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  • Nov 20, 2007, 11:13 PM
    adam hall
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by schwartzyms
    Hi, my girlfriend and I had been dating for almost 2 months when she left me for another guy and i still love her and i want her back but it hurts so much to see her go.

    Would anybody be able to give me some sdvice on how to get over the break-up and move on?

    Thanks

    You know what man, you shouldn't anticipate getting her back soon. But be sure in the long run-if you rearly care. It won't be easy! the fact that she left for someone else implies that she found something in that guy that fasinate her that is sadly larking in you. You need to know what it is learn it and master it better than that person. Evidence this chartacter to her indirectly. For know forget your pain and just be friends with her care for her and she will learn how to fall in love with you again. SURELY YOU CAN DO THAT,A HALF WIT CAN
  • Nov 20, 2007, 11:15 PM
    adam hall
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by adam hall
    you know what man, you shouldn't anticipate getting her back soon. But be sure in the long run-if you rearly care. it won't be easy!.the fact that she left for someone else implies that she found something in that guy that fasinate her that is sadly larking in you. You need to know what it is learn it and master it better than that person. evidence this chartacter to her indirectly. For know forget your pain and just be friends with her care for her and she will learn how to fall in love with you again. SURELY YOU CAN DO THAT,A HALF WIT CAN

    Good luck
  • Nov 21, 2007, 05:29 AM
    schwartzyms
    Yea, but I'm done with, I'm putting my feelings aside, and I just have to live my life because with everything that's happened, I'm just not intrested anymore, and yea I still care for her, but I must learn to forget those feelings
  • Nov 21, 2007, 06:32 AM
    schwartzyms
    I'm so porud of myself this morning, I woke up at 7:00 to see that I had a text message from her which she sent at 6:30 and I'm so proud of myself that I haven't answerd :)
  • Nov 21, 2007, 06:40 AM
    jen phoenix
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by schwartzyms
    Hi, my girlfriend and I had been dating for almost 2 months when she left me for another guy and i still love her and i want her back but it hurts so much to see her go.

    Would anybody be able to give me some sdvice on how to get over the break-up and move on?

    Thanks

    Just leave her.. trust in the saying that if you love a person,let her go.if she comes back to you then you're destined and for each other..
  • Nov 21, 2007, 06:42 AM
    schwartzyms
    Yea, good point. I've let her go already and I have just started NC with her this morning, and I'm proud of myself cause I haven't answered her text message :).. like the urge to answer her just like dissappeared over night
  • Nov 21, 2007, 04:37 PM
    friend4u178
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by schwartzyms
    yea, good point. I've let her go already and i have just started NC with her this morning, and im proud of myself cause i havent answered her text message :).. like the urge to answer her just like dissappeared over night

    Good for you , and you should be proud. Now don't spoil it by contacting when you get the urge.
  • Nov 21, 2007, 04:41 PM
    schwartzyms
    Oh man did I get the urge like 10 minutes ago, but I'm happy because instead of contacting her I went out to the living room and hung out with my sister... im working really hard at this
  • Nov 22, 2007, 08:29 AM
    schwartzyms
    I have a problem :(... I think I'm starting to like someone else, and the girl I'm starting to like, is very close to my ex
  • Nov 22, 2007, 08:31 AM
    schwartzyms
    But the one I'm starting to like lives like 2-3 miles from me, not over 1000
  • Nov 22, 2007, 08:43 AM
    Miss Sparkle
    I broke up with a long term boyfriend, I cried all the time, if a song came on the radio that reminded me of him id get so upset. But I do believe that everything happens for a reason and I met someone new, maybe it was fate or something that I had to go through the break up to find that special person. I would advise you to fill your day with things to do, if your mind is always occupied then you won't have time to think about this girl xxxx
  • Nov 22, 2007, 09:36 AM
    Matteus
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Miss Sparkle
    I broke up with a long term boyfriend, i cried all the time, if a song came on the radio that reminded me of him id get so upset. But i do belive that everything happens for a reason and i met someone new, maybe it was fate or something that i had to go through the break up to find that special person. I would advise u to fill your day with things to do, if your mind is always occupied then you wont have time to think about this girl xxxx

    I don't believe in fate. Im someone who believes in "we, humans, are made to make our fate the way we want. it all depends the way we act". As for you, maybe your boyfriend was the bad one, maybe you were the bad one, or maybe there was no bad side, but your lifes were just apart and they crossed just for a couple of minutes in this 1 hour long life.
  • Nov 22, 2007, 11:50 AM
    schwartzyms
    I have the same problem with some songs...


