I can bring flowers... I just want to say sorry and that I miss her and I will try harder to trust her more... althought I did text her this and she said she needs time to get unpissed. But its been a while... should I go to her job now?

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I can bring flowers...i just want to say sorry and that I miss her and I will try harder to trust her more......althought I did text her this and she said she needs time to get unpissed. but its been a while...should I go to her job now?

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Go for it. At this point I don't think you're going to stop thinking about it until you actually have some contact. You might as well have her say whatever she needs to say in person, rather than avoid your phone calls.

I don't know what to do... I haven't called or text her since Tuesday... should I text her... "are you mad baby? can we talk?"?

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I don't know what to do...i haven't called or text her since tuesday...should I text her..."are you mad baby? can we talk?"?

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Dude, can you not think for yourself? Or do you have to have everyone tell you how to do things step by step? Make up your own mind, at this point, I think people are sick of hearing about it.Take whatever action you feel is necessary, If you botch it, it's your own fault for screwing up in the first place. Losing sympathy, really.

OK so I went to her job... I saw her working and I said hi... she said hi... then I say are you still mad and she says yes... and she was crying... she says she had to wait an hour and a half outside and I was at a bar. Yet this time she didn't deny tha she was in one the day before... so she lied to me! She says her dad was drunk and if something would have happened to him she would have been mad. I asked if I can wait for her outside because she said I can't stay long and she said no because her friend (that same one at the bar) is going to pick her up to watch the fight tonight at her friends house... she said she will call me. I asked her if we are going to break up and she said yea and that she will give me all my things. Then I said I was really sorry and I shouldn't have done that and it won't happen again... n I said so are we rele broken up and she said she will call me tonight. I'm so sad.

Emo, Is this the same woman that Talaniman mentions when he brings up the past? Did you go through this before? Have you learned anything?

It hasn't even been a week. 7 days. You can't hold yourself in check for 7 days without crying, "I have to contact her because she might not contact me."

A fifteen second supposed call had you texting her three times in how many minutes?

Then you decide it must be payback, are we even?

You are supposedly a grown man. Act like it.

Give her space and TIME. Let her make the first move. SHE ALREADY KNOWS HOW YOU FEEL!!

Edit to add: What now?

Cat... this is the same female... and I thought it was OK to go see her? She called me once and I called her back 3 times... not text. She said we are breaking up so what do u mean let her be the one to contact me... plus when she does call... I should tell her that I sent her a text telling her I don't think I'm going to be able to pick u up... so I didn't plan to do that. Plus y can't she feel bad that none of this wouldn't have happened if she didn't do what she did behind my back? Do I want to be with a woman that does things behind my back? Isn't that the question?

Emo, I was writing my last post while you were posting yours.

So what now cat, oh so happy?

It doesn't matter why she did it. It's done. You keep telling us that she betrayed you and none of this would have happened had she been honest. So if you can't trust her anymore, why are you still trying? No trust = No relationship

If she's the one who broke your trust, then she's the one who should be making the effort to win back your trust. But instead, you're the one at her knees begging her to take you back.

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cat...this is the same female...and I thought it was ok to go see her? she called me once and I called her back 3 times...not text. she said we are breaking up so what do u mean let her be the one to contact me....plus when she does call...i should tell her that I sent her a text telling her I don't think I'm going to be able to pick u up....so I didn't plan to do that. plus y can't she feel bad that none of this wouldn't have happened if she didn't do what she did behind my back? do I want to be with a woman that does things behind my back? isn't that the question?

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You really need to work on your sentence structure. Have you ever heard of commas? I had to read this 3 times before it made any sense. If you don't know how to do this, use spell check.

I am sorry that you are going through this.

You move on.

You take time to get know yourself. Learn from this relationship so that you don't make the same mistakes again.

You work on your control and trust issues. Think about how to deal with issues like these in the future.

Get to where you have a life that isn't dependent on one person always being there in person or on the phone (including text).

Tell me some constructive ways that you can help yourself. Try to list at least three things.

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I am sorry that you are going through this.

You move on.

You take time to get know yourself. Learn from this relationship so that you don't make the same mistakes again.

You work on your control and trust issues. Think about how to deal with issues like these in the future.

Get to where you have a life that isn't dependent on one person always being there in person or on the phone (including text).

Tell me some constructive ways that you can help yourself. Try to list at least three things.

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Gees girl,why has top cat been hiding you?
You are doing a great job and I love your suggestions for this guy.
Can't rep you but I am :D

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artlady agrees: I didn't know spell check did punctuation,cool!

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Well I spell checked it and let me tell you, it edited the words, but it kept telling me to fix the sentence structure. It does more of a reminder thing then actually edit it. But when I edited it where it told me to, it left it alone. Here's what I translated it to

"Cat...this is the same female...and I thought it was ok to go see her. She called me once and I called her back 3 times...not text. She said we are breaking up, so what do you mean “let her be the one to contact me.” Besides, when she does call, I should tell her that I sent her a text telling her “ I don't think I'm going to be able to pick you up”....So I didn't plan to do that. Besides, why shouldn't she feel bad? None of this would have happened if she hadn't done what she did behind my back. Do I want to be with a woman that does things behind my back? Isn't that the question?"


Just in case anyone who read that post was just as confused as I was, I still have a hard time making sense of the part in red. I have no idea what that part was supposed to mean in the slightest.

I think he was referring to what I said in my post that ended up being too late. :(

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Well I spell checked it and let me tell you, it edited the words, but it kept telling me to fix the sentence structure. It does more of a reminder thing then actually edit it. But when I edited it where it told me to, it left it alone. Here's what I translated it to

"Cat...this is the same female...and I thought it was ok to go see her. She called me once and I called her back 3 times...not text. She said we are breaking up, so what do you mean “let her be the one to contact me.” Besides, when she does call, I should tell her that I sent her a text telling her “ I don't think I'm going to be able to pick you up”....So I didn't plan to do that. Besides, why shouldn't she feel bad? None of this would have happened if she hadn't done what she did behind my back. Do I want to be with a woman that does things behind my back? Isn’t that the question?"


Just in case anyone who read that post was just as confused as I was, I still have a hard time making sense of the part in red. I have no idea what that part was supposed to mean in the slightest.

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Sounds like too much work for me.I will stick with my often bad spelling and sentence structure and punctuation and hope that someone the message and the wonderful advice :rolleyes: wins out! Thanks hon!

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Sounds like too much work for me.I will stick with my often bad spelling and sentence structure and punctuation and hope that someone the message and the wonderful advice :rolleyes: wins out! Thanks hon!

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You're welcome. :) My main problem is, if I can't read it. If I understand what someone is saying without proper punctuation and sentence structure, then it's no big deal. I'm guilty of it too at times. But when it's unreadable, that's whenyou know someone needs to go back to elementary school to re-learn this crap.

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you're welcome. :) My main problem is, if i can't read it. If I understand what someone is saying without proper punctuation and sentence structure, then it's no big deal. I'm guilty of it too at times. But when it's unreadable, that's whenyou know someone needs to go back to elementary school to re-learn this crap.

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Can't rep you.I tried but I agree,
You are a pretty smart cookie for a 19 yr.old :cool:

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Can't rep ya.I tried but I agree,
You are a pretty smart cookie for a 19 yr.old :cool:

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Thank you! :) I try. Someone in this world has to have common sense, I might as well be one of them.

Cat, that was an amazing post! It really inspired to me and gave me a lot of strength to stay strong. I will answer the questions tomorrow. Good night and thank you!