Ask Me Help Desk - Did I do the right thing?

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Originally Posted by Kitkat22

Behave yourself. You have people here who care about you! You need to start caring about yourself.:(

I did, then I stopped, now I do again

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Originally Posted by xXxEmOxXxPrInCeSsxXx

I did, then I stopped, now I do again

Little girl you are funny when you don't intend to be:D

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Originally Posted by Kitkat22

Little girl you are funny when you don't intend to be:D

Or you are just laughing at my time-share pain

Haha

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Originally Posted by xXxEmOxXxPrInCeSsxXx

or you are just laughing at my time-share pain

haha

NO I promise, but you do say things that crack me up!

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Originally Posted by Kitkat22

NO I promise, but you do say things that crack me up!

I'm glad.

Most people say I have a cynical sense of humor. I talk about such horrid things as if they're nothing and make understatements

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Originally Posted by xXxEmOxXxPrInCeSsxXx

I'm glad.

most people say I have a cynical sense of humor. I talk about such horrid things as if they're nothing and make understatements

Talk about positive things, like your love of music and your love of writing.

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Originally Posted by Kitkat22

Talk about positive things, like your love of music and your love of writing.

I love writing... It makes me feel powerful and in control.

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Originally Posted by xXxEmOxXxPrInCeSsxXx

I love writing.... It makes me feel powerful and in control.

It can have that effect. I should do it more often so I don't blow up at my boyfriend when I get emotional. Poor guy has taken a lot of crap from me. Writing helps me see what I'm feeling. Because when I'm writing it I let everything out, after I read it the next day or something, I see things differently. Keep at it if you can, it's good for you. :)

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Originally Posted by ohsohappy

It can have that effect. I should do it more often so i don't blow up at my boyfriend when i get emotional. Poor guy has taken a lot of crap from me. Writing helps me see what i'm feeling. Because when I'm writing it I let everything out, after i read it the next day or something, i see things differently. Keep at it if you can, it's good for you. :)

Yeah, I'm reading some of my old old stuff... wow. Such twisted agony I was in

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Originally Posted by xXxEmOxXxPrInCeSsxXx

yeah, I'm reading some of my old old stuff.... wow. such twisted agony I was in

It's hard to believe that you were that person once. It's a strange feeling. But keep writing, you need to. :)

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Originally Posted by ohsohappy

it's hard to believe that you were that person once. it's a strange feeling. but keep writing, you need to. :)

I found tons of old things, so sad, twisted. Some full of love and hope

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Originally Posted by xXxEmOxXxPrInCeSsxXx

I found tons of old things, so sad, twisted. some full of love and hope

It's a good way of venting emop. ;)

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Originally Posted by Kitkat22

It's a good way of venting emop. ;)

It is

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Originally Posted by xXxEmOxXxPrInCeSsxXx

It is

Be proud of your writing. It's part of you!:)

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Originally Posted by Kitkat22

Be proud of your writing. It's part of you!:)

I'm proud of a few. Such as "Capitalists" and "Dreamless Isolation"

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Originally Posted by xXxEmOxXxPrInCeSsxXx

I'm proud of a few. such as "Capitalists" and "Dreamless Isolation"

You should enter them in an essay contest or let WG look at them. She's great and she could tell you where you might get them published!

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Originally Posted by Kitkat22

You should enter them in an essay contest or let WG look at them. She's great and she could tell you where you might get them published!

"Capitalists" was going to be published. But Dad didn't let me send in my Artist's proof

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Originally Posted by xXxEmOxXxPrInCeSsxXx

"Capitalists" was going to be published. But Dad didn't let me send in my Artist's proof

Sorry EMOP!:(

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Originally Posted by Kitkat22

Sorry EMOP!:(

Would you like to read it?

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Originally Posted by xXxEmOxXxPrInCeSsxXx

Would you like to read it?

Sure... PM it to me and I would love to read it! Or if your allowed post it here!

