You're just in denial still, you'll get over it buddy. I am just as stubborn as you are but you have to accept the facts. Stop yourself now. Be strong. We are here for you, just vent out what you have to say to her here.
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You're just in denial still, you'll get over it buddy. I am just as stubborn as you are but you have to accept the facts. Stop yourself now. Be strong. We are here for you, just vent out what you have to say to her here.
I am a denial. But knowing me I'm not the type of person that would just go out with anyone or date just for fun I look for commitment and love and she was my first love and first girl I have been with and the only girl I have been with. I don't know man. I believe in fighting for love till the very end and it ll be worth it if things work out you know? Is that a false idea or perception? I get how its time to move on and all so basically I understand that too but I feel like I want to fight I don't know why? Its just not me I don't give up easily.. but I need some self respect and all but does that all matter? I'm so confused ugh...Quote:
Originally Posted by heartbroke
You will gain that self respect by hanging up your coat and knowing that the war is over. I am just like you, I don't go out with chicks for the sake of being with someone I look for committed people. And fighting for love until the very end is OK but you have to know when to give up because you will hurt yourself the more you keep fighting with wounds. That is where you will get yourself respect, is knowing yourself and when to stop. Saving your dignity and keeping yourself together. This is your first love, you are still young.
Yah I think so too, if you keep fighting and hoping for them to return their love one day and realize how you were always there for them I don't know if that's true or not. At some point I do have to think about myself. She made a decision for herself and so should I? But dewd for some reason I see all the reasons to let it go but at the same time I don't want to and I want to fight. How do you know when the war is over? How do you know its not just the battle? I'm so confused...Quote:
Originally Posted by heartbroke
The war is over when you are the only one standing on the battlefield and no more reasons to be fighting.
What if there is a reason. The reason is you still love that person?Quote:
Originally Posted by heartbroke
And they don't love you back?. there is no more reason. You can fight all you want but the outcome will be the same, She still won't love you in the end and you will be emotionally and physically tired.
Oh okay. Is that really the case? No matter what you do the outcome will be the same? Can u try to convince someone to love you? Will they change their mind afterwards after thinking about it and stuff?Quote:
Originally Posted by heartbroke
You cannot convince someone to love you. Fighting for someone shows desperation, a weakness. Which is unattractive to a woman. Because you are hurt and you are fighting, you are showing all these qualities. So yes the outcome will most likely be the same. They can think about it all they want. PEOPLE in general always want to be right and never admit fault. If she changes her mind she will have admit she was wrong and put the control of the relationship in your hands, which nobody likes to do.
yah oh okay I understand that I think I see it now but there are some stuff I'm confused about though still. Ima think about it first den ill ask you here if you can help me. Thanks though I see things clearer now =PQuote:
Originally Posted by heartbroke
Let me know what you are confused about, then write it down here.
How are you doing with your situation heartbroke? What's going on I'm just wondering, anything new? How you feeling? O_O
I'm still dealing with it. Im sad that she's not here for me and that's the reality of it is that "shes not here". If she loved me like she claimed she did I wouldn't being going through this right now. Id be over at her house doing what we do. I can only move forward and look towards the next day. She's constantly in my mind but I try my best to push through. Yeah I loved her, but she doesn't love me anymore. I may have feelings for her still but she has none for me, so why should I waste my energy onto someone that doesn't recipricate.
Oh yah I'm in the same boat. Do you think its possible to win someone's love back?
You you can but its going to be twice as hard as you will have to work past what initially broke you up. I deal by keeping myself busy and surrounding myself with positive people
If you really love her are you going to try to win her love back? Basically the way I see it that this time you ll have to do it but next time she might be the one trying to win your love back right? That's how a couple works I think. When the other lose interest the other fights and than next time the other might be the one trying to keep you together. Neh?Quote:
Originally Posted by heartbroke
As more time goes by, it doesn't feel right anymore and I just can't be around her but there are some times when I'm willing to do anything for her and some when I don't feel like doing anything. Has anyone ever had that feeling before?
It's called being confused. The only way to end it is to take the source of your confusion out of your life, meaning taking her out of your life. You need to start doing things for yourself and not doing them with the intentions of trying to win her back or prove something to her.
You must be selfish and proceed forward with the mindset that it's all about you now, not her. This is a perfect time to get into a new hobby or take a road-trip somewhere with your friends. Join a gym or some sort of club. Do anything to keep you distracted and thinking of her.
Yes... it is part of learning to rid yourself of the emotional detachment you have with her. These feelings will come and go, change over time, and eventually subside. Just manage them as best as you can, and do what others have said, find a way to make YOURSELF happy! You deserve it!Quote:
Originally Posted by none12345
I want to try to win her love back and prove to her how much I love her though but I don't know if it's a good idea or not. That's the things, I know everyone tells me its not and it makes sense to me what everyone has told me but I don't know if that's how I want to do thing you know what I mean? Truth is I ll probably just end up with more pain than I am already in. But I guess you will never know till you try? I want to fight for my love for her but there are some days I just don't feel like doing that anymore...Quote:
Originally Posted by jmw0713
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