I apologize for my caviler attitude. I don't like paying 89 cents for 4 chocolate covered waffers but I'm not criticizing you. I'm listening to the advice, soaking it in, and taking up new hobbies as suggested. I like tals comments about dating to get to know cool people and not always for romance. Kind of like buying bananas to look at instead of eat, but I can get used to that.

Frogger's not hard to play. One person is the alligator and can only move right to left and the other person is frogger and can move in any direction (as long as they're hopping) but backwards. Time limit and music are optional.

Just a heads up. I am currently nc with three women and one of thems birthday is coming up. We are Facebook friends. Do I post happy birthday on her wall?

No contact. The answer is always no contact when the idea is to stop all contact.

You should be getting the idea with three on going instances. The answer is always no contact.

Imagine that they don't even exsist.

So you are ending three relationships , working on another with a shy girl, and looking to start dating a more diverse cross section of women?

Is this correct?

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just a heads up. i am currently nc with three women and one of thems birthday is coming up. we are facebook friends. do i post happy birthday on her wall?

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No Contact includes NOT looking at her Facebook page. Even if she doesn't know about it, you are keeping contact with her at the front of your mind and not allowing yourself to heal and move on.

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No contact. The answer is always no contact when the idea is to stop all contact.

You should be getting the idea with three on going instances. The answer is always no contact.

Imagine that they don't even exsist.

So you are ending three relationships , working on another with a shy girl, and looking to start dating a more diverse cross section of women?

Is this correct?

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the confusing thing about nc is I don't know when nc ends? I don't know if I 'am' nc with three women or 'were' nc with three women? I've already been healed so does the song and dance continue? A little happy birthday shows no hard feelings right? My birthday is around the corner and I would want a happy birthday from them.

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No Contact includes NOT looking at her Facebook page. Even if she doesn't know about it, you are keeping contact with her at the front of your mind and not allowing yourself to heal and move on.

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if I don't look at their Facebook page, how am I going to 'randomly' bump into them in public?

Still trying to manipulate the situation to fit your own agenda. That's what I see. The sign that you are healed is what you do about other areas in your life and you would be to busy doing your own thing to accidentally bump into them.

Saying your healed, and actually being healed are to different things.

If you still need attention from them, then you stick with NC until you don't or your mindset has changed. As of now it has not, but you think you can take the advice you have been given and juggle three woman on your string, for your own purposes.

Where is the balance?

If you aren't sure if NC is over or not. Then it's not.

Be sure beyond a shadow of a doubt. When you are that confidant. Mark the calendar and continue nc for two years and repeat the process.

I've been dating this girl that has been acting really weird. Today, I told her on the phone that I needed to head over to the library. On my way there she jumps out of a tree, hugs me, and wants to get all pda with me. What is someone in their 20s doing hiding up in a tree? This is the second time in the past two weeks this has happened, but she may have been hiding behind a bush or something the first time.

She is so weird. Is this behavior inspired by a book or movie or something? I don't get where this is coming from? Is this supposed to be romantic or exciting? I hate these surprises. I told her to stop jumping out of them trees because I'm starting to get fed up with her, but I don't think it registered with her. One more tree and she will be searching for someone else.

What happened here?

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relati...rk-485070.html

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relati...on-478473.html

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relati...me-476186.html

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relati...al-471218.html

I think you need help. You sound like you're making this up. Either that or your dating a monkey.

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What happened here?

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relati...rk-485070.html

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relati...on-478473.html

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relati...me-476186.html

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relati...al-471218.html

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This is about sal. She is hard to communicate with and the more comfortable she gets around me the weirder she is. I don't think she's dated much. She over analyzes everything and her weird clothing is now matching her behavior.

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this is about sal. she is hard to communicate with and the more comfortable she gets around me the weirder she is. i dont think shes dated much. she over analyzes everything and her weird clothing is now matching her behavior.

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Your perfect match... congratulations!:)

What the , lol

Maybe she is taking something. That sounds strange to me.
A couple of weeks ago she was shy and introverted. What happened?

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Maybe she is taking something. That sounds strange to me.
A couple of weeks ago she was shy and introverted. What happened?

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She's drinking Red Bull and taking vitamins. :rolleyes:

Sounds to me this girls got a sense of fun, wheres yours gone, I think its really fun that she would do such a thing, she's obviously playful and adventurous.

If she sat around twiddling her thumbs you would complain about that saying she is boring she's got no sense of fun or adventure.

Wheres your sense of adventure and fun. Seems no matter what a girl does with or for you its never going to be enough or how you're expecting her to be.

