I think Tal's giving you some tough love. Like a slap in the face!
We just want to see some more positive!
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I think Tal's giving you some tough love. Like a slap in the face!
We just want to see some more positive!
Yah I need a good slap in the face to come back to reality. Hey guys I don't get how come in the movies, they always have a happy ending but in real life it doesn't work that way? O_O
Because that's Hollywood. Smoke and Mirrors. That is a Fantasy Reality that someone dreamed up in their head about how THEY think life should be. It never really mimics real life. The only movies that remotely mimic real life are documentaries and films that based themselves only on real life fact. Then again, the director always has to put his own personal touch on things.
Guys today was weird. I don't know how I feel today. Its more like I feel nothing at all. Today after school I hanged out with some of the guys on the floor that I lived on with the same the same class. It was pretty nice to hang out people after being home alone all the time. I still feel kind of lonely though. I don't have much friends here, I moved here to study for school but school is almost over and I'm going home back to my city during the summer. Can't wait to hang out with my old buddies and family. I feel like I need a new group of friends. My own group that I can hang out all the time. Anyone have any thoughts or ideas?
Well... get away from the computer and go out!! Talk to people. You can do this. You got to be a friend to have one!
Sigh... I just woke up today from dreaming of having the wonderful sex me and my ex had >_< now I miss her... but I know I can't go back to her or want her back anymore for the horrible way she has treated me but I still have feelings for her every once in a while
Rub one out and carry on with your day... :cool:
Guess I don't really have a choice do I? LolQuote:
Originally Posted by kctiger
There are always choices. You can keep dreaming after you wake up, or you can wake up, and have a nice day.
That's two choices, there are others.
I guess keep dreaming doesn't get you no where. It doesn't mean its going to happen in real life so I guess there's no point in that. I guess the best thing to do is wake up and have a nice day. Does it mean subconscioiusly that I still have feelings with this girl since I dreamed about her?Quote:
Originally Posted by talaniman
I still have dreams about the puppy/dog I had growing up, that doesn't mean that I get to have my puppy back.
Yes, I miss him, but just because I miss him doesn't mean that I get to have him back.
Yep yep do you still want him back?
Dreams are dreams. I don't try and interpret them, seriously, I would have a more productive time pondering the meaning of life...
Eventually you get to a point to where those dreams don't happen at all, or at least, they don't happen often.
You are missing sex, my friend. That's all.Quote:
Originally Posted by none12345
Don't romanticize that everything about your sex was wonderful, therefore, no other female in the world will **** like her. You'll get **** again
Its just with her it feels so special. I don't know if I can ever feel close enough to do those stuff with anyone else or I want to...Quote:
Originally Posted by Survivor07
PHHHHHTTTT!! You will trust me.
It seems to me that what you miss is actually 'having someone'.. having a 'girlfriend'...
I think maybe you need to be more comfortable being alone - its not a bad thing you know... believe me, I have been finding out first hand. I have been able to do WHATEVER I want... embrace the freedom dude!. I think after some time you will realise what I am talking about.
My driving force is this - to improve myself each day as much as possible, in turn making me more and more desirable... at the end of the day, you can never stop learning and improving... get out there, try it.. you will feel good!
Yah I thought about what you said and I think I understand what you're trying to say now and it makes perfect sense. By improving yourself and make yourself more desirable so people will like you and it ll be so much better in the next relationship. Maybe that's how I feel like is I actually miss having someone but it's that I actually miss having her not just anyone, is that the same thing?Quote:
Originally Posted by Arzy99
It's both. You miss having someone and you miss her. NC is to get over missing her. Getting out and doing new things with people is for you.Quote:
Originally Posted by none12345
You don't just improve yourself to make yourself desirable for other people to like you.
You do it for you. You want to like yourself. Be comfortable in your own skin, so you can tolerate being alone... eventually enjoy it and not feel anxious about having to have someone else to fulfill all your needs. You take care of you first!
