Another problem is I am on his families cellphone plan so they will be needed contact so I can return it
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Another problem is I am on his families cellphone plan so they will be needed contact so I can return it
Right now you need to concentrate on yourself. Do something nice for yourself, go out to dinner, get a manicure, get your hair done, you know, girl stuff. :)
Sweetie, really, you will feel better one day, you really will. I can't say that enough, because I know it's true. I also know that it doesn't feel like it right now, in fact, you feel like you'll never be happy again. You will, trust us, just give it some time.
The cell phone can be sent through mail, or just drop it off in their mailbox, you don't have to see anyone if you don't want to, in fact, I recommend that you don't see him or his family, it will just make things harder on you.
All of the little issues can be handled in a timely manner. I have a really good idea for you to deal with your hurt (I've been doing this myself)
Get your calendar you can write on. You're goal is October 11th. Circle it. Now, in each day, you should write a few words describing how you feel. Gradually you will see that your feelings have changed and you will feel better. It really does help.
A journal really does help as well, you need to vent your frustration, your pain and sorrows. You've lost someone that you held dear but you have to understand that the same pain is going through the other person's mind as well. They just know how to hide it, and that's what you need to do. Never let the other person see signs of weakness in you, you will only resent yourself later in life when looking back at it.
And don't hate this person, they are giving you a good learning experience, and as much pain and loneliness you may feel, there is someone out there... and they will find you.
But what if he wants to get back with me.. because we have broken up before.. actually a year ago and got back together and everything was OK. I really do see a future with him just maybe not right now
Ough oh...
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Key word is "NOT RIGHT NOW".
I like to think that people can change, that souls can reconnect at the appropriate times and that sometimes you may find the right person for you, but at the wrong time in your life. My good friend hunter's parents broke up when they were dating a while ago, found each other after 6 years, fell in love again and have been married now for 20+ years.
You're at a hard time right now (as am I... I'm 20 years old) everyone around you in our age groups is going through changes, finding ourselves, who we want to be, etc. Change is not a bad thing at all, it's just a stepping stone to find out what you really want out of life.
Do you want to sit here and be miserable for months on end over this break up, or do you want to make your life the best it can be, maybe find someone that makes your life that much better?
I've stated that you should set the NC rule for 1 month. There are issues in the relationship that need to be worked out, and you can't HONESTLY go back in to a relationship without taking a step back and figuring out for yourself what went wrong, what you like/dislike and if it's even worth it for you.
Patience is golden, and when going through a break up it is the hardest thing for us to deal with. You may listen to our advice, or you may not. We do know what we are talking about (I'm going through the same situation right this moment) and I know that I can be happy with or without this person in my life. You need to know you're a good person, you deserve to be happy, and right now this guy isn't making you happy and instead is making you rather upset?
Take some time for yourself, you're going to be perfectly fine in time.
Thank you, I think a lot has to do with me being lonely and being so close to him because I have moved a lot in the past few years and I haven't been able to get a best friend and I don't really have anyone to talk to
Well you have us to talk to now :)
Well h0llister... that's what we are here for... for you, you can "talk" with us at any time dear.
I know thank you lol he will regret this when he is done school and realize he lost a really good girl.. all the girls he knows just wants him for his money and are super princesses and what not and I'm not like that and he always liked that about me and he will regret it
Good for you , your sounding a bit more positive already :)Quote:
Originally Posted by h0llister
I know webroke up before I know I can do it but it sucks because I do love him a lot I think I will always have feelings for him because he helped me in a very hard time in my life
Like I said, you don't have to hate him. Admire him for who he is as a person, not as your boyfriend.
I'll be your best friend okay? Heck, I'll be everyone's best friend!
Hooray!
Lol thank you I'm 19 by the way
Awesome. My best friends is near my age! Hahaha
Ok I better get out of here while you 2 get to know each other LOL ;)
Where r u from?
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Originally Posted by h0llister
You know dear... sometimes a person gets so wrapped up in the person that they are with that they cut themselves off from the rest of the world. They make their whole world... THAT person. Yes, I know that when you love someone that they mean a LOT to you but this is an example hon... always keep your friends or make new ones. This helps make you less vulnerable emotionally and you don't find yourself alone.
So, maybe you should now prioritize this... go find some new friends. :) :)
Stringer
I'm from California, born and raised!
California sunshine FTW!
Nice I wish I had a beach I live in ontario canada.. nothing to exciting here
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