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Originally Posted by Kitkat22

Sure...PM it to me and I would love to read it! Or if your allowed post it here!

I PMd you

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Originally Posted by xXxEmOxXxPrInCeSsxXx

I PMd you

I pmd you back. Don't waste that talent! You are a very good writer. I mean you write like someone much older. God gave you that gift. He gave you a talent! Don't you waste it!:)

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Originally Posted by Kitkat22

I pmd you back. Don't waste that talent! You are a very good writer. I mean you write like someone much older. God gave you that gift. He gave you a talent! Don't you waste it!:)

Thank you Kity, If you would like to check out my other works, I have a blog that hasn't been updated for a long while, but has a bunch of my works on it

I can tell by your posts that you have an excellent writing style.

When I was in my early teens, my tween hood as I call it, I loved to write. I was into that gothic/rock/punk scene. We used to go to shows, and I even wrote some lyrics for my friends band. It was a great out let. I also suffered from depression.

When I got into my later teens and early twenties, I had this block, I just couldn't write anymore, couldn't express myself, didn't have the patience to write how I was feeling. I turned to film making. I loved it, it was the best outlet ever. If I can ever figure out how to turn VHS into DVD, then I will months def put it on you tube and share with you Emop.

I hope you get stuff figured out. It can't be fun going through what you are going through. Just take it one day at a time. But don't forget to have fun. Or else you'll end up like me, 26 in job that you hate, and by yourself! Life is so short, you, you, cliché, I know. But there is so much truth in it. Before you know high school will be over, and the real world begins.

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Originally Posted by Aurora_Bell

I can tell by your posts that you have an excellent writing style.

When I was in my early teens, my tween hood as I call it, I loved to write. I was into that gothic/rock/punk scene. We used to go to shows, and I even wrote some lyrics for my friends band. It was a great out let. I also suffered from depression.

When I got into my later teens and early twenties, I had this block, I just couldn't write anymore, couldn't express myself, didn't have the patience to write how I was feeling. I turned to film making. I loved it, it was the best outlet ever. If I can ever figure out how to turn VHS into DVD, then I will mos def put it on you tube and share with you Emop.

I hope you get stuff figured out. It can't be fun going through what you are going through. Just take it one day at a time. But don't forget to have fun. Or else you'll end up like me, 26 in job that you hate, and by yourself! Life is so short, ya, ya, cliché, I know. But there is so much truth in it. before you know high school will be over, and the real world begins.

Thanks Aurora

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Originally Posted by xXxEmOxXxPrInCeSsxXx

Thanks Aurora

Keep up the writing! :):)

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Originally Posted by Kitkat22

Keep up the writing!!:):)

I will

He just dumped me...

My boyfriend just dumped me. He thought I was cheating on him when I wasn't. I just don't know what to do..

I am sorry Emop. Break ups are hard to get through sometimes, but have you asked yourself if it was right or if it is best that it is over? I am not trying to give you bad advice or anything. Have you talked to him about it or was there no reasoning with him?

My condolences EP. So what were his reasons behind this? How did the talk go? I am curious as to his side of the story.

He just dumped me over Facebook, I didn't even get to talk to him. I hang out with a lot of guys because they are easier to get along with than girls. Someone told him I was cheating with my one friend and he believed them. He just said "I love you very much but you are using me and Nick can have you I don't care"

I cheated once many months ago, no one knew about that and that was the first time we dated.

But he thinks I'm out having sex with guys all the time when I'm not.

I'm hysterical at the moment. I just don't know what to do. I can't talk to him or anything because he won't answer the phone.

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Originally Posted by adam_89

I am sorry Emop. Break ups are hard to get through sometimes, but have you asked yourself if it was right or if it is best that it is over? I am not trying to give you bad advice or anything. Have you talked to him about it or was there no reasoning with him?

