Van, you're 100% right. I guess the only thing that matters is that one way or another we get there. No matter the path we choose, we all get there, one way or another. I'm just glad I found this site. With out it, I would probably still be banging my head against the wall. Everyone on this site is fantastic. I have no clue where I would be with out you all.

I already feel better. It helps to know that other people are going through the same type of mess that I am and are learning the same lessons that I have in the past year. No matter what we will all get through it.

Actually, don't show her anything.
Show yourself.

You are the man. Word up.

Simpsonb, your post is about 1 year too late. Thanks for telling me to grow some balls! I think I felt them in the shower this morning, so I guess that's progress. As far as me being the dumbest bloke on the planet... that's your opinion, and I don't care what you think about me.

Yea, I was a pushover and a wimp. She didn't treat me well, left, and crushed my confidence and emotions. I sacrificed and gave too much of myself to a relationship that I really wanted to work. I know this now and will not let that happen again.

A relationship is a two way street, but somewhere along the line I didn't follow that anymore. Everyone learns from their experiences and mistakes. I can't put a value on the lessons that I've learned from this experience. Everything I've learn and went through has made me more wise and a better man all around.

As for the snake, why should he have been the victim for something he had nothing to do with? I was taking care off him before she ran of with her most recent ex. He was like the innocent child involved in a divorce. I would have never flushed him down the toilet. I should have probably given him back to her family, but my mindset at the time was different. As far as her stuff, I really didn't have any. The only thing I still have that she gave me is my football jersey, and I'm not getting rid of that! Ed Reed is tha man!

@vanheart: No! You tha man! I've been keeping up on your thread. Great job on the progress you have made!

Thanks buddy.