Methinks its something to do with forever dating girls on the rebound, perhaps yes. Could just be..

Chill out have some fun.

Is this the shy one,
Or mk1 mk2 mk3 miss rebound 2010

If you think she's weird, why are you still dating her? Sounds like a bad match.

Let someone else appreciate her weirdness!

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Sounds to me this girls got a sense of fun, wheres yours gone, I think its really fun that she would do such a thing, shes obviously playful and adventurous.

If she sat around twiddling her thumbs you would complain about that saying she is boring shes got no sense of fun or adventure.

Wheres your sense of adventure and fun. Seems no matter what a girl does with or for you its never going to be enough or how youre expecting her to be.

Methinks its something to do with forever dating girls on the rebound, perhaps yes. could just be..

Chill out have some fun.

Is this the shy one,
or mk1 mk2 mk3 miss rebound 2010

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Have to spread some rep, but you're on it, positiveperent

Starting to understand why you find out who your dealing with before you give them a title?

Its totally wrong of you to name her weird, for all you know it is you that's weird you do seem to be obsessing over one girl after another.

Why not take them at face value instead you seem to be hell bent on finding fault with one then another then another.

Relax be yourself you've nothing to prove, or if you do its in your own mind, if you can't find anything good to say about these rebounds of yours then say nothing,

What gives you the right to call her weird, or say she dresses weird, she was OK for you last weekend when you posted your shy girl shy boy thread.

Seems she's found her confidence too, maybe that's what's narked you...

Try looking at yourself before you pass judgement on someone,.

You'll probably find your answer then...

1 girls weird or whatever, yes believable,
2 girls not up to scratch suspect its you..
3 girls not up to your ideals, then its not them its you.

can you see the pattern...

Are you still conducting these liasions according to "trus" philosophy??

If so then maybe that's where you're going about it wrong, or skewed. Be you and let the girls you date be themselves at same time, don't look for faults, unless you're looking inward to yourself.

I feel sorry for all these young girls, being as good as innocently baited hooked reeled in and thrown back out...

I think you need to leave the ladies alone for a while. Work on yourself.
You are a hard person to please, you need to explore why that is so.

Have to spread rep. Homegirl I agree with that totally, he does need to give up with the girls for now at least, he's leaving a trail of heart break behind him, and to me that's basically cruel, these girls haven't done him any harm...

Kyle you need to sit up and be counted..

I think Kyle would like everyone to think he is a heart breaker. I don't believe it.

I also don't believe this story about a girl jumping out of a tree.
He is seeking attention. Reading all his other threads tend to make me believe he's not being truthful about these relationships.

I know I will get a lot of disagrees, but this is how I feel. I'm not feeding the troll anymore.

Kyle the only thing that's going to grow is your nose LOL. No other area...

My 4 year old would say you a porkin piers LOL..

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Kyle the only thing thats going to grow is your nose LOL. no other area...

my 4 year old would say you a porkin piers LOL..

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That's hiliarious... LOL:D

What have I done to deserve this attack? So a grown woman climbing up a tree, waiting for me to pass, and then jumping out of the tree to surprise me isn't a little strange? That's normal behavior? I'm not looking for faults. I just recognize weird behavior. Also, just because sal jumps out of trees doesn't make her extraverted. She is still as shy as before. Just becoming weirder.

This isn't about image. This is about character. I don't care if people label me as a heart breaker. I want advice that will help me improve my relationships and my character.

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what have i done to deserve this attack? so a grown woman climbing up a tree, waiting for me to pass, and then jumping out of the tree to surprise me isnt a little strange? thats normal behavior? im not looking for faults. i just recognize weird behavior. also, just because sal jumps out of trees doesnt make her extraverted. she is still as shy as before. just becoming weirder.

this isnt about image. this is about character. i dont care if people label me as a heart breaker. i want advice that will help me improve my relationships and my character.

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Stop making up stories and be a grown up. Trust me.. you're no heartbreaker.

Kyle this girls behaviour wasn't weird your reaction to it was, Im a lot older than both you and this girl and yet if I pass a swing park Ill go right on over to the swings and swing away, and I also get my husband to push me, its called letting your inner child out to play, its also not taking oneself too seriously.

Its good to be child or act young and carefree again. Its not weird, Its fun.
Fun is a vital ingredient in living a happy life, lose the fun element and you'll be old before your time..

We advised you last week and the week before that, and Ill do same now, go NC, and get over the hurt you're harbouring, deal with the issues you're trying to camouflage behind a blasé front.