Yah right now I feel kind of scared of the future and where it will lead me. Before when I was with her I had everything planned out but plans are going to change now and I feel kind of lost now. It feels weird being alone and I'm not used to it. I've been with her for so long and its being a while that I felt alone and single. I got to admit the freedom does feel kind of good but from time to time I still miss her. I don't feel that comfortable being alone but I'm doing my own stuff now like videogames, homework, playing my guitar and I'm even catching up with my family and friends and I have more time for them. Any ideas on how I can feel more comfortable being alone without any fear of the future?Quote:
Originally Posted by Arzy99
Turn that fear that you have of the future into excitement for the future.
They are both identical reactions/emotions only utilized by our bodies and minds in different ways and for different reasons. If you take control of your fear and make it work for you, instead of against you, in a short period it will turn in to excitement and you will be able to do anything.
Think of it this way... many people fear jumping out of the plane the first time they go skydiving. Heck many people won't go skydiving at all because of fear. However, once that first jump is made, they always want to do it again. They love it. They almost crave it. They get excited when they plan another jump. That is the effect of turning your fear into excitement. Once you do, the world looks like a totally different place!
I don't fear jumping out of the an airplane, I fear about how hard that ground is if the guy who couldn't pass 10th grade didn't pack my chute the right way.
Wow... I just read my thread from the beginning to now and I've realized I've come a long with the support of you guys. There is still a long way for me to go and I'm taking each day at a time =P
You will be amazed at how much you learn and grow during this time... just amazed.
It feels good to be free now =P and get out of the house XD ^_^ though I still think of my ex sometimes~ I learned how beautiful life is. Its sunny outside =P and the cold depressing winter is going away ^___^ I don't know why but I feel good today O_O
YES!! I think he's got it!
I'm so glad to hear you say you feel good today : )
This time of year everyone is a little depressed, waiting for spring and summer (I guess depending on where you live).
I'm glad you got out of the house!! Do more of that. A Change of scenery does wonders.
Yah I'm going to get out of the house more and enoy the beautfiul weather =P. I still get sad when I think of everything me and my ex have been through but I'm also exicited of the future now and what it will bring =P There will always be the what could have been thought in my head if me and my ex were together though.Quote:
Originally Posted by Survivor07
Guys I'm still curious what my ex is up to with this "new guy" I have this urge to check her Facebook to see if there's any pictures >_< I have been controlling my urges so far and I haven't been on Facebook for like ages... I want to see if her status does still say she's in a relationship with me or not >_<
Don't do it, it hurts, I found out either way... why do you think I went back into this stage? I just took like 3 steps back and spent $200 on a guitar set to ease my mind. I thought you deleted her from your Facebook?
Checking on Facebook is a known detriment to healing. If you want to feel like total sh*t, then be my guest, but take it from me, nothing good comes from checking that stuff.
Curiosity killed the cat... don't do it. Ignorance is bliss my friend.
Well at that time I didn't want to go onto Facebook just to delete her >_< because I know I would go onto her profile so I told myself I won't go on Facebook all together... oh you got a guitar? =P NICEQuote:
Originally Posted by heartbroke
Yup I ended up not doing it and didn't check it YET but its really tempting and I know it ll be horrible once I do so I'm trying my best to not check it and keep myself busy
Step away from the computer and visit some friends.
I don't have much friends here because I'm new to this city and I'm just staying here temporarily but ill be going home soon and I can't wait to catch up with them =PQuote:
Originally Posted by jmw0713
Well, then take a walk/drive around the city and go to a coffe shop or something where some girls hang out and try talking to them. Do something to get your mind off your ex.
She is probably having sex with him... the thought of that drives me crazy. >_< I don't know why but I still having feelings for her
Who gives a f*** what she is doing? She could be doing naked cart-wheels on the White House lawn, and it still doesn't matter. DO NOT waste your time worrying about how she is living her life. You have better things to attend to.
Don't go looking for answers about what she is doing. It will not help you. It will actually hurt a lot more to actually know for a fact what she is up to than just wondering.
I found out the hard way. I asked my ex what she did with her new BF. She told me and let me tell you... it hurt more than anything in my life. It definitely set me back and extended the time I needed to get over her. The anger and animosity I felt toward her was there, but the actual heart ache and pain I felt was so much worse than anything.
Don't do it! Get distracted and resist the stupid Facebook/MySpace trap!
Okies I'm kind of bored right now and there's nothing to do but yah last time I did that is saw a pic of them holding hands >_<Quote:
Originally Posted by jmw0713
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