now, you definitely need to see a therapist/counselor at least once and maybe even twice a week. The meds only smooth out the wrinkles in your emotions and make you open to counseling. The counseling gives you handholds and footholds for everyday living.

    It's really expensive, copay is $50 a session... I wanted to go before but I've had bad experience so far with conseling
  • Jan 31, 2010, 03:17 PM
    Wondergirl
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by xXxEmOxXxPrInCeSsxXx View Post
    It's really expensive, copay is $50 a session... I wanted to go before but I've had bad experience so far with conseling

    Then talk to your doctor about this. He can recommend someone who has a sliding scale and an out-of-pocket price without copay and insurance coverage. I do this. Catholic Charities does it. Lutheran Social Services does it. We aren't in this for money, but want to help people who are honest with us about their financial situation.

    You had a bad experience? What was it?
  • Jan 31, 2010, 03:20 PM
    EmoPrincess
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Wondergirl View Post
    Then talk to your doctor about this. He can recommend someone who has a sliding scale and an out-of-pocket price without copay and insurance coverage. I do this. Catholic Charities does it. Lutheran Social Services does it. We aren't in this for money, but want to help people who are honest with us about their financial situation.

    You had a bad experience? What was it?

    I didn't mean bad bad, but my first counselor was horrible. I sat there and got to listen to how all my problems in life were because I was fat and all this other stuff. Any time I tried to talk about something, she turned it into "my kid today (insert random stuff here)"
  • Jan 31, 2010, 03:24 PM
    Wondergirl
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by xXxEmOxXxPrInCeSsxXx View Post
    I didn't mean bad bad, but my first counselor was horrible.

    What about your second counselor? What went wrong there?
  • Jan 31, 2010, 03:30 PM
    EmoPrincess
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Wondergirl View Post
    What about your second counselor? What went wrong there?

    She was kind of stuck up, and shot down all my future plans. Argued with me about my sexuality, and made me feel like a loser
  • Jan 31, 2010, 03:35 PM
    Wondergirl
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by xXxEmOxXxPrInCeSsxXx View Post
    She was kinda stuck up, and shot down all my future plans. Argued with me about my sexuality, and made me feel like a loser

    What about the third one?
  • Jan 31, 2010, 03:37 PM
    EmoPrincess
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Wondergirl View Post
    What about the third one?

    Third is my current psychiatrist that I just found out isn't doing what he should
  • Jan 31, 2010, 03:37 PM
    J_9
    Okay, a counselor is not like putting on a glove. It's more like looking for a needle in a haystack. You have to find the right fit and it may take many before you do.
  • Jan 31, 2010, 03:57 PM
    Wondergirl
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by xXxEmOxXxPrInCeSsxXx View Post
    third is my current psychiatrist that i just found out isn't doing what he should

    I'm not sure what that means.

    You are the client. If you feel that the therapist is not doing what he should, please question it. Immediately! I tell my clients to stop me midsentence if they have to and object. (Actually, counselors do very little talking. My clients -- anyone's clients -- should do the majority of it. A counselor's main reason for being there is to listen and help them find their own path.)

    So far the comments you have made about your therapists make them sound very unprofessional. I'd wonder about their credentials and training. Were they referrals from your doctor, and even at the same location?
  • Jan 31, 2010, 04:19 PM
    EmoPrincess
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Wondergirl View Post
    I'm not sure what that means.

    You are the client. If you feel that the therapist is not doing what he should, please question it. Immediately!! I tell my clients to stop me midsentence if they have to and object. (Actually, counselors do very little talking. My clients -- anyone's clients -- should do the majority of it. A counselor's main reason for being there is to listen and help them find their own path.)

    So far the comments you have made about your therapists make them sound very unprofessional. I'd wonder about their credentials and training. Were they referrals from your doctor, and even at the same location?

    The third is the one I just found out shouldn't be putting me on a med holiday

    All of my councilors and my psychiatrist have talked more than I have in every session

    The office itself was refferred to me by my pediatrician, who is very good. All three were in that office. They have degrees I know that
  • Jan 31, 2010, 05:14 PM
    Wondergirl
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by xXxEmOxXxPrInCeSsxXx View Post
    The third is the one I just found out shouldn't be putting me on a med holiday

    A therapist? Master's degree? PhD?
    Quote:

    all of my councilors and my psychiatrist have talked more than I have in every session
    Like I said before, you are the client. If you feel that the therapist is not doing what he should, please question it. Immediately! This is not only your right, but your responsibility. The things you have said the counselors did with you were actually very unprofessional and definitely not any kind of therapy.
    Quote:

    They have degrees I know that
    Degrees in what? Social work? PhD?
  • Jan 31, 2010, 05:17 PM
    EmoPrincess
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Wondergirl View Post
    A therapist? Master's degree? PhD?

    Like I said before, you are the client. If you feel that the therapist is not doing what he should, please question it. Immediately!! This is not only your right, but your responsibility. The things you have said the counselors did with you were actually very unprofessional and definitely not any kind of therapy.

    Degrees in what? Social work? PhD?

    Dr. Dyer has a PhD

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