Yeah this is the second or third dream I have had,I have not had many at all.
This one was him coming back telling me what a mistake he made (dream on ;-))
The first dream was a dream of us having a passionate night together , this
Happened the week before it did actually occur in August.

Ok I should do some work now, and escape from dreamland.

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yeah this is the second or third dream i have had,i have not had many at all.
this one was him coming back telling me what a mistake he made (dream on ;-))
The first dream was a dream of us having a passionate night together , this
happened the week before it did actually occur in August.

Ok i should do some work now, and escape from dreamland.

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I'm no dream analyser or dream meaning expert but maybe it was your brain trying to cope with the loss by giving your emotions a false hope.

I read 2 books at the beginning of the breakup, 'The Breakup Buddy' and 'How To Mend A Broken Heart'. I found Kelly Clarkson's album 'Breakaway' a great help, the songs on that are great. I hope this helps people )

To be honest the real step forward came when I deleted his mobile no almost 2 months ago, if I still had that in my phone it would drive me nuts! Luckily I don't know it, I could get it, as I have an address book for work contacts, but I haven't been tempted at all. Otherwise I may still have been in the trap of sending the odd text and then beating myself up because he didn't reply.

We need to think up something really exciting for us on Sundays!

I have not got to the point of deleting number(well I know it off by heart so no point ;-)) I also cannot delete all the beautiful emails he wrote.

I must try to get that album.
I like the coldplay x+y one also

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to be honest the real step forward came when I deleted his mobile no almost 2 months ago, if I still had that in my phone it would drive me nuts! Luckily I don't know it, I could get it, as I have an address book for work contacts, but I haven't been tempted at all. Otherwise I may still have been in the trap of sending the odd text and then beating myself up because he didn't reply.

We need to think up something really exciting for us on Sundays!

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I deleted her number after 1 week, but the problem is, I still remember it but I fight the urge to dial it or text it and I have not done so for over 6 weeks and I'm on week 10 now, so doing well.

I can't see myself contacting her now.. She wanted me out of her life, so I am giving her that. If she really wanted to speak to me, she would call or text or e-mail..

She has not, so she obviously does not want to give me the time of day! So be it, there has to be someone out there who would appreciate me for who I am.. Someone a bit more mature who has been through what she is going through..

As for Sundays, I have a suggestion.. Cake Baking LOL:D

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i have not got to the point of deleting number(well i know it off by heart so no point ;-)) I also cannot delete all the beautiful emails he wrote.

I must try to get that album.
i like the coldplay x+y one also

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The x+y album is good but it can be a little depressing and if you listen to the words of coldplay music, it usually has something to do with broken love.. It is touching though..

Oh, it is also good to delete the number to prevent drunk dialling. When I go out to friends and have a couple of beers, I leave my phone at home just in case. I am a mature person but when people drink they can do silly things they regret. I am not a heavy drinker but I know from speaking to others that if you are under the influence, you may be tempted to drunk dial... NOT GOOD!

At least if it is deleted, you will think twice even if you remember it.

Yeah all the songs are nearly about broken love.. guess that's why I like it thses days.

Also I'm a big fan of ben harper these days.

Lets talk about music instead ;-)

I have always been a big Beatles fan, I think they were the foundation for most rock bands out there today and a true inspiration!

Yeah let's bake cakes and listen to music instead he he !

Any updates?

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Updates?

Well, I have made a lot of progress since I posted this thread. Actually, thanks for asking... I don't talk much about it these days, both in my life or on here at AMHD. It took a long time to get through it all and a lot of grieving, a lot of hard work to enable me to heal. It is now over 9 months since the breakup and of course no contact with her for over 8 months. I don't expect any either, we have both moved on, well I can't speak for her but I can speak for me and hand on heart I have completely let go and that was the hardest part, letting go. You just have to do that though, its tough but it is essential to enable you to move on.

I am at a stage now where I feel ready for another relationship although I am not really in any hurry to get into another one just yet. Being single again has opened up a window of opportunity. I learned a lot from this breakup, a lot about relationships, a lot about myself too and actually in a way, I was fortunate. These things often happen for a reason.

You never really think like that in the beginning though.

You won't feel bad forever, you will remember as I do, but you will heal in time. Take it from me, I am the sensitive type of guy and I got through it and I promise you that you will too.

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Take it from me, I am the sensitive type of guy and I got through it and I promise you that you will too.

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I'm glad you said this because I am also very sensitive person when it come her. When I met ex I took things very slow with her because I knew deep down inside if she dumped me I would be devistated for a long, long time. With all the break ups she did with me, this is still very hurtful for me. I figure with all of them it would get easier when she broke up again. Apparently not.

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I'm glad you said this because I am also very sensitive person when it come her. When I met ex I took things very slow with her because I knew deep down inside if she dumped me I would be devistated for a long, long time. With all the break ups she did with me, this is still very hurtful for me. I figure with all of them it would get easier when she broke up again. Apparently not.

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Well, I think with these kind of things, however hard, it is always important to step back and look at the bigger picture. When you put this into perspective there are many things in this world happening on a daily basis which far outweigh the problem of a broken heart. It does hurt and it is a big thing in your life and how you feel is important but in the big scheme of things, it is not as bad as you perceive it to be. Obviously at the beginning, it is the only thing you think about.

That is understandable.

Life must go on though, time does not wait for a broken heart but time will give the greatest medicine to heal a broken heart.

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emopunk7 agrees: So glad to hear this! But since Nov. you stopped talking about it on AMHD?

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I stopped asking questions specifically on that thread in late November yes, because I had been given all the advice and support anyone could give and I wanted to act on that advice.

Actually, I did create a couple of other threads but these were general questions although had some relation to how I was feeling at the time. When you stop asking questions about your situation on AMHD, generally I believe it is an indication of positive progress. Coming to AMHD was one of the best things I did and I wish I did it initially 2 months prior to that but I was so confused and upset that asking for advice on a site like this was the last thing on my mind.

I don't really think I need to talk about it anymore because I am for the most part emotionally well again. I am happy to discuss it but there is no point on dwelling on the past.

I guarantee you that you will feel that way in time too about your situation.

Thank you Geoff! You are amazing! I can't wait to hear about your next love!

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Thank you Geoff! You are amazing! I can't wait to hear about your next love!

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LOL

Thanks..

I never thought of myself as amazing though.

My next love? No I can't wait for that one either but I'm going to have to.

Geoff, I just went back and reread all of this. Even though I knew about this and remember being a part of this thread going back and rereading it really hit home just how far you've come. Ironically enough I think the turning point can actually be pinpointed. November 6, 2006. The posts you wrote on that date were for the most part positive and the "ah ha" moments seemed to come on in those posts. Just reading it I could see a change taking place. As much as I was joking in Emo's thread the reality is if you want a role model or you want to get some strength then look no further then this thread. This man is living proof that you can come back and you can come back better then ever and make real life positive changes.

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I never thought of myself as amazing though.

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This might be the first time I disagree with you. This thread, and you road to where you are now is nothing short of amazing. Don't be bashfull now, you've earned the right to celebrate your success in this journey.