I struggled for over 10 months. The best way? Plan the next few months of what you want to do

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Originally Posted by ImTotallyLost

Seems from a couple of break-up experiences I've seen around here that hope is a highly addictive and toxic drug. Amazing highs. Bottom rock lows.

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Yep :-(

The only high that hope gives us is our own mind playing tricks on reality. It is a painful experience. Thus, cutting all contact eliminates the existence of such a thing...

Dear JohnD212,
I just read this whole post from start to finish and I must say you've made a lot of progress in the last 15 days. Good work, I was practicing NC as well until she texted me on xmas day saying merry xmas n asking how I was doing. I replied a short text without revealing too much at the same emotional level of hers wishing her family and her a merry xmas... I have to say that small exchange essentially had me thinking of her through most of xmas and boxing day, and it didn't feel good.

Keep up the good work mate, we'll get through this! Keep on posting, It helps knowing how everyone else is coping. Gives me strength!

Regards,
Expat2009

Hi JohnD, was just wondering how you are holding up with your NC? Hope you are keeping strong!

One way to help with no contact is to stop and think why you broke up. It will be a big reason, don't be fooled into thinking it was that last silly fight you had that caused it. People leave serious relationships for serious reasons. It may she wants marriage-u don't, you go out too much, you want kids they don't. Well we could go on but you get the idea. So it is important that you identify the reason you broke up before making contact and then ask yourself "I'm I willing to change that?" You see even if you get back together that big reason is going to come up again. If your sure you won't be changing anything soon then don't waste your time or your exs by contacting them.