I thought that it was a great relationship. I don't know if it's best that it's over I honestly can't think straight right now

He isn't thinking straight right now either. Give him some time to cool off and think about things rationally. Yes, the waiting sucks but what both of you need is a long, deep breath. He obviously is still swirling over the previous cheating incident and that isn't easy to forget.

Take some alone time to think about things and know we are here to help you with every thing that you need. He sounds a bit childish the way he did things. Now I don't know how old you are but he did seem childish in the way he said things and especially the way he broke up with you.

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Originally Posted by adam_89

Take some alone time to think about things and know we are here to help you with every thing that you need. He sounds a bit childish the way he did things. Now I don't know how old you are but he did seem childish in the way he said things and especially the way he broke up with you.

Almost 18

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Originally Posted by kctiger

He isn't thinking straight right now either. Give him some time to cool off and think about things rationally. Yes, the waiting sucks but what both of you need is a long, deep breath. He obviously is still swirling over the previous cheating incident and that isn't easy to forget.

He didn't know about it

Emop, has he at any time asked you about the rumors what he was told or is he just now bringing them up?

Quite frankly, (and this is colored by a friend of my children's going through close to the same thing) I am tired of people believing rumors instead of discussing and finding out the truth. It is almost like they are looking for an excuse to get upset and dump the person.

Were there any other things going on in the relationship that were red flags? I think there are probably more things going on than maybe you know about.

If he hasn't wanted to talk to you and work things out, then I say go NC and delete ALL of his contact information including FaceBook, MySpace, phone number, and twitter. It is up to him to get in touch with you. If it is a mistake, it happened on his end of the FaceBook communication. He should be the one to clear it up.

Advice that doesn't change is to get out and get active. Meet people and do new things. This time, give yourself time to fully heal before you get involved with someone new. You have come a long way from the person who first joined us months ago. Don't let this cause you to go back to old habits.

We're here for you. :)

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Originally Posted by Cat1864

Emop, has he at any time asked you about the rumors what what he was told or is he just now bringing them up?

Quite frankly, (and this is colored by a friend of my children's going through close to the same thing) I am tired of people believing rumors instead of discussing and finding out the truth. It is almost like they are looking for an excuse to get upset and dump the person.

Were there any other things going on in the relationship that were red flags? I think there are probably more things going on than maybe you know about.

If he hasn't wanted to talk to you and work things out, then I say go NC and delete ALL of his contact information including FaceBook, MySpace, phone number, and twitter. It is up to him to get in touch with you. If it is a mistake, it happened on his end of the FaceBook communication. He should be the one to clear it up.

Advice that doesn't change is to get out and get active. Meet people and do new things. This time, give yourself time to fully heal before you get involved with someone new. You have come a long way from the person who first joined us months ago. Don't let this cause you to go back to old habits.

We're here for you. :)

Thanks Cat
He didn't ask me about it at all.
He was saying before that he wasn't good enough for me..

Wasn't it you that said you were thinking you were to good for him anyway? Sorry if I am wrong.

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Originally Posted by adam_89

Wasn't it you that said you were thinking you were to good for him anyway? Sorry if I am wrong.

No he said I was too good for him

The fact he dumped you on someone else's word with no input from you is a red flag. A pretty big one I think.
It shows no trust or respect for you. These are essential parts of a relationship.

NC may be what you need to do while you take the time to consider if this is something you can overcome. I'm afraid obstacles of this magnitude may never stop haunting you.

If he acted out of anger to something he was told by a third party , or acted because he was hurt and didn't think , and he really cares for you, he will be doing everything possible to find you and apologize after some cooling off and time to think.

If not then it shows shallowness , thoughtlessness , and lack of trust and respect. Or other issues he may have. But to handle it like he did should be a cause of great concern.

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Originally Posted by xXxEmOxXxPrInCeSsxXx

no he said I was too good for him

I am starting to believe that is code for: I don't think I belong in this relationship. Kick me to the curb so that I can blame you for the break up instead of taking responsibility for my own actions and emotions.

I guess he has proved that he doesn't deserve you.