Hey,
You seem to be too nervous.. try and relax. Give it time. You might feel sorry about it if you move out. Allow yourself to fall in love, if you fall out of it you will know it too. Don't worry about commitment. It will come with time. Don't get angry with him if he tells you one thing now and does the opposite later on-because he too is going through the same thing!
If he introduces you to his family, welcome it, allow yourself to meet them as you would any of your relations.. don't try to calculate or form any for of opinion. To avoid getting tense and nervous, you might think of taking some music, art .
Have a good time, wish you all the best
Take care

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You can't believe everything I say, but you can believe what I do... I have no idea what that means...

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It means his actions speak louder than his words, and it seems to me you should pay attention to see if they both match.

I think its okay to like a person, but at a distance that's comfortable to you, so you can keep the boundaries between friends, and lovers, clearly defined to save confusion, and conflict later.

Then you can relax, and enjoy yourself, without the emotional conflicts later.

Take it from someone who has enjoyed the company, and pleasure of many females, setting your own boundaries of good behavior lets you, and everyone around you, relax and enjoy the time you spend together.

Okay, I am a semi retired party animal. :cool: :D :)

I know it seems like you've come a long way from when you first posted, but I think you could use more time. Like you said, you're not ready for a relationship at this point.

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Originally Posted by roxypox

1. I'm not that afraid of committing as I have been
2. I'm not ready for a commitment right now
3. I have too much going on to be someones GF

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Why rush into something?

Therefore, just go with the flow of things. You don't need to analyze all the signs and details. You don't need to "figure" out his intentions or "what you want". Just keep moving forward with your life and see where it leads.

Instead of "figuring out where to end up", just keep walking and "see where you end up". You don't need additional stress or pressures in life. Just focus on yourself and building a life for yourself.

You can continue to talk to this guy and see where that leads, but you don't need to force yourself to figure it out. If things were going to work out, it will happen naturally.

Roxy, I may be totally wrong but there are a couple of points in your update that have me concerned.

It almost seems like I am reading the news coverage of a football game and I am not sure who is playing on which side.

What you have talked about him saying almost sounds like he is playing some sort of game of his own and I think you are sensing it too when you talk about "losing" if you love him or not.

From what you have written (especially in the latest update), he seems intent on getting you to admit how you feel about him. Almost like he has something riding on what your answer is. I wonder how long it would be before your toothbrush was evicted if you professed undying love.

I really hope I am wrong. :(

Tal: I'm taking that advice to heart! You're right I should relax. Also after I posted this I started thinking that I feel that I'm at a comfortable distance we have right now, for me personally and he's the one who has issues with it. I'm fine with the way things are... until he starts testing where I stand, which makes me a wee bit stressed cause I really don't want things to change either... I like things just fine the way they are now. But I do think you're right... and I do think we need to redraw the boundaries.

BTW I'm glad you're only semi-retired, Mr. Party animal! ;)

I Wish:I should relax more, and I usually do... I just feel that I sometimes pick up his stress lvl and worries and kind of feel that and run with it...


CAT: I also feel that he is very keen on getting me to admit to it, and I find it kind of... I don't know what word I should use... but annoying?

Thank you guys though, for your input, time and advice. I really appreciate it!