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  • Aug 16, 2009, 11:40 AM
    talaniman
    You will be able to make better decisions based on facts, and not just hurt feelings. You will be able to deal with yourself better, and what life throws at you, a be able to see your options, and opportunities, and make the right adjustments to achieve your own happiness..
  • Aug 16, 2009, 08:30 PM
    carlson92

    Oh... nice answer. Thumbs up. :)

    Oh yea when I share with my friends that I'm undergoing nc, most of them were clueless what I'm talking about, I mean about nc.

    Is this nc rule new? Cause est. 7/10 people don't know about NC. Lol.
  • Aug 16, 2009, 10:21 PM
    Xemnas
    It is your own fault.Take it from me a guy just like you,that you got to listen what your girl want bro remember always listen and you r relationship will always last.depending on the girl
  • Aug 17, 2009, 05:47 AM
    talaniman

    Its another way of saying leave her alone, and its been around forever, as that's what most people do after a break up.

    The term might be newer, but the actions, of the plan, are not.
  • Aug 17, 2009, 08:06 AM
    carlson92

    Hmm. OK. Yea that's true. But most people around me still like bother their ex or wtvr and to me is like they annoy them. So my thought is I'm ahead by going total nc. Lol.
  • Aug 17, 2009, 08:24 AM
    talaniman

    Yes you are for sure.
  • Aug 17, 2009, 08:31 AM
    carlson92

    And I suppose is a good thing for me to focus 100% on my new girl huh. :)
  • Aug 17, 2009, 08:59 AM
    talaniman

    Your catching on quick, my friend. If you have a new girl, why even worry about the old one? Who has that kind of time on their hands?
  • Aug 17, 2009, 08:46 PM
    carlson92

    True... yeah you're right. Just like erm... miss the old one abit that's all, but I think it will eventually be fine.
  • Aug 18, 2009, 07:03 AM
    talaniman

    Sure you will, as it's a big job just paying attention to the one you have, and figuring her out. How are you going to know if she is worth all the emotional trouble she will cause you? Or you will cause her. You have to pay attention to make an informed decision. You may as well have fun doing it. There is no hurry you know.
  • Aug 18, 2009, 07:08 AM
    carlson92

    You know tal, get to thin of it, you're right, no hurry. :)

    But I think I just want to avoid any pain from my ex by still going NC, you know. Cause 2 reasons a person wants to communicate, one is to gain pleasure and the other is to avoid pain. Tell me if I'm wrong. So to be on the safe side I avoid it.

    Currently, my ex is sort of confused maybe, with her status showing which it can't slip off my eyes. But oh well, I suppose that I should just remain NC. I do worry abit about her though.
  • Aug 18, 2009, 08:40 AM
    talaniman

    EX?? I meant go slow with the new girl, the ex is the past, leave that alone, but deal with the present.

    Confession- I worried about my exes too, wacky females!! That can't stop you though, from moving forward. She will figure it out in time.
  • Aug 18, 2009, 09:19 AM
    carlson92

    What I meant was like you say not in a hurry with the current. But you know just emphasizing about my actions towards the ex.

    For me I just hope my ex is doing fine. So what if the ex initiate contact?
  • Aug 18, 2009, 09:37 AM
    kctiger

    You decide then if you want to talk to her or not. You have a girl right now so quit worrying about your ex. You are way too wrapped up in your ex to have another girl around in my opinion. Just enjoy and let the cards fall where they may.
  • Aug 18, 2009, 07:39 PM
    carlson92

    Yea kc. Maybe. I think I should give another couple of weeks before going deep with my current one.
  • Aug 18, 2009, 07:57 PM
    friend4u178

    You should wait until your over your Ex , otherwise the new girl just becomes the Rebound.

    Not fair on her!!
  • Aug 18, 2009, 09:13 PM
    Xemnas
    Relationships always end just remember there is always somebody else out there for you trust me
  • Aug 18, 2009, 11:17 PM
    carlson92

    Quote:

    You should wait until your over your Ex , otherwise the new girl just becomes the Rebound.

    Not fair on her!!
    Yeah get to think of it, its unfair.

    Quote:

    Relationships always end just remember there is always somebody else out there for you trust me
    I know xemnas. :)
  • Sep 3, 2009, 08:01 AM
    carlson92

    Hey I'm back. Ok so my school just ended summer holiday yesterday. Started school today. And my ex's birthday is tomorrow, 4th sept. I asked my mom what should I do, cause my sis and I got her a present. My mom told me to wish her happy birthday but allow my sis to pass her the presents. Is that a good idea? I need asap response! Quite short notice I know. Lol.
  • Sep 3, 2009, 08:03 AM
    kctiger

    I wouldn't have anything to do with her birthday, period. No presents, no saying, "Happy Birthday," no nothing... that's just me though. Donate the gift to charity or something.

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