If you don't you'll have mere meaningless and empty liasions because it won't disappear, it will mutate,or morph into something more harmful and toxic that you could believe possible.

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what have i done to deserve this attack? so a grown woman climbing up a tree, waiting for me to pass, and then jumping out of the tree to surprise me isnt a little strange? thats normal behavior? im not looking for faults. i just recognize weird behavior. also, just because sal jumps out of trees doesnt make her extraverted. she is still as shy as before. just becoming weirder.

this isnt about image. this is about character. i dont care if people label me as a heart breaker. i want advice that will help me improve my relationships and my character.

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You have been given good sound advice on relationships and character,that is evident in several of your threads.

Why you have chosen to ignore it,only you know the answer to that one.

So she's a little different,I like different,if she's not for you,move on.

Huge bravo!

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you have been given good sound advice on relationships and charactor,that is evident in several of your threads.

why you have chosen to ignore it,only you know the answer to that one.

so shes a little differant,i like differant,if shes not for you,move on.

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Do you really look like your avatar picture? If you do, how about meeting for coffee? Do you jump out of trees?

If you think this girl is too weird for you. Leave her alone. It's that simple.
You're not a teenager. You don't need to be with just anybody to be with somebody.
You have gone through how many girls in a few months? There is always something wrong with them.
Just chill for a while.

Kyle: you're a Tart, no more no less I hope you're being sensible about protection, obviously you think you're something special, maybe to your Mom if no one else you are but its not clever making remarks such as those in the above. Post.

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Kyle: youre a Tart, no more no less I hope youre being sensible about protection, obviously you think youre something special, maybe to your Mom if no one else you are but its not clever making remarks such as those in the above. post.


Just to show you that I know my stuff, heres my real photo, I play on the swings , Im not weird, Im fun loving though .

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The difference is you look like you play on swings. I would expect that after meeting you. I want sal to open up and communicate. I didn't realize she would express herself with bizarre behavior. I feel misled.

Its kind of like being invited to a bbq with the impression that there will be chicken and steak and instead I end up getting garden burgers. I feel misled. With you, I know I know I'm getting garden burgers.

Actually with me you'd be the garden burgers, whatever they are.

You haven't been misled you only met this girl a week ago, and already your speaking of her in derogatory terms.

Also with me Id have thrown you in the pool by now along with my sons aged 13 and 4..

So long Kyle you're obviously some kind of lost cause, I and many here have tried many ways to help you and given you sound and sensible advice, you fail to take that advice, so on your own head be it, you're the architect of you're own downfall.

Enjoy the negative you're surely going to be left with toodaloo...

You may think you're clever, my how blind can you be. Enjoy your games in the playground...

I actually wonder if that's where you are. Because you're not mature enough to be an adult, and not sophisticated enough to be a man about town.

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the difference is you look like you play on swings. i would expect that after meeting you. i want Sal to open up and communicate. i didn't realize she would express herself with bizarre behavior. i feel misled.

its kind of like being invited to a bbq with the impression that there will be chicken and steak and instead i end up getting garden burgers. i feel misled. with you, i know i know im getting garden burgers.

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What do you mean you felt misled. How long have you known her?
Maybe she feels misled. You wanted her to open up and communicate and when she does, you're criticizing. What nerve!
She is not to your liking then move on, but don't make her feel like there is something wrong with her.
You need to stop hopping from pillar to post looking for Miss Perfect. She does not exist anymore than Mr. Perfect does.

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Work on your character, and stop trying to have a relationship. That's the whole point of dating. Your going about this backward, your jumping from one girl to another expecting to build something over night with a perfect stranger, that you find faults with I might add. Just as the ladies here are rejecting your notions of love, and romance, so will any female you judge, as evident by your past 3 failures, and blame it on them.

Realizing your own responsibility in these failures is all about character, that you have so far failed to show, which is at the heart of your problem, because they can't all be flawed as you say. If you had character, you could enjoy all of them, without getting carried away by this relationship idea that you put before all else, that is common sense.

Put your character ahead of your needs, and you will learn a lot about yourself, and be able to make adjustments, and better decisions, based on the facts, and not your feelings that are telling you to start a relationship, instead of taking the time to let it develop.

Until you work on your character, your relationship attempts will fail, and you will miss the very enjoyable part of a relationship, making female friends, not for love and romance, but because they are fun.

Kyle.. stay on the porch with the puppies. You "ain't" ready to run with the big dogs.

Everyone wants to gang up on the popular kid. I role with the big dogs all the time.