    The girl I'm starting to like now likes one of my friends, but he doesn't know that she likes him and she has had sex before, "from what ive been told from my ex."

    Any tips on how to get her to notice me?

    I'm not that great with girls that I'm not really close to, me and my ex were very close that's wh yi was able to ask her out, I just don't know how to ask people that aren't that close to me out
  • Nov 22, 2007, 11:50 AM
    schwartzyms
    Oh and, happy thanksgiving everyone!!
  • Nov 22, 2007, 12:21 PM
    Matteus
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by schwartzyms
    i have the same problem with some songs....


    The girl im starting to like now likes one of my friends, but he doesnt know that she likes him and she has had sex before, "from what ive been told from my ex."

    Any tips on how to get her to notice me?

    I'm not that great with girls that im not really close to, me and my ex were very close thats wh yi was able to ask her out, i just dont know how to ask people that arent that close to me out

    To whom are you crying yet ? Be a man, for god's sake! Again, you go to someone who likes someone else! What the hell are you doing? Wasn't the first hurt just enough??
  • Nov 22, 2007, 12:55 PM
    schwartzyms
    I don't know if I like her yet that's the thing, she's a really nice and helpful personm

    Yea I guess it is a stupid thing for me to do, and yea I really don't want to go through the first hurt again

    I think my ex finally got the picture that I'm doing "NC" she texted me a lot yesterday but today I haven't gotten one which I'm sort of happy about and sort of sad about
  • Nov 22, 2007, 01:11 PM
    Matteus
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by schwartzyms
    i dont know if i like her yet thats the thing, shes a really nice and helpful personm

    yea i guess it is a stupid thing for me to do, and yea i really dont want to go through the first hurt again

    i think my ex finally got the picture that im doing "NC" she texted me alot yesterday but today i havent gotten one which im sort of happy about and sort of sad about

    Do you hate this ex of yours? Or you still like her to the point to consider her to be with you again?? Why are you going NC? You may think she calls you, because as someone here said "she cares about you, but as a friend". COMMON!

    Read this, and look at my posts about this topic "NC, friends or Friendly". There are a lot of things to be debatet, but as I still don't see any debate, I still believe it's the best way to act with an ex. Stop being childish, disrespecting her, because she left you. She may had her own reasons for leaving you. And the way you talk to us, that reason was because you were a wuss to her.

    https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relati...tml#post728128
  • Nov 22, 2007, 01:18 PM
    schwartzyms
    I'm starting to understand here,I don't have feelings for my ex in the way of my wanting to be with her again anymore, I just want to be friends, and I don't hate her, I never did, I don't mean to dissrespect her, and how am I being a wuss?
  • Nov 22, 2007, 01:23 PM
    Matteus
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by schwartzyms
    im starting to understand here,i dont have feelings for my ex in the way of my wanting to be with her again anymore, i just want to be friends, and i dont hate her, i never did, i dont mean to dissrespect her, and how am i being a wuss?

    Don't be offended if I called you wuss. You were, in some point during the relation. We all have been. And we all have been dumped. Is the moment when we don't take care anymore of our masculity, how to act around the woman, how to be the male, keep the attraction, the spark, etc. I was in your shoes. It just doesn't work that way. Lets make a question here. How is it possible, that every guy here, who acted just like me and you, has been dumped from their ex??
  • Nov 22, 2007, 01:27 PM
    schwartzyms
    I'm not offended by "wuss" at all, I was just wanted to know...

    Yea, probably like you said in your other post that you told me to read we lost the "spark", or we just became unaware of our needs and just focused on her which I've realized is a very dumb and pathetic thing to do, to stop caring about yourself is just like overdosing on painkillers or something, just without the deathly